Smorgasbord Blog Sitting Special – I Spy by author D. G. Kaye

I am delighted to welcome author D.G. Kaye (Debby Gies) to the Blog Sitting team and Debby has been very much a part of Smorgasbord since I began posting in 2013. Hugely supportive of all those that she follows, her presence is a constant reminder that virtual friendships are as real as those that are face to face.

D.G. Kaye is a nonfiction memoir writer who writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. She writes to inspire others by sharing her stories about events she’s encountered, and the lessons that come along with them.

In her post today Debby explores how the innocent childhood game of I Spy that we would play in the car on long journeys has become a monster…..

I Spy – Is There Any Privacy Left Anywhere?

Remember that little game we used to play when we were kids in the car to keep us entertained on a long drive—I spy? Back in the day, it was a game. In today’s world, it’s not so much a game as it has become an invasion of privacy.

I spy, is all around us, from governments knowing every detail about us, down to the color of our underwear when going through airport security. Public places abound with cameras—our every move caught on tape. Be careful not to be caught picking your nose in public, for surely someone is watching.

All these cameras were initially intended for theft surveillance, but have been taken to some extremes to a point where there are no sacred private moments left, and that can be held as evidence somewhere—should the need arise.

If it isn’t a store or a public place photographing our existence, we have to be leery about someone randomly snapping a photo of us with their cell phone, whether for pure entertainment or with bad intentions to be used for evil purposes. We must also be aware of photos snapped to copy our banking pin numbers when making a purchase. I wish I knew why every good technological invention is transformed into yet another means for evil-doers to seek out new avenues of deception.

How about those pop-up ads we see that are tailored specifically to our interests when surfing the web? I’m sure many of you can identify. I spend half of my waking hours on the computer. My writing, reading, social media and blog take up the better part of my days, and sometimes when I want an escape from everything, I may visit some of my favorite shopping sites and browse. The next time I go back to visit one of my personal social pages, I find a sidebar or pop-up ad displaying the exact items I previously looked at on a shopping site. Who is this? Who the heck now surveys my personal shopping habits? Where do we draw the line? There’s nowhere left to hide!

I feel this technological era has surpassed its scope of being informative and graduated into the extremely invasive. I can’t help but think about those microchips they can place in dog’s collars to track them in case they stray and get lost. Even cars have them for theft purposes to find a signal to locate a stolen car. We’re not alone when we think we are.

I’m wondering how long will it be before our governments will want to insert microchips into us to make their tracking methods on us more simplified.

© 2017

P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

About D.G. Kaye’s latest book P.S. I Forgive You.

“I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

One of the recent reviews for the book.

P.S. I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy is a journal of a rollercoaster of emotions displayed by this author as she deals with a narcissistic mother. This is journey through life to survive without love and care from a mother who was incapable of loving anyone but herself.

The author opens her heart to the reader as her emotions pour out. She does all she can to make amends but to no avail and is forced to forgive her unfeeling mother and repair the damage done to her and her siblings.

This book is a catharsis to anyone who has had to live with this kind of parent. It helps them deal with the myriad emotions that continue to bubble up inside and threaten to suffocate oneself.

My heart goes out to this child and her siblings who somehow managed to be strong and resilient even though they were never taught the essentials of parenting and the love that is needed to bring up a child. The author has shown remarkable strength and courage to face head-on the torments that continually threaten her very soul. I recommend this book to anyone who has yet to feel closure from an unhealthy relationship.

Read all the reviews and download the book: P.S. I Forgive You


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Connect to D.G. Kaye through her website.

My thanks to Debby for sharing this post in by absence… It should give us all pause for thought as we divulge the intimate details of our lives in grown up I Spy…. Please share the message. thanks Sally

77 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Blog Sitting Special – I Spy by author D. G. Kaye

    • Thanks Robbie. And, that doesn’t surprise me. I know the US government is now thinking of asking visitors at borders to hand over their cell phones and passwords to see their contacts and types of posting. Where will this end. 😦

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  3. You nailed it ! Especially the pop up ads- you accidentally click on sriracha throat lozenges and as you said, it appears on every page you surf thereafter. How tech could help me would be if it could tell me where the “really good place” is that I put something that I didn’t want to lose.

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  4. we don’t even have identity cards in the UK yet though today the papers were speculating about controlling immigration might mean the idea is back on the agenda. So while I think the UK has more cameras per head than most places at least we don’t have to prove who we are. Governments of all hues would love to play the terrorism card to get us to cave but I actually think that might push us too far. A thoughtful post Debbie

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  5. I think we all should re-read George Orwell’s 1984. I read it years ago and thought, sci fi/fantasy. Then I read it again a couple of years ago and got filled with dread. We are not that far behind Orwell’s ‘fanciful’ imagination. It’s scary. Thanks for the great post, Debby, and for sharing it, Sally. We should be scared …. very scared….

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    • Thanks Sal. It’s my absolute pleasure to be a part of your sitting team. You know I’m a great watch dog, lol. I keep this page tab open and pop in, in between doing other things. Now go back to your vacation! Lol. ❤ ❤

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      • Do what I say, not what I did, huh Debby? Welcome back, btw.

        GREAT post – you handled the topic dispassionately, which I doubt I could have done. As for that ad tracking software — disgustingly intrusive. Even when I regularly clear cookies and rarely shop online, they find me. It must be effective to have proliferated so rapidly.

        I *never* click on those ads and boycott their products. If we ALL would do this, perhaps at least that portion of the trend toward ever-increasing surveillance would stop.
        (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
        ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
        “It takes a village to transform a world!”

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      • Thanks for the warm welcome Madelyn. Yup, as you can see I’m buzzin’ around already but I was thrilled to fill in for Sal today.
        And like you, I never click those ads, duh, if I wanted those items I would have purchased them on the original site, lol. Great to see you here Madelyn. 🙂 xo

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  7. Microchips for tracking humans were on the table here in the U.S. nearly 30 years ago; perhaps even longer. I learned about them in 1991 from an ex-Green Beret colonel who was adamantly against their use.

    Thank you for this post, Debby. It’s wise to keep abreast of all the power elite’s shenanigans. Hopefully, we can balance that with not falling prey to fear. We are what we think. The powers that be know this, and their fearmongering is currently attempting a stranglehold. My hope is that we see it for what it is and turn the tables on the miscreants… 💕

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      • You’re right, Deb; and it’s happening all over the States here. Congress is on a week’s break, and people are showing up at their reps’ local offices and demanding change. Peaceful demonstrations are still occurring almost daily across the country, and a massive day of protest re: health care is scheduled for Saturday. The people have awakened! 🙂 ❤

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  8. Surveillance is indeed a slippery slope, as we’ve seen. I looked up a purse online for kicks and it was $98K. Now I can’t tell you how many $98K purse ads pop up in my email sidebar. You make a valid and scary point in your post: where does it end? I feel like I’m being watched even when I’m in the car, when I’m in an elevator, when I’m anywhere in public. And I keep hearing, too, about the ability of hackers to get into a person’s webcam and invade their home sanctum. It’s wrong.

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    • Wow Amy, a purse for 98K? Lol, how could that even be? Full of diamonds maybe? Lol. But seriously, you are right, and I too have heard that scary stuff about inside webcams. I keep mine covered except for when I’m on Skype! It’s a cruel world sometimes. 😦

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  9. I hope you are still enjoying Part 2 of your vacation even though you are doing a fantastic job of filling in for Sally here. I know the larger our presence online, the more info is gathered about us. With you, I ask how/why I see so many ads on Facebook tailored to my interests, especially writing sites? Hmmmm. . . Technology has made our world more Orwellian, as several commenters have pointed out. 😀

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    • Thanks Marian. Part 2 begins next Wednesday. I’m home for a week in between and was thrilled to be one of Sally’s blogsitters for her time out, she does so much for others. And yes, technology is often scary no matter how much good. Thanks for dropping by. 🙂

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  10. Not sure I’ll get around to writing it, but I’ve done some notes as a precursor to an outline for a sci-fi novel about the not-so-distant future when people are chipped like we now do for pets. It might be something that happens at birth and have some consequences for people who try to disable or remove them. Kind of PKD, Orwell type book. Since I am no longer so pessimistic and cynical, I’ll have to figure out this all gets resolved for the best.

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  11. I’m afraid there’s no going back unless we completely change our way of life and I can’t see many people keen to do it. The online thing can be quite fine, because as writers and in my case with my translations, I sometimes search for items I have no interest at all in, due to the subject of one of the books, and then I’m advertised the said items for weeks on end. What a waste of their time! I read an article recently stating that it was not 1984 we were living, but rather Aldous Huxley’s ‘Brave New World’ and I think they might be right.

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    • Thanks for chiming in Olga. Funny you should mention Brave New World because I just finished rereading 1984 and was thinking that perhaps I should have been reading Brave New World again. I will pull it out of the archives. 🙂

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  13. Reblogged this on TINA FRISCO and commented:
    “I feel this technological era has surpassed its scope of being informative and graduated into the extremely invasive.” This quote from Debby Gies’ article on Sally Cronin’s Blog Sitting Special is utterly gripping. Entitled I Spy, Debby’s post discusses the many means by which our privacy is not only compromised, but also encroached upon.

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  14. Arrgh…I detest those pop up ads which make me regret browsing anywhere these days. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if microchipping became a thing of the future…and not too distant either, awful as it sounds. On a happier note, I have many happy memories of playing I-Spy 🙂 Great post Deb! And hope you’re enjoying a lovely break Sally! Hugs to you both 🙂 ❤ xoxo

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  15. Debby, you have done it again! You have written on a subject to make us think and wonder. I really don’t think that micro chipping is very far off, if not already being done.Our identity prints are all over the internet the moment we do a search. The Pop-Up ads don’t bother me that much because I know it’s a marketing scheme that I can ignore. But what bothers and worries me more is what else do they know about me? Sally, you are a WordPress treasure xxx<3

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