Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – When I Am Not Enough…by Tina Frisco

Welcome to the series where you can share four of your links from your archives here on my blog to a new audience. Perhaps posts that you wrote at the beginning of your blogging experience that deserve another showcase. If you have book promotion posts then please contact me separately for other options. Details of how to get in touch with me at the end of the post.

In the last in Tina Frisco’s series of four posts, she takes us through the process of how we can be our own worst enemies when it comes to putting ourselves down. We all know how negative words can be harmful when used to communicate with others but when we turn them inwards we can do long-term damage to our own belief in who we are.

When I Am Not Enough…by Tina Frisco

Image courtesy of Lucie Stastkova

Throughout our lives, we hear ourselves say:  ‘I’m not that good!’  ‘I’ll never make it.’  ‘I wish I could write that well.’  ‘If only I had said. . .’

Words are powerful. Energy follows thought. The words we speak to ourselves drive our subconscious minds. Diminishing thoughts tell the subconscious we are not enough.

The subconscious mind is self-serving. Its mission is to fulfill our every desire, and it sets in motion the means by which to do so. It takes our words at face value and strives to manifest what they represent. It assumes that what we think and say is what we hope and dream.

How often have we heard ourselves utter, ‘Did I say that’? Unless we are channeling spirit, the mouth speaks what the subconscious mind thinks. If thought rests in the conscious mind, we are aware of it and can choose whether or not to give it a voice. If thought rests in the subconscious mind, we might find ourselves surprised by our own words.

Negative off-hand remarks might seem benign, but they are potent energy viruses that infect the subconscious mind through repetition; repetition which, over time, becomes emphatic. The virulence of this self-denial is potentiated by the subterranean stream of thought that mirrors the spoken word and continues feeding the subconscious. The subconscious then compels us to speak what it believes to be our truth.

This might seem like a vicious cycle that can’t be broken; yet anything is possible, because nothing is set in stone. Even dense matter can be converted to energy.

The way out is the way in.

If we wish to realize our full potential, we need to become witness to ourselves. We must remain alert to and aware of all we manifest in word and deed. And we must do this without judgment.

Labels proclaim. Proclamation reinforces. Reinforcement cements. Cement imprisons.
Your mind is a powerful thing. When you filter it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change. –Buddha

Image courtesy of Lucie Stastkova

In order to build who we wish to be, we first need to become the unbiased observer and witness all we say and do. Notice the patterns. Write them down. Pay attention to the frequency in time and space, i.e., how often we repeat and how much mind space we give these cemented beliefs. This process enlightens us to the being we think we are. It moves the subconscious into the realm of the conscious. Once we become aware of our self-talk, we can make change for the better.

Since most of us are not enlightened beings, changing our negative thought patterns becomes a process that will occur over time. Being patient and allowing ourselves to make mistakes – even to backslide at times – will foster a smoother transition than judging and chastising. Two steps forward and one step back isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Taking that one step back gives us the opportunity to see how far we’ve come.

With practice and intention, we can even learn to influence who we are on a cellular level.

When we become aware of feeling we are not enough, we might try giving ourselves the gift of change. Prophets such as Buddha and Jesus were pioneers for change. They were teachers whose mission was redemption of the human spirit. Redemption is the act of making something better. These teachers – these avatars and Bodhisattvas – showed us how to release harmful beliefs. They exemplified forgiveness. Their ‘religion’ was LOVE.

When we see ourselves as wanting, it is difficult – if not impossible – to love ourselves. So how do we learn to love ourselves? How do we learn to see ourselves as part of, as a reflection of, the magnificent whole we know as The Divine? How do we come to accept that we are enough?

Although we humans tend to complicate our lives by concealing truth under a thick layer of fear, the answer to this question is quite simple: We learn to love ourselves by moving into gratitude. We learn to make any change for the better by moving into gratitude. Feeling ‘less than’ is constricting; it tightens the diaphragm and seats us in ‘fight or flight’ mode. We therefore must expand. And the key to expansion is gratitude. Once seated in this expansive awareness, we can move anywhere.

We can move into forgiving ourselves our perceived deficiencies. We forgive ourselves our perceived deficiencies by letting go of judgment. We let go of judgment by accepting who we are in the moment. We accept who we are in the moment by feeling grateful for all we’ve been given and for our limitless potential. We begin with gratitude and we end with gratitude; and then we begin again. Gratitude moves in ever-expanding concentric circles.

It is the key to enlightenment.

All matter converts to energy. Energy follows thought. Thinking of all for which we are grateful expands and heightens our consciousness. Higher consciousness is the vehicle that moves us into pure awareness. We then see our mortal bodies and self-serving minds reflected in the magnificent light beings we truly are. Once we behold our true nature, we can move into its limitless essence and manifest our full potential.

Change is a process. It occurs in stages. Accessing higher consciousness and dwelling in pure awareness comes and goes like the seasons until we reach enlightenment. We are all surfers on the wave of life, and we will crest and fall with the living of it. By practicing being witness and giving thanks, we keep discouragement at bay, get back on the surfboard, and continue riding the waves.

If our goal is enlightenment, following a daily practice of meditation to this end will serve greatly. The way out is the way in. May we all find our way out of the illusion we know as mortal life and in to the light of our divine nature.

I wish all of us the gift of knowing we are enough, the awareness to love the gift of life, and the blessing of self-acceptance.

Until the next time, my friends,
Namaste ❤

© Tina Frisco 2014

My thanks to Tina for sharing the posts from the archives and judging by the response, those posts have been thought provoking and enlightening. I hope you are now followers of Tina’s blog and will explore her books further.

About Tina Frisco

Tina Frisco is an author, singer-songwriter, RN, activist, and student of shamanism. Born in Pennsylvania USA, she attended nursing school in New York and lives in California. She began writing as a young child and received her first guitar at age 14, which launched her passion for music and songwriting. She has performed publicly in many different venues. Her publishing history includes book reviews; essays; articles in the field of medicine; her début novel, PLATEAU; her children’s book, GABBY AND THE QUADS; and her latest novel, VAMPYRIE. She enjoys writing, reading, music, dancing, arts and crafts, exploring nature, and frequently getting lost in working crossword puzzles.

Books by Tina Frisco

One of the most recent reviews for Plateau

Spiritually Moving and Uplifting on September 14, 2017

FIRST I must say that I loved this gentle little book. I devoured it in a single evening, so entranced by the story that I didn’t want to stop to read the inspiring quotes from Lynn V. Andrew’s Power Deck that began each chapter. Once I reached the end of the book I had to go back for the quotes, skimming each following chapter a second time.

NOW I must say that I have struggled with how I could possibly write a review — I’ve never read another book quite like it.

Other reviewers here have given you as much as you need to become familiar with the book’s “environment” – if I can call it that, introducing you to a few of the characters – so I won’t repeat similar content. But they can’t convey the deeply spiritual, uplifting essence of the book that, to me, is what makes it remarkable. Plateau never pontificates, but rather seduces the reader to come to his or her own spiritual realizations as the story unfolds.

I suppose the most impactful thing I can say is that I was infused with a sense of well-being when I finally put down my Kindle and turned off the light. I was in such a calm and totally relaxed positive state of mind that I transitioned easily and almost immediately into a deep sleep – a rare experience in my life.

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How you can participate in this series.

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103 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – When I Am Not Enough…by Tina Frisco

  1. Thank you for this wonderful series and for inviting me to participate, Sally. It has been an illuminating experience to learn from and appreciate all the wisdom so many kindly bestowed in their comments. I’m grateful for your generosity and kind heart 💖

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  2. WONDERFUL post, Tina. I have always said, “Your subconscious is always listening and is extremely accommodating – don’t affirm what you don’t want to increase.”

    Thanks, Sally, for sharing this one – and again for featuring my review of Tina’s wonderful Plateau.
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD/EFD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to educate a world!”

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  3. That is inspiring Tina. I have heard people use the negative all my life. you can see it’s a comfort because you don’t have to move out of familiar territory. I have always prided myself on being relatively open, but reading your wise words I realised I am open in those parts I am comfortable with being open. The rest I ignore. Now I have no excuse not to try and look at those parts and apply some big old brain power and determination to the bits I am not comfortable with. What have I got to loose! So thanks for the sound and timely advice!

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    • Welcome, Paul, and you’re right. As they say: nothing ventured, nothing gained. I’ve found that the older I get, the less I’m concerned about failing, tripping over myself, or generally looking like a dork 🙂 Learning to take risks and laugh at our mistakes is a gift only we can give ourselves. Forge ahead, brother! You’re made of tougher stuff than you might know 🙂 💖

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      • You are totally right looking like a fool to others is less important as you get older. I am thinking about forging ahead as I write. I am not yet committing to it but it is a start and I am always such a slow starter. But I get there in the end! Thanks Tina Big hugs Px

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      • Paul, you’re about as slow as a cheetah on the prowl. It’s interesting how the image we have of ourselves can differ greatly from those of others. Just remember: time is an illusion; all things occur in the Now. It is already accomplished, so see it as manifest. Big hugs back to you, my friend 💖

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      • It is already accomplished, so see it as manifest. Tina THAT IS BLOODY GREAT! I LOVE IT I’m getting it printed on a tee shirt with… ‘Tina Says….

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  4. This is a perfect article, Tina. Thanks! I so believe this and taught it to the job seekers I worked with as an employment counsellor. I suggested they reframe thoughts and turn the negative thoughts into positive ones. For example, “I´m too old, no one will hire me” to “I come with a wealth of experience and knowledge and would be an asset to any organization.” It was amazing how this worked as I watched the change in attitude. Big celebrations when they found a good job! Of course we all, myself included, need reminding. A great review from Madelyn!

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  5. There is a lot of truth in this post, Tina. I have been in a very negative environment for a couple of months now and I have days when the negativity seems to hang over everyone and everything like a blanket. Fortunately, it seems to be improving now.

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  10. Gratitude is definitely the key. We (at least I was) are blind until we see the lotus open in gratitude for all that we have become. Another splendid post that explains so much. Thanks, Sis. ❤

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  11. Another lovely and empowering post from Tina. I love the advice to take the role of witness in our lives so that we can gently identify our patterns of negative self-talk and learn how to stop sabotaging our happiness. Thanks Sally for bringing another wonderful post to the surface again.

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  12. Thanks so much, Tina. It is not easy sometimes to believe in yourself but your advice hits the right note. Thanks for the inspiration. And thanks, Sally, for this feature.


  13. This is such a wise post and beautifully written Tina, And thank you for sharing it Sally..

    Tina you are so right, so often we end up self-sabotaging ourselves as we talk ourselves out of things, using our doubt of self to dominate our inner chatter..
    So many times I can relate to having those inner conversations..
    Learning to alter our mindset and our perspectives is an ongoing process I so agree, It does indeed take great practice and patience as we learn to focus our intent.. And learn that what we focus upon is what we are creating..
    So being mindful of our thoughts is the first step for often what we wish for is what we may end up getting. And that too goes for the intention we focus upon for the things we don’t want to show up also.. If our thoughts are more focused upon those they are manifested with our intent..

    It is not an instant fix.. It has taken me years to shed my inbuilt layers of programmes I have carried with me, I am sure through life times..

    But when we come to this magnificent perception, and truly do begin to love ourselves, then a whole new world of BEing comes into our reality..

    Many thanks Tina.. Always a pleasure to read your heartfelt truth my friend.. And It is so good to also feel confirmation of the path I too am on right now

    Love and Blessings

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    • Welcome, Sue, and thank you for sharing a piece of your journey. We often get discouraged when seeing ourselves backslide, forgetting that one step back allows us to see how far we have come. As you say, learning to love ourselves opens the door to a new and magnificent perception. It also brings like-minded people into our lives ~ people like you, dear Sue ~ who validate our paths and support us with warmth and love ❤

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      • Awww thank You Tina. and likewise, I feel our WP friends here are part of our soul family as it appears many have had similar experiences and most of us are now waking up to begin to understand how to love ourselves as we move into Unity Consciousness. We are by no means there yet.. But we are making all the right steps to get there.. 😀 Much love ❤ right back to you Tina.. And Thank you

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      • I am so grateful for our WP family, Sue. We are united across oceans and borders, tolerant of our diversities, and helping each other achieve our highest potential as a species. May we all be blessed ❤

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  14. Tina, your posts are so soothing. I actually noticed a change in my breathing. Thank you.
    I’ve come to believe that life is a continuous, beautiful journey of becoming. I embrace it all with a grateful heart. Remarkable things transpire from this belief.
    Cheers and hugs to you both! XO


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