Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – She Passed By – Karen Ingalls

Welcome to the third and last post in the series of posts from Karen Ingalls’s archives. In this post Karen pays tribute to an elderly friend who passed away after a gracious life well-lived.

She Passed By – Karen Ingalls.

The more one lives, the easier it is to die.

A very special lady made her passage in the wee hours this morning. She took her last breath peacefully though physically alone, she was surrounded by angels and heavenly loved ones. She lived life to its fullest; her life was complete.

I did not know this fine lady very well though I met her for the first time about 20 years ago. She was gracious and kind to me, welcoming me into her life with a smile and pleasant word though the circumstances were difficult for both of us.

I saw her at family functions; had brief but loving conversations; and a smile never left her face nor mine. She was genuinely interested in learning about me.

If you could choose to come back for a period of time, what length would you choose? One year, ten years, a hundred years?

I knew her best through her daughter and grandchildren…she was a wonderful role model to them and they are each examples of her love and spirit.

Over the years her independence declined from independent living, to assisted, and then to a nursing home. When family came to visit she would say, “Please pray for me that I might die in my sleep.” With each morning she questioned why she was still here on earth. The answer often was, “Because God still needs you here.”

The more complete our life is, there is less anger or fear of death.

I believe she had these last weeks and months to teach us:

  • That there not be fear in dying.
  • That we each have a role to make the passage of the dying smooth and easy.
  • That love and forgiveness are the major lessons in life for each of us to learn.
  • And that dying is the natural part of living.

At 3:00 in the morning, my husband awoke with strong thoughts and memories of this gracious lady who had touched his life so deeply. This was just one hour after she died. He said, “Ardelle passed by.”

A young man dying of leukemia said, “I don’t think people are afraid of death. What they are afraid of is the incompleteness of life.”

This is a celebration and tribute to Ardelle and other people I knew who have passed on and passed by. Each of them have left their footprint on me. I have learned from them and hopefully when I pass on those left behind will feel my footprint.

So a little bit like in the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life” the bells are ringing…Ardelle earned her angel wings on earth.

If by chance you wish to remember me, do it with a kind deed or word to someone who needs you. If you do this, I will live forever.

My thanks to Ann Landers, Lisl Marburg Goodman, Linda Deutsch, Bill Newcott, and the family of Ardelle Bryntesen.

©Karen Ingalls.

My thanks to Karen for sharing this story of a woman who lived a wonderful life and clearly left behind wonderful memories of her life for those that she met.

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About Karen Ingalls

I might be a retired RN, but I am an active and enthusiastic writer of non-fiction and fiction. It took a few years before I was willing to show that deeper part of myself. I love to get lost in the world of my novels and let the creative juices flow. I have written several articles for medical and nursing journals. I enjoy researching and discovering new information.

I enjoy writing for my two blogs ( and The first one is about health/wellness, relationships, spirituality, and cancer. My second blog is for authors and avid readers who wish to be interviewed, do a guest blog, and be promoted. I have “met” so many interesting and enchanting people, who have done guest posts for me; or those around the world who follow my blogs and leave comments.

I was thrilled and honored to be recognized as a runner-up at the Midwest Book Awards and then receiving first place in the category of “women’s health” at the National Indie Excellence Awards. The greatest reward is when a reader shares how my book(s) inspired them, taught them something, or brought a deeper awareness about life.

The most recent review for Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir

As a long-time ovarian cancer survivor, I found this book, which I purchased from the author, to be well-written, an excellent guide to help others cope with the cancer roller coaster ride, and a heartfelt personal story. I highly recommend it to all those who have been touched by cancer. Marcia Mabee

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My first novel, Novy’s Son is about one man’s search for his father’s love and acceptance. It is based on my father and those men I counseled when I was a nurse therapist.

Davida is my second novel which is a fictionalized biography about the love affair between Augustus Saint-Gaudens and his model. He was the premier sculptor from 1880 through the early 1900’s. These two people just happen to be my great-grandparents.

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14 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – She Passed By – Karen Ingalls

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  2. What an incredibly beautiful and touching story from Karen. This is the third time this week the message has been given to me to not fear dying. The Angels are talking and I’m listening. Thank you, Karen for writing such an amazing story and thank you, Sally, for sharing.


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