Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – Keeping Tabs on Friends in the #Online World by D. G. Kaye

Keeping Tabs on Friends in the #Online World by D. G. Kaye

If there someone missing from your life online.. perhaps a person that you used to communicate regularly with, or who suddenly stops posting… Debby Gies reminds us that whether it is a person you know offline or a friend you have met online.. we need to reach out and see if we can help.. even if it is just a kind word.

I wanted to write a short post about the world of online friendships because many of us spend so much time here and have made connections through blogs and social media with others.

In our real world, we keep up with current events and life situations with friends and family, either in person or by phone. But in our virtual world, we chat with friends through social media, blogs or messenger apps. Because we’ve made connections with so many who live in different parts of the world, we don’t always get a chance to catch up with everyone on a daily or even a weekly basis sometimes. But one thing that I do keep mental note of is taking notice of when someone I’m used to seeing around the cybersphere suddenly disappears off the virtual radar.

I begin to wonder if that person is okay and do my usual FBI scouting around the socialsphere, hoping to find a post or a comment from them somewhere, showing that they are indeed still around but perhaps a little busy dealing with things in their real world.Through doing these searches, I have sometimes found that someone was ill, or depressed and needed a dose of inspiration, and in one instance I discovered a fellow blogger had passed away.

It really doesn’t take much to leave a missing friend a message of concern on their Facebook, or drop them a line in an email if we suspect something isn’t right.

I guess what I’m saying here is, we are community here. I’m reminding everyone if you notice you haven’t seen one of your friends or blogging pals circuiting social media or blogland, do what you would do in real life, do a little digging to make sure a pal is okay. You never know when someone disappears, not seeing their comments, posts or avatars around, if they’re just taking a break or if something more serious has happened.

©D.G. Kaye 2016

About D.G. Kaye

Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.
I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.

“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

                 “For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

When I’m not writing, I’m reading or quite possibly looking after some mundane thing in life. It’s also possible I may be on a secret getaway trip, as that is my passion—traveling.

This is D.G. Kaye’s latest release in December 2017.

About Twenty Years: After “I Do”.

May/December memoirs.

In this personal accounting, D.G. Kaye shares the insights and wisdom she has accrued through twenty years of keeping her marriage strong and thriving despite the everyday changes and challenges of aging. Kaye reveals how a little creative planning, acceptance, and unconditional love can create a bond no obstacle will break. Kaye’s stories are informative, inspiring, and a testament to love eclipsing all when two people understand, respect, and honor their vows. She adds that a daily sprinkling of laughter is a staple in nourishing a healthy marriage.

Twenty years began with a promise. As Kaye recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.

Here is one of the recent reviews for the book

“Twenty Years After I Do” is a love story, all the more compelling because it is true. Kaye shines a light under the table, exposing those things many of us prefer to keep out of sight. For all of the unpleasant topics in the book, this is not a depressing journey. She doesn’t say that love concours all, but she shows us, through her own life, that it so often does. More accurately, she explains that love will help us face whatever outcome life gives us.

The author is one of the decreasing number of people who understand that marriage is “ti deathl do us part.” Staying together is not optional, it’s not a choice to be made. That choice was made with the speaking of the words, “I Do.” She shows us that love and humor are tools we can use to overcome obstacles we would have thought unsurmountable.

This is a good read. Reading it has made me feel like I’ve made a friend.

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Other books by D.G. Kaye


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My thanks to Debby for this reminder that friends, on and offline are to be treasured and that reaching out can make a difference to someone who has dropped out of sight for one reason or another.

I am looking for one post from your archives that reflects any aspect of Easter or Springtime for 30th March to April 2nd.. A chance to promote your blog and books.

58 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – Keeping Tabs on Friends in the #Online World by D. G. Kaye

  1. Debby, you are so right when you say we are a community and that if people drop off the radar then dropping a line is the right thing to do. Well said Pxx

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  2. You are correct Debs and I have often wondered if it was me I have asked my son to post something …But, yes we should send a little note… We are after all a community who I think does care… A timely reminder Debs 🙂 x

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  4. Totally agree, online friends are friends we develop close relationships with. (Sometimes we share more with our online friends than we do with our face to face friends! ) Keeping an eye on them and reaching out to them is what friendship is all about. 🙂

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  5. I 100% Agree on this Debby. I know the posting schedule of a lot of bloggers who I consider to be friends, and I try hard to reach out if things are suddenly quiet, or different. That’s what friendship is about!

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  7. I love this post, Debbie. You are right in that we have made virtual friends around the globe. I do the same when one goes “missing.” Oftentimes, I find that they are ill or just tired of it all and taking a break. Either way, I reached out and it cements the friendship even tighter. Thanks for sharing, Sally.

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  8. Deb, this post couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Friends who kept in touch while I was ill were a lifesaver. Letting folks know what’s going on with us is important, but what about those who suffer an acute illness/accident/mishap and can’t let us know? Taking a little time to search for them, as well as dropping a line now and then, are small trade-offs for showing someone we care and are concerned. Many thanks to you and Sally for sharing ❤❤

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