Smorgasbord Health Column – Guest D. G. Kaye – Dietary Restrictions, Consequences and the Eye-Rollers

My guest today writing for the health column is D.G. Kaye… Debby Gies. Debby has suffered from chronic intestinal disease for many years and has researched and devised a way to keep herself healthy without medication. It is all about the diet….

Dietary Restrictions, Consequences and the Eye-Rollers by D.G. Kaye

Thanks for inviting me here today Sally to share my own experience with dietary restrictions and the symptoms I experience when not paying heed to my body’s warnings.

There are so many of us who suffer with digestive issues. Some of us take preventative measures to avoid having to endure unpleasant symptoms, some don’t pay any mind, while others may have no idea, thinking that many symptoms they live with on a daily basis are just part of the aging process. But listening to our bodies is essential to better health and avoiding worse complications down the road.

I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease twenty years ago. I can certainly speak from experience about what straying from my gluten-free, and dairy-free diet entails. It took me a few years to find healthy and tasty substitutions for my diet while in the process of eliminating the foods I knew were aggravating my symptoms, despite my then doctor telling me that there was no special diet for Crohn’s, Colitis, and other forms of IBS.

Many people who are blessed enough not to have to suffer from these diseases, often don’t understand the connection with foods and intolerances that so many others deal with on a daily basis. Whether these are intolerances or allergies, eating culprit foods can exasperate symptoms from feeling discomfort to possible life- threatening situations if one ingests what doesn’t agree with their systems.

When I was first diagnosed with Crohn’s, it took several months and a few ambulance trips to the hospital and several experimental drugs and tests before they figured out what was wrong with me. A few decades ago there weren’t as many drugs available for my disease, and the ones I was on had left me with terrible side-effects – some worse than the initial ones I was taking the medication for. One of the prescriptions I was on began eating away at my muscles in a short time and had me taking a few tumbles down the staircase. That was when I knew I had to seek my own information on the disease and search for something better to help me live better with the disease.

It was the late 90’s, just before computers were becoming household necessities, so I had my brother’s secretary at the time do some computer research for me and I visited my local bookstore to read up on it. I learned about other people who had suffered the disease and what worked and didn’t work for them. I learned a lot from Dr. Jordan Rubin’s book – Patient Heal Thyself, how the disease worked and how the body attacks itself when it no longer recognizes enzymes and natural functions within and how the body sees them as foreign invaders wreaking havoc on the intestines. And I learned how wrong my doctor was – diet absolutely was a factor in controlling my disease. Even though there is still no cure for Crohn’s and Colitis, there are quite a few things I found helpful in bringing myself back to better health.

I went through a lot of trial and error with new supplements and buying and tossing new foods that were recommended as substitutes. I learned that dairy products from the cow were no longer my friend, but goat milk products were fine because the proteins in goats are most similar to those in human breast milk. I couldn’t tolerate the taste of goat milk but finally found a soy milk I loved which I found tasted most like real milk. And years later with the new hype of every coconut product I found coconut products were not only healthy but also made great substitutes for dairy, including delicious ice-cream.

Within six months of changing my dietary lifestyle and getting on Dr. Rubin’s program of supplementation, I got off all drugs and I remain drug-free twenty years later.

I wanted to share a little backstory here, but the point of this article I want to make is that many people aren’t aware that when they have digestive ailments, ignoring the symptoms and continuing to eat whatever they want despite the repercussions, only exacerbates and aggravates the intestines further.

I have a friend who suffers from colitis and any time we’ve gone out to eat together she’d always order a salad. Raw salads are on both of our ‘do not eat’ list, and they affect us both differently. For me, if I were to eat a raw salad, my insides have a problem digesting most raw vegetables, I’d be rolling on the floor, doubled up in pain feeling as though a burning inferno was going through my intestines as my stomach expands like a balloon. For my friend, she’d spend the better part of our lunch date and the rest of the day in the bathroom. The difference is that I choose not to suffer intently. When I razz her for her relentlessness to keep eating salads she makes it clear that she couldn’t care less about diet and has no intention of giving up her beloved salads.

Besides salads, I have discovered several foods that cause problems for me if ingested, symptoms ranging from severe heartburn to great stomach pain, and one commonality that always happens within moments of my eating the wrong things – my stomach blows up to the point where I look and feel 7 months pregnant. It’s like a freak show where magically I’m a size 8, and a few moments later, my pants feel like they’ve been taken over by the Incredible Hulk, busting out at the seams.

The intestines are a huge part of the digestive system. When we ingest allergens, the intestines will surely retaliate. Did you know that the human intestines can be as long as anywhere from 17 to 25 feet long? Imagine each body, large or small with that length of intestines coiled up tightly within us and suddenly expanding due to inflammation. It’s no wonder when I eat wrong I blow up like a baby whale! It’s just not worth it for me to stray, especially with all I’ve learned about my disease. I have zero interest in straying from my healthy lifestyle of eating in exchange for cheating on myself for a few meager bites and paying for it for days feeling like a beached whale and running to bathrooms. We all must decide how worth it is to suffer for our cheats and I’d just rather not ride that hamster wheel if I can avoid it.

In my earlier years of getting acquainted with my disease there wasn’t a wide variety of food substitutes for gluten-free or dairy-free options in stores or restaurants. Even with my own extended family it took a few years to drill in the fact that I couldn’t eat certain things. When I went to a party gathering and couldn’t find one thing I could eat without problem, I just made a conscious decision not to eat at all. Eventually, family gatherings became a lot more food friendly for me. Both mine and my husband’s family took awhile until they could understand, accept and stop questioning me about my diet and some to stop teasing me about what a fussy eater I was.

Note: Nobody appreciates being chided about their special diet or being told life without pharmaceuticals is hocus pocus. And it took quite a few years to earn respect in my circles for the fact that foods could actually attack us.

Going out to eat was more of a challenge during my earlier days living with Crohn’s, but I usually had an old standby I could find on most menus when choices were limited – chicken and rice. Fast food outlets offered no options in the beginning of my elimination journey, but so many now also include dairy and gluten-free options. I don’t have to visually see the food culprits that do me harm, my stomach is a great detective, never failing to alert me that there was something unagreeable in something I just ingested.

Many restaurants nowadays are quite conscious about not wanting to make their patrons sick and besides offering alternative food options on the menu, they will often send out a manager or the chef after informing your server of any dietary issues.

Although I have my lifestyle down pat and although my friends and family are aware of my issues, it sometimes doesn’t prevent some from commenting or displaying a few eye-rolls when it comes my turn to place my order when dining out with others. I make it a point to ask questions about dishes I’m interested in and how they are prepared. I’ve locked horns with a few at the occasional dinner table. Apparently, the questions I ask usually take up approximately 5 minutes of the server’s time, causing some impatience, making me feel as though I’m being petty and wasting precious moments before others can place their orders. And I can tell you, those incidents light a flame under me every time and usually ruin the mood for a get together as I feel insulted by their lack of compassion or understanding.

Being sick is not fun. And if people are lucky enough to be able to eat whatever they want without consequences they should count their blessings. I would also advise people to learn a little about dietary issues when inviting friends or family to your home. Digestive issues are a big concern for many. A little education on a guest’s dietary requirements is greatly appreciated by those of us who no longer have the luxury to eat anything our heart desires. Thankfully, after so many years passed, my family understand my illness, but there are still others who could use some training.

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Do you suffer from food allergies or intolerances?

If so, I highly recommend doing some research on your ailments and begin a food elimination test to search for the culprits that don’t agree with your body. To do this, keep a food diary for a few weeks and keep track of symptoms and what you have eaten prior to stomach upsets. Then begin systematically eliminating the suspect foods one at a time for a week and keep check on how you are feeling without those foods.

Don’t be afraid to let people know that there are foods you cannot eat when being invited to their homes. Don’t wait until you arrive and have to tell them you can’t eat anything they’ve prepared. That will leave both yourself and your host feeling uncomfortable.
Any time I invite guests for dinner, I always asks if there’s anything in their diets they’re allergic or intolerant to then I prepare food accordingly.

Pay attention to warning signs from your body. If you’ve eaten something that doesn’t agree with you and you exhibit symptoms of pain and discomfort, make note of what you ate and become suspicious of that food if it happens again. Then stay away from that food and begin to experiment with substitutes to fill the vacancy for that food in your diet.

Lastly, don’t always take your doctor’s word for the gospel. Do your homework when prescribed new medications. Google medical journals and websites pertaining to the prescribed drug. Visit platforms on the web about the drug where people share their experiences on effects and side-effects. Get educated on your disease and read books on the topic. Inform your friends and family about what you can’t ingest in your diet so you won’t be left out at the dinner table when you’re invited to their homes.

©DGKaye

My thanks to Debby for sharing her experience gained from all her years of researching this disease, and how she has implemented a dietary plan that works. I am sure she would be delighted to receive both your comments and questions.

About D.G. Kaye

Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.
I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.

Quotes:
“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

                 “For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

When I’m not writing, I’m reading or quite possibly looking after some mundane thing in life. It’s also possible I may be on a secret getaway trip, as that is my passion—traveling.

Books by D.G. Kaye

About Twenty Years: After “I Do”.

May/December memoirs.

In this personal accounting, D.G. Kaye shares the insights and wisdom she has accrued through twenty years of keeping her marriage strong and thriving despite the everyday changes and challenges of aging. Kaye reveals how a little creative planning, acceptance, and unconditional love can create a bond no obstacle will break. Kaye’s stories are informative, inspiring, and a testament to love eclipsing all when two people understand, respect, and honor their vows. She adds that a daily sprinkling of laughter is a staple in nourishing a healthy marriage.

Twenty years began with a promise. As Kaye recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.

One of the recent reviews for the book

I thoroughly enjoyed this book, Twenty Years: After “I Do”. It was a heartfelt journey through the author’s life with her devoted and loving husband who is much older than she. I laughed along with her and shed tears of sorrow when she did.

D.G. Kaye expressed herself in endearing terms when she spoke of her husband and their wonderful life together. She wrote with deep expressions of angst over serious health issues they both experienced and then joy over happy times with much shared laughter.

Marriage is a difficult union as anyone who has been married knows. This book takes the reader down this path to discover the true meaning of soul mates and undying love from one another. D.G. shares the beauty of each day that she and her husband, Gordon, have had together and continue to have even in adversity. She displays a remarkable wit in tough times and a brilliant resilience to go on no matter what she must face.

This book is a must read for all who have been married whether for a short time or a longer time. All couples face similar situations and must make tough decisions in their lives together. The author has shown how she has had to deal with serious health issues and come out stronger and more persistent to make the best of every day she and her husband have left together. For isn’t that part of our marriage vows – to love each other in sickness and health till death do us part?

Read the other reviews and buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077V386TL

and Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B077V386TL

Other books by D.G. Kaye

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Read all the reviews and buy the books: http://www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7

and Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/D.G.-Kaye/e/B00HE028FO

More reviews and follow Debby on Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/dgkaye

Connect to Debby Gies

Come and visit me at our Literary Diva’s Library group on Facebook

Blog: http://www.dgkayewriter.com
About me: http://www.wiseintro.co/dgkaye7
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/@pokercubster (yes there’s a story)
Linkedin: http://www.linkedin.com/in/dgkaye7
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Thank you for dropping in today and as always your comments and questions are very welcome.. Thanks Sally

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74 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Health Column – Guest D. G. Kaye – Dietary Restrictions, Consequences and the Eye-Rollers

  1. Ah, no diagnosis for my wife–not Crohn’s, gluten or any of the well-known gastrointestinal ailments but she too knows very well what sets off the pain (eggs, peppers and other spices, etc.). So it’s the same routine dining out. I feel your pain.🙁

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    • We are all individual John and one size does not fit all.. whilst no diagnosis, at least your wife had identified what causes the problem and avoids the food. Unfortunately in my experience.. chefs are not very forgiving when you muck about with their creations!!! Thank you for sharing your wife’s condition as it does reinforce Debby’s message.

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    • Thanks for sharing that about J, John. Look how much we’d have in common, lol. I also couldn’t eat eggs for years. My naturopath told me years ago that it was most likely the white part of the egg – albumen that I was sensitve too, which apparently was part of the stabilizer ingredient in a vaccine. For over a decade I was petrified to eat eggs because of the pain it caused me then one day I got brave and tried just the yolk (the best part anyway). And since then I do eat eggs – without the white. I’m not that brave to try that part again, lol. 🙂 x

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      • In her case, childbirth brought about my wife’s dietary problems: eggs after our son was born (perhaps a placental issue from eating extra boiled eggs at work) and dairy products after our daughter was born–with the potentially similar issue of placental transfer of lactose intolerance. I have no egg or dairy issues, so maybe some grandparental contribution or just the hormonal changes of pregnancy.

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  2. Well done, Debby for finding out what inflames your condition and dealing with it by eliminating those foods from your diet…I am an eye roller BUT at those who don’t want to help themselves. I worked with someone with the same condition but knowingly ate what they knew would inflame it..Why put yourself through that?? A great article ladies 🙂 xxx

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  3. I have only recently accepted that ‘we are what we eat’ and have started to adjust my diet accordingly. I am riddled with arthritis, and although this is par for the course at 74, I don’t accept anything without a fight!
    Love the new header BTW!

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  4. I and several family members have dietary issues due to health problems. Food absolutely makes a difference. It nearly killed my mother-in-law, and it has both caused great pain and alleviated great pains. Thank you for sharing your story, Debby. Wishing you all the best.

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  6. A fantastic post, Debby. I suffer like you, slim one-minute pregnant whale the next. It took me cutting out gluten to realise the culprit. They tested me for Celiac and it’s in the family but I was on the cusp so fine. hmmph. Thanks, Sally for posting. xxx

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  7. Great information here, Debby. So many people are wiling to just listen to a doctor ‘diagnose’ them, prescribe pills, and then think they don’t need to do anything else for their body. As you explain here, the opposite is the case. When a doctor suggests I go on some medication, I look it up (these days it’s much easier with Google and computer at hand), read the side effects (for many meds, it’s godawful), and listen to my own body instead to find out what it wants and needs. In many cases, medications can cause more problems than the reason for taking them in the first place. Can you tell I’m on your side? Heal thyself!

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  9. Hi Sally and Debby – how right you are … I’m just lucky I don’t really suffer, but have worked out what I can and cannot do with my system … and thus treat it like that – then all is well. But I’m glad you’re managing your symptoms … and I’m so lucky I don’t need medication for anything.

    Take care both of you – cheers Hilary

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  10. Hi Debby! I too have gastrointestinal issues and was diagnosed with IBS which really doesn’t mean a thing to me. What is IBS? I think they should actually call it “IDKWYHSIGYABSD” I Don’t Know What You Have So I’m Giving You A ‘BS’ Diagnosis. I blow up like a blow fish after eating certain things so I can relate with what you said. Other times I hold more water than the Hoover Dam. I don’t eat red meat and try to limit pasta, tomato sauce, bread and on most days I don’t eat after 3:30-4:00 pm. I also drink a lot of water, drink a cup of green tea every morning and 4-8 oz. of Kombucha everyday. I love how you always manage to give us great information with a touch of humor. Thank you! ❤ xx

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  11. How great to read more of Debby’s guest post here after coming from her site. Sally, you have good taste having Debby here 🙂 I say don’t pay attention to those eye rollers and keep up the healthy lifestyle – do what’s best for YOU xo

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  12. This is an excellent and informative post. Thanks, Debby, for sharing! God bless you that you have set an effective regimen for yourself to stay healthy.
    I have LI and IBS and need to watch what I eat too. I do eat gluten but limit how much bread I eat daily. I usually have rice or oat crackers and Wasa Rye crackers instead of wheat. Being sick lately I found that all I wanted to eat was tea, crackers and soup. I know what you mean about swelling up! I feel like a whale some days too until I cut back on some foods. Once you know which ones are the culprits it makes life easier. Hugs to you and Sally! Xx ❤️ ❤️

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    • Thanks for sharing some of your own issues Janice. Yes, you have to be careful if you have ongoing issues. No wonder you got sick when you went to Portugal also. If I don’t know the ingredients in a food I suspect, I just don’t eat it. I’ve gone to many people’s homes through the years where they had zero things I could eat, and so I just didn’t. Yes, a few hostesses I recall felt bad that I wasn’t eating along with everyone else, but oh well, they eventually learned to ask questions about dietary restrictions when inviting people over instead of looking like incompetent hosts, lol. 🙂 ❤ xx

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      • I am still having issues with my stomach since last Sunday. I am living on toast tea and chicken soup. Last night we were invited to our neighbors house. I ate a little pork, potatoes and ratatouille. Took a laxative to try to get rid of whatever is in my system. Still not better today. Going to see doctor tomorrow to find out what is wrong. Sigh! Hope to feel normal again to travel on Saturday! Thanks for the tips. Do you make your own bread? Love a recipe.

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      • Oh dear Janice. Not sure laxative was the way to go. I would suggest taking some activated charcoal supplements which help to absorb the toxins in your colon and hopefully tighten you up after a few days.
        No, I don’t make my own bread. It would be hardly worth it, I don’t really eat much bread.
        Keep us posted after your doctor visit. ❤ xoxo And stay away from fiberous meals like ratatouille while your stomach is off. ❤

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      • Thanks, Debby! I’m stumped over this. Hopefully the doctor will tell me what’s wrong and help me. They think I may be dehydrated. Thanks, my friend! I just want to feel better for our trip. ❤️😘🤗

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  13. This is a great post, Sally and Debby. Digestive issues do seem to be quite common. I have quite a few relatives and friends with diagnosed conditions and others who suffer mild discomfort eating particular foods and simply avoid them as much as possible. I was surprised to read that one of Debby’s friend’s would rather eat salad and spend the afternoon in the bathroom than adjust her diet. It doesn’t seem to make sense. I love coffee, but find that, when I’m out, it can send me straight to the loo. (I think it might be something to do with the quantity of heated milk.) I can’t always predict just when it will have that effect, so unless I am somewhere convenient and comfortable I won’t risk it but have a peppermint tea instead. It is both pleasant to drink and has no nasty after-effects. I wonder have these ‘inconveniences’ become more common as food has become more ‘convenient’. I remember years ago when a friend was diagnosed as coeliac, there was little suitable for her available on many restaurant menus and she was often told the meals were gluten free but her belly told her later they weren’t. She even had to inquire about the type of soy sauce used. Nowadays there is much more accommodation of dietary needs, but I’m sure it could be improved for many.

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    • Thank you Norah for adding your experiences.. On the subject of coffee.. the effect you describe is quite common and there are a number of irritants including caffeine itself.

      However coffee also has two other effects that can cause a rapid need to go to the bathroom.. One is coffee encourages the release of a peptide called cholecystokinin which is normally released when the stomach empties… this in turn stimulates the gallbladder to contract and release bile into the upper small intestine where it aids in the digestion of fats. Secondly it stimulates the contraction of the intestines which leads to you needing to go to the bathroom.

      This is why people with gallbladder conditions such as calcification or stones usually avoid drinking coffee.

      Having this reaction to coffee should be noted to your doctor particularly if having a more fatty meal that usual causes the same reaction, or if IBS symptoms are noted such as painful cramps and bloating.

      To be honest gallbladder problems and stones are very common for both men and women in their 50s if there is a fair amount of fat in the diet or if there has been extensive weight loss. People who have lost several stone have effectively been on a high fat diet. I lost 11 stone in 18 months and have had gallbladder problems since.

      hugs Sally

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    • Thanks for adding to the conversation Norah. I do know others who are sensitive to coffee like that. undoubtedly, for reasons Sally explained here. And yes, isn’t that awful when someone incompetent tells us something is gluten or dairy-free and it isn’t. That’s dangerous, especially to celiac people. My step grand-daughter is dangerously celiac to the point where she has to use only gluten-free skin products too. It’s not a joke and it’s refreshing when people can understand the seriousness of these ailments. Here in our restaurants, we only have to mention food allergies and the server immediately calls over a manager, and often the chef will come out and ask what exactly our allergies are. Establishments don’t want to be responsible for making people sick, so this is a good thing. 🙂 x

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      • That was very helpful information from both you and Sally, Debby. I think restaurants everywhere have become more aware of their responsibility to diners in recent years. The incidences I spoke of with my friend would have been over twenty years ago. I think everyone has wised up a bit since then, which is a good thing. While life is getting easier for those on a gluten-free diet, it can’t be easy for your step grand-daughter. So many of us take the ability to eat anything we want for granted.

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      • You are right on all counts Norah. Awareness has certainly grown in the last 2 decades. Like anything else in life, we all take things for granted until they aren’t working so well. But it’s important to pay attention to the warning signs our bodies tell us. 🙂

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  14. Thank you for this account and helpful information, Debby. I know quite a few people with Crohn’s disease (like one aunt and one – unrelated – niece) and how they suffer through it, even when being careful with their food intake. It just keeps boggling my mind how so many people, young and old, are diagnosed with certain intolerances, cancer, or other diseases.It doesn’t stop and I’m sure it’s related to the food we ingest and the air we breathe.

    When we invite people over for dinner, we always inquire about dietary or lifestyle food preferences, and usually when we are invited over, the same questions arise over email before we show up. But, recently, we have been invited for dinner by two different couples, where nothing was asked. This surprised me, since many people these days watch their diet somehow. As my husband is allergic to cow milk products (not lactose intolerant, so he can’t take “magic” pills), life at the dinner table can become awkward. Usually, it’s OK, since he can have small amounts, like in butter, but, when lasagna or cheese pizza is served, it’s a different story. We have also noticed that after mentioning his allergies, some hosts forget about it by the next day or the next visit.

    Have you tried almond milk, Debby? Mark switched to that – via oat milk – from soy milk, because soy is not good for him either.

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    • Thanks for sharing your experience too Liesbet. I’m the same with cow’s milk, but a bit of butter is fine. I’m not big on almond milk because I find it too watery. I use Silk original soy milk for years and it’s the only kind that tastes like real milk to me. 🙂 x

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