Welcome to the new posts from your archives with a theme of family and friends. Very important as our support system at the moment as many of us are isolated and out of physical touch. If you would like details on how to participate here is the link: Posts from Your Archives April 2020 Family and Friends
In this post D.G. Kaye, Debby Gies explores why we meet people – some who stay in our lives and some that fade.
Meeting People for Reasons and Seasons
Ever wonder why some of the friendships and relationships we once may have considered important in our lives at one time suddenly disappear from our lives?
Often, times we reflect back on our life relationships and catch ourselves wondering ‘whatever happened to so and so?’. Sometimes we remember why those people have exited our lives, and other times we can go back and analyze these relationships, looking back on what the significance was that person played in our lives. I refer to these short-term relationships as seasonal relationships for reasons – blessings and lessons.
These people who come into our lives for brief stints appear for reasons, and because they don’t remain in our lives indefinitely, they are classified as seasonal.
The universe has a way of knowing what we need in our lives at different times. There’s a popular phrase – What we focus on, we attract. For example, if we are focusing our attentions on something we wish for, we will eventually meet people who may possibly introduce us to avenues that we are focusing our attentions on. Similarly, if we focus on negative things, we may also be introduced to people who come into our lives who can teach us lessons.
We don’t meet people by accident, rather we encounter those who are meant to cross our paths. We either have something to be learned from everyone who comes into our lives or something to teach them. We may not realize initially, that some people we befriend are only meant to come into our lives for a specific amount of time before they fade out of our lives or are evicted from our lives. Those relationships weren’t meant to exist for a lifetime, but merely for a designated amount of time to teach us something. Everything in life is pre-destined so the time limits spent with these messengers who come into our lives depends on the needs we’ve met.
Even people we’ve met who we don’t desire to have in our lives have something to teach us. Perhaps we may meet someone who constantly tests our patience or maybe we’ve had some unfinished business from a past life and the universe sends us someone who has something to learn from us. These people we meet may come into our lives to enlighten, encourage, motivate or remind us at a time we’re in need and although they may not stay long, their invaluable lessons will remain.
In other instances, some people come into our lives to ‘hold space’ so to speak. An example of this could be if we’re pining to meet someone to have a fulfilling relationship with and we end up in a short-term and failed relationship with a ‘fill-in’ until the right person comes along. We may feel deflated from such a relationship because they ‘wasted’ our precious time. But never feel like the time has been wasted. Instead, look for things you learned from the time in that relationship. Perhaps you chose to enter that relationship because you were so happy to finally get in a relationship. Was that person dishonest, were they abusive, did they add any value to our life? Even if the answers to those questions were negative, we learned what we don’t want in a relationship, and that will better prepare us for the next one and the one that’s meant to be.
We can meet people anywhere – a store, a party, a bus stop, online or by introduction from a common friend. We might get lucky and make a lifelong friendship, or perhaps enter a new romantic relationship with that person. But whatever the ‘reason’ we met and regardless if they are short or long-term relationships, there is always something of value to learn from them.
We attract what we allow and focus on, even in our sub-conscience. So next time we find ourselves questioning why someone entered our life for a short time, look deeper into what we learned from that experience.
The following video I found elaborates on the points I’ve mentioned above.
You can find out more about friendship in Debby’s Column here each month: D.G. Kaye Explores the Realms of Relationships 2020
About Debby Gies
Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.
D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.
When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.
I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.
“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”
“For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”
When I’m not writing, I’m reading or quite possibly looking after some mundane thing in life. It’s also possible I may be on a secret getaway trip, as that is my passion—traveling.
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