Welcome to the current series of Posts from Your Archives… and I will be picking two posts from the blogs of those participating from the first six months of 2020. If you don’t mind me rifling through your archives… just let me know in the comments or you can find out the full scope: Posts from Your Archives – Pot Luck – 2020
This is the second post by D.G. Kaye, Debby Gies and this week we discover a little more about Debby as she responds to a blog challenge in June 2020.
Twelve Questions #Blogshare From Stevie Turner – Join in the Fun!
How spontaneous are you?
Hmm, I’d like to say I’ve been spontaneous most of my life, but I’d also say by the time I turned 50 I learned how to put the brakes on and have become a lot more investigative and skeptical before diving into anything. Anything.
How flirtatious would you say you are? If that is not the word you would use, then try the alternatives of ‘teasing’ or ‘playful’. How much are you of this?
Another toughie. I think the word ‘flirtatious’ is loaded. I’m a passionate person and you will find when speaking with me in person that I can be very animated when I speak. My outgoing personality has often been misconstrued for flirting.
How serious are you as a person?
When I’m serious, I’m serious. ‘Nuff said.
Do you think the older we become, then certain emotions are easier to handle, say as an example ‘grief’?
No. I should think grief is painful at any age, it’s just a matter of how we deal with it. Perhaps maturity helps with the way we display our grief, but that in no way changes the way we feel when we are grieving.
What is the most adventurous thing you have done to date?
I think I did a lot of courageous things when I was younger. Taking a sabbatical from life and a 3 month leave of absence from work to travel to Greece for 3 months – alone in my early 20s- turned out to be a very brave move – something I wouldn’t have the courage to do now.
What’s the craziest or riskiest thing you have ever done and simply got away with it or got caught doing it?
Lol, I can’t think of anything at the moment. Let’s just leave it at – I’ve done and gotten away. I’ll add, nothing criminal. 🙂
What do you think the future is of dating, and other ‘other’ now that social distancing has become part of your life? Will your life ‘up close and personal’ with people now be different?
Fortunately, I’m not on the dating availability list because the world has certainly changed since my simple dating days of meeting someone, going on a date and seeing where it goes from there. In this new world online dating has taken over for much of the world. This form of getting to know someone requires diligence and experience to learn first about true identities, and should require a meet up after realizing your heartstrings have been tugged at. I can tell you stories about people who thought they were in real relationships online for months on end, even years, they finally meet and one or the other has been fibbing, or once in physical presence, one or the other is not ‘feeling the love’ they thought they were. I don’t feel the virus has any bearing on this. This is human relationships.
How different do you really think you are to the next person? Are you prim and proper, strait-laced and serious, wild and abandoned, or rebellious and controversial?
I’ve always wanted to meet my doppelganger. I don’t think there is anyone like me, lol. I’ll go with rebellious and controversial and sometimes wild with abandonment, far from prim and proper, but courteous and outgoing.
During this time of global concern, how has your thinking changed with regards the planet, conservation and climate issues … or has it not changed one little bit?
My ideals about striving to make the environment better haven’t changed, the planet still needs our help. But I was heartened to see during the lock-down period, air and water qualities were better than they’d been for decades, while humans took a pause. I should hope people will remember this and each of us on the planet learns from this and works harder to change and repair.
What ‘topical’ issues considered taboo by society are you deeply passionate with and about to the point of doing something about it?
Talking forthright about politics.
What’s more important, and/or is there a difference between friendship and companionship, and if so, what is that difference?
I think companionship holds different meaning than only friendship. Companionship to me sounds like, either someone to hang around with just for company, or perhaps a paid help to care for someone as well as a ‘companion’ to keep them company. Companionship sounds a lot more generic to me than friendship.
What is your passion as regards writing genres? A) what is your chosen genre, and B) what is the genre you might like to write about but lack confidence to start?
I am a nonfiction writer, and oddly enough, I enjoy writing nonfiction. As a truth-teller I feel passionate about writing what I know through my own truth. I know it may be easier to write my stories and incorporate events into fictional stories, but for me, I feel like that would be disguising my stories’ truth.
©D.G. Kaye June 2020
If you are a regular visitor you will have met Debby before as a contributor writing The Travel Column for two years and now The Realm of Relationships 2020. Debby also co-hosts the Laughter Lines twice a week.
Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.
D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.
When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.
I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.
“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”
“For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”
When I’m not writing, I’m reading or quite possibly looking after some mundane thing in life. It’s also possible I may be on a secret getaway trip, as that is my passion—traveling.
Books by D.G. Kaye
One of the recent reviews for P.S. I Forgive You on Goodreads
This is a very personal account of the author’s experiences of coping and coming to terms with the emotions experienced after the death of a narcissistic mother. D. G Kaye’s mother is herself a product of the terrible parenting she experienced as a child. My own mother struggled with many heartbreaking problems as she grew up. She overcame these and was and continues to be a wonderfully caring mother. I have a deep, unbreakable bond with her which I also have with my daughters.
As I continued to read further into this memoir I kept on comparing our circumstances. How sad and damaging such an uncaring, selfish parent is to her children. How can a mother behave in such a way? P.S. I Forgive You is an important read for all of us. This memoir is about letting go, releasing the emotional turmoil which begun in childhood.
It is a compelling read. It courageously deals with the extremes of family relationships. Relationships are complex and difficult even in what I would deem to be ‘normal’ families. There are many who struggle to understand or relate to their son or daughter, sister, brother, wife or husband.
But this memoir takes those problems to a whole new level that no one should have to experience. After such a damaging upbringing, D. G. Kaye has suffered but has learnt to forgive. She lives a happy, fulfilled life. That is a wonderful testament to her strength of character and her can do attitude.
I’d recommend this memoir to us all whatever our circumstances
Thank you for joining us today and Debby would love your feedback.. thanks Sally.