Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives 2021 -#Potluck -#Grandchildren – I’m curious – How do you do it? by Jan Sikes

Since this series began in January 2018 there have been over 1100 Posts from Your Archives where bloggers have taken the opportunity to share posts to a new audience… mine.

The topics have ranged from travel, childhood, recipes, history, family and the most recent series was #PotLuck where I shared a random selection of different topics. This series is along the same lines… but is a ‘Lucky Dip’

In this series I will be sharing posts from the first six months of 2021 – details of how you can participate are at the end of the post.

This is the second post by Jan Sikes and I have selected a post that featured in June 2021. I know that many of you have grandchildren that you look after on a regular basis, and in this post Jan asks How do you do it?

I’m curious – How do you do it?

Since school is out and I have my grandchildren more hours per day, I am finding myself in a constant state of behindness (Yes, I know that’s not a real word, but it fits.) I’m the little boy in the picture below, struggling to keep up, carrying my balloon.

Photo courtesy Lucdecleir via Pixabay

Of course, when you add in a book festival, a road trip to see my sister, and a music festival those contribute greatly to the behindness. So, I can own the fact that I did this to myself.

I’m curious. How do you do it? How do you juggle blogging, keeping up with other bloggers, social media, promoting your books writing new books, reading, working, taking care of your spiritual life, keeping your body healthy, and spending time with family?

I know not everything works for everyone, but I found one word that resonated with me

Simplify – Sounds easy, right?

When I looked at ways to do that, I made two lists. In one column, I listed the necessities in life and in the other column I listed the things I want to do but aren’t essential for living.

“But,” I hear you say, “I don’t want to stop doing what I’m doing.” Oh wait, that was me talking, not you.

Okay fine. I’ll move some of the things I want to do over to the essentials column.

Oops. Guess what? Now, I have one column. Back to square one with a deep sigh.

What to do?

I looked at the column again and thought to myself, prioritize.

That sounds logical.

I have to eat, sleep, do meditation, and exercise. Those are top priorities just to keep functioning. Then, I have to work to earn the money to support my lifestyle. That’s another priority. But what about my writing life? Isn’t it equally as important to promote the books I have spent money, blood, sweat, and tears creating? If I don’t, will anyone see them? Probably not. Finding the time to keep creating is ultra important to my well-being.

Blogging isn’t a necessity, I suppose. But if I hadn’t gotten consistent with blogging, I would never have built the following I have. So, if I neglect it, the numbers fall. And, if I don’t visit and support other blogs, the visits and comments on my blogs diminish.

You see where I’m going, right?

I have no easy answer. The truth is that I want to do it all and I feel like I’m on a merry-go-round getting dizzy.

Remember these? I broke my pinky toe on one when I was a kid.

I thought of two things I can implement that might help me get a grip: #1 Start saying “no” to anything I don’t really want to do #2 Ask for help (the hardest thing in the world for me to do).

Now, I’d love to hear from you. How do you juggle it all and stay on top of the pile? We’re all on this merry-go-round together.

©Jan Sikes 2021

My thanks to Jan for allowing me to share her posts from earlier in the year..and I know she would love to hear your feedback.

About Jan Sikes

Jan Sikes is an award-winning Texas author who has been called a wordsmith by her peers. She openly admits that she never set out in life to be an author. But she had a story to tell. Not just any story, but a true story that rivals any fiction creation. You simply can’t make this stuff up. It all happened. She chose to create fictitious characters to tell the story through, and they bring the intricately woven tale to life in an entertaining way. She released a series of music CDs to accompany the four biographical fiction books and then published a book of poetry and art to complete the story circle.

And now that the story is told, this author can’t find a way to put down the pen. She continues to write fiction and has published many short stories with a series of novels waiting in the wings. Jan is a member of the Author’s Marketing Guild, The Writer’s League of Texas, Romance Writers of America, and the Paranormal Writer’s Guild. I am an avid fan of Texas music and grandmother of five beautiful souls. I reside in North Texas.

A small selection of books by Jan Sikes

Read the reviews and buy the books: Amazon US – And : Amazon UK – Website: Jan SikesGoodreads: Jan on Goodreads – Twitter: @rijanjks

How you can feature in the series?

  • All I need you to do is give me permission to dive in to your archives and find two posts to share here on Smorgasbord. (
  • Rather than a set topic, I will select posts at random of general interest across a number of subjects from the first six months of 2021. (it is helpful if you have a link to your archives in your sidebar by month)
  • As I will be promoting your books as part of the post along with all your information and links so I will not be sharing direct marketing or self- promotional posts in the series.
  • If you are an author I am sure you will have a page on your blog with the details, and an ‘about page’ with your profile and social media links (always a good idea anyway). I will get everything that I need.
  • As a blogger I would assume that you have an ‘about page’ a profile photo and your links to social media.
  • Copyright is yours and I will ©Your name on every post… and you will be named as the author in the URL and subject line.
  • Previous participants are very welcome to take part again.
  • Each post is reformatted for my blog and I don’t cut and paste, this means it might look different from your own post.
  • If I do share a post which contains mainly photographs I will share up to five and link back to the original post for people to view the rest.

N.B – To get the maximum benefit from your archive posts, the only thing I ask is that you respond to comments individually and share on your own social media.. thank you.


Thanks for dropping in today and I know that Jan would love your feedback.. thanks Sally.

68 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives 2021 -#Potluck -#Grandchildren – I’m curious – How do you do it? by Jan Sikes

  1. This is an interesting question.
    Catching up? I think I had got myself ready to change direction.
    To give up supply teaching…. but it didn’t give up on me and it continued at my pace not the usual pace of every school and every day.
    my grandson was in lockdown and i could only visit waving up the pathway.
    that was a bit sad at the time. Until I was needed.
    My books didn’t seem to slow (buses are slow anyway) and in a couple of cases sped past (bus speed) without stopping.
    I think i just let things take me on the road wherever and was getting used to the scenic route.
    I now have a lovely full on Thursday morning with my grandson and he is teaching me to play again. (and me him)
    My blogs are more random and sometimes planned others not.
    Oh and I have a bit of Lego to fill the gaps (well Lego breeds so the gaps are usually full)
    The pandemic and lockdown might have closed down the world but in others, with zoom calls etc. , the world has really opened.
    I haven’t been to Spain, as I always love to go. But at least my daughter did at last get married out of lockdown but with a VERY small wedding.
    all in all i just got on.
    (And listen to music choices on a Tuesday morning, all in all a different kind of normal)

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  2. Excellent post to share, Sally! I had to learn a long time ago that it’s okay to say no to some things. When I decided to become a writer, I had to make choices. And to this day, I don’t regret it. Lots of wisdom in Jan’s post.

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  3. I can so relate to this post, Jan. I constantly feel that I’m treading water just to stay afloat and that there are never enough hours in the day to accomplish all that needs done, but I think most writers feel that way. I haven’t found a solution yet, but I have learned to say “no” a time or two. Now I just need to stop feeling guilty when I do!

    Fabulous share, Sally!

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  4. It’s a lot easier now that I am retired and have grandchildren. When I was working, I juggled my lab, research and lab personnel with my husband, two kids, and all their activities. It makes me exhausted thinking about it and yes, I often ask myself, how the heck did I do it all? It’s like juggling – you only keep one or two balls in the air at a time!

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  5. Oh, for the wisdom of Solomon! My behindedness grows with the years but I bumble through it and the crucial stuff gets done – and there’s always fun in some of the other stuff.

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  6. For me, learning to say no was the hardest thing. These days that includes acknowledging I can’t do it all, and I can’t comment on everyone’s blogs every day, no matter how much I enjoy the blogs, lols.
    Great archive share, Sally. Hugs 💕🙂

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  7. I’m in the same boat, Jan. Life has gotten busier not quiet like I had tbought it would. We do need to focus on what important to us and necessary.just tough to pick sometimes. I do put family before anything else, but good reminder to self care too!

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  8. Wow. What an intriguing post. I, too, fall into that space called behindness. Between editing projects for other authors, working on my own next two novels, producing a weekly podcast, producing audio books for other authors, producing book trailers, and the usual work around the house, I fall behind on many projects. I have cut down on the social media stuff, which helps. But I’d much rather have too much on my plate than not enough. Thanks for sharing Jan’s thoughts, Sally.

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  9. I love “behindness” as a word! It is very descriptive. I think all of us who are achievers, volunteers, have families, plus involved with ordinary day-to-day responsibilities are behind frequently. I would rather be busy than sitting around. Great post, Jan. Thank you for hosting, Sally.

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  10. The neverending choices of life. Then throw in some unexpected snafu to make it even harder. I’m better about saying no to some things, but I’ve still got work to do.

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  11. I relate so to this post Sally and Jan. It’s great to hear that I’m not alone. I’m not caring for my grandson on a regular basis but hope that will come soon. When it does … well I’ll have to see what I can drop. I note what Jan says about blogging. I’m not consistent and notice the drop off. I don’t have all that many followers. As I’m running my full time business I have to keep up with my business marketing so my writing, at the moment, is secondary. However, my first book is about to be published so I need to promote that. Working on the website, set up Fb and Twitter so another blog to manage. Oh … the juggling! Thank you for your post, Jan. Happy day to all.

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  12. I’m so happy you shared this post of Jan’s, Sally. In the past, I would sacrifice sleep to get more done, but I’ve learned my lesson. Sleep is essential to keep my body healthy and my mind sane. So, now I practice self-compassion. I say, “Oops!” and shrug a lot.

    I didn’t get that one done….oops (shrug). BUT I did get xyz done. Maybe tomorrow…

    I live by a very tight schedule and write down my to do list for that day in order of priority. This helps as well. Then, I focus on those items I was able to accomplish instead of those I didn’t get to. It’s not easy for me because I am a perfectionist, but stress depletes my body of its health, so I am learning to practice loving kindness to myself and let go of what I cannot control. 🙂

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    • I always work on the principle that if you have people in your life who need you.. then you need to take great care of yourself.. this includes with grandchildren or perhaps elderly parents. You need to be firing on all cylinders to be there for them.. I work a week ahead so I can take out time as I need to.. I love blogging and writing but sometimes a day in the garden with a book or some music does more good than anything.. hugsxx

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