Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – D. G. Kaye Explores the Realms of Relationships 2021 – Wrapping up the Year and Covid Lingering Effects

Realms of Relationships – Wrapping up the Year and Covid Lingering Effects

Welcome to my Realms of Relationships post finale for 2021. I hope you all have been enjoying my articles where I share some of own experiences about different types of relationships. Next year I’ll be back with my travel columns and later in the year I’ll be back with more relationship talk, and maybe even something new!

In this edition, I want to talk about relationships that have been altered or have taken on new awakenings through the global pandemic we’ve all been living through for almost two years now.

Once all the lockdowns began, life as everyone knew it changed. Suddenly, moms and dads are working at home, trying to get their jobs done as they had to adapt to helping school their kids digitally – a feat in itself for the technically challenged.

How we’re affected by the ages:

Many couples forced to spend more time together during lockdown discovered they loved and missed going to work to get out of the house to avoid 24/7 with a partner, while some other relationships were strengthened in that time as many re-discovered, reconnected, and re-evaluated their relationships. Some friendships were strengthened, while some others were let go of as realizations and evaluations of our lives took place when we were restricted from seeing anyone. So many were affected from quarantine conditions from unemployment adding financial strains, dealing with sick and dying loved ones, disrupted homelife, home schooling and growing mental illnesses because of forced conditions having created havoc in so many people’s lives. Many statistics have been cited about the increase of divorce enquiries and proceedings. I also must make mention of the many stranded at home stuck in abusive relationships with no escape.

Young children are equally affected at differing crucial stages of their learning, as well as hampered social skills while not being able to play or interact in person with others. Many young children and toddlers missing crucial interacting at nursery schools and play dates spending two of their earliest years either missing social interaction – where they learn to socialize by playing and learning together with other children, while others too young to realize the way they are growing up in their earliest years at home isn’t situation normal.

Middle-grade and teenaged kids were desperately missing social interaction. As they craved their usual activities with friends at a time of exploration of the world at their curious ages, suddenly having their ‘regular’ lives ripped out from them stuck at home with family in their new constricted lives, have had to find ways to adapt. How many suicides do we even imagine have occurred because of the mental disruption of their lives?

The elderly have had to endure not only extra lonely times with aching hearts as their loved ones ached with the worry for them, but many of the elderly who rely on the help and visits from others were devastatingly left out in the cold. The long, lonely hours of being alone became so much more profound for both the sick and the agile – those that require daily visits for care, and those denied the ability for visitations from loved ones. Yes, digital apps helped to connect some and not others, became the backup for visual virtual visits, but there is no substitute for a real human visit where we can look into someone’s eyes and feel the love, a touch, a hug, and human physical compassion, and this missing of human interaction left a gaping hole in the hearts of too many.

The sick who couldn’t get proper medical attention and consequently dying before their time – like my husband, who died BECAUSE of the Covid epidemic halting regular doctor visits and no way to get into a hospital unless there was an evident and immediate emergency. Those that actually feared going to a hospital for serious ailments because they were afraid they’d catch the Covid inside the hospital. The undiagnosed cancers, deeming treatment too late – LIKE my husband. The strokes and heart attacks people died from because they refused to go to hospitals during Covid. The delayed testing for the so many with yet to have diagnosis that did and will ultimately end these people’s lives earlier than would have pre-pandemic. And the list goes on and on.

I know what I write of is merely touching on the tip of the icebergs as so many in the world have suffered losses – loss of lives, sickness, and financial draining. These devastations in all our lives in some way or another have become the rude awakenings for us, and worse for many more.

Realizations. This pandemic gave us all a time for reflection and reckoning, a look around, and incite as to who’s caring about us? I know I’ve certainly had startling revelations myself after losing my husband seven months ago and discovering that my own family (save for two) doesn’t have the time of day for me, as well as discovering that my husband’s family were just that – my husband’s family. This rude awakening for me just brought me back to Maya Angelou’s famous quote: “When people show you who they are, believe them.”

What I’ve learned during this pandemic: Keep your circles small and tight. It’s all about the quality of the people in our lives, not the quantity. And friends are the family we choose.

If anyone here would like to share some of your own awakenings and discoveries you’ve had through these trying times, please feel free to share.

Let us all pray for a better year globally, the sick to heal, the virus to die, and peace, love, and brotherhood to return to mankind.

Below are links to just a few articles on how the pandemic has wreaked havoc on many relationships:

Covid – Divorce Rates

BBC – Spikes in Break ups and Divorces

©DGKaye2021

My thanks to Debby for this exploration of the impact on individuals, families and their relationships of the last two years of the pandemic

Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.

Quotes:

“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

“For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

Books by D.G. Kaye

One of the reviews for Meno-What

D. W. Peach 5.0 out of 5 stars A memoir/guide filled with good humor and good sense Reviewed in the United States on September 27, 2021

I tried to read this book in bed before nodding off, but my husband made me go downstairs… apparently my laughter was keeping him up. As someone who’s gone through “The Change,” I found this book highly relatable and, at times, laugh out loud funny. Kaye recommends laughter as a way of dealing with this shocking stage of life, and her account of her own battle with menopause and post-menopausal changes demonstrates that conviction.

Kaye gives an overview of the biological changes, reminds us that she isn’t a doctor, and clarifies that every woman will experience this misery in different ways. Besides offering plenty of opportunities for laughter, she provides suggestions for ways to manage our changing bodies. I especially related to her discussion of post-menopausal changes that begin with a stage called “What the Hell?”

Her anecdotes are relatable… the covers on/covers off routine… opening the car window to let the snow blow in… “alligator” skin… sagging, spots, you name it, she covers the gamut and all with sardonic wit, disbelief, good sense, and a determination to fight back. This book is a memoir but one that doubles as a guide for women during their menopausal journeys. Highly recommended.

Read all the reviews and buy the books: Amazon US – and: Amazon UK – follow Debby: Goodreads

Connect to Debby Gies – Blog: D.G. Kaye Writer – About me: D.G. Kaye – Twitter: @pokercubster Linkedin: D.G. Kaye – Facebook: D.G. Kaye – Instagram: D.G. Kaye – Pinterest: D.G. Kaye

 

Thanks for joining Debby today and please share your experiences in the comments.. thanks Sally.

54 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – D. G. Kaye Explores the Realms of Relationships 2021 – Wrapping up the Year and Covid Lingering Effects

  1. If I were a kid, not seeing my friends s much would have been devastating. Things have definitely improved, but even as an adult, I missed that the most at the beginning of Covid.

    Saddest of all have been the sacrifices of our medical workers—people who have helped to try and keep the ship afloat during this challenging time. The least we can do is respect their right to stay safe.

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  2. There have been so many far-reaching effects of Covid and it’s still affecting us…I admire the medical staff and auxiliary staff who are still tirelessly working to treat and contain Covid which as you have rightly said is at the detriment of other illnesses..all and this is my take on it compounded by inconsiderate covid deniers and anti-vaxxers…and now it seems to be on the increase yet again!…

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  3. Hi Debby and Sally, There are so many insightful observations here. The effects are so far-reaching and overwhelming, but most of us have made it through and hopefully things will gradually improve. Hugs to you both. Toni x

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  4. I cannot imagine being confined in our little house with my parents and siblings. Equally I am sure homeschooling my three children would have been a nightmare, it was hard enough getting our youngest to do his homework. So I am filled with admiration for all parents and schoolchildren in Covid times. Most of all Covid exposed inequality. Anyone with a nice house and garden, good internet access and able to work from home was automatically safer and healthier than others.

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  5. I have loved your Relationships Series this year, Debby and Sally. Thank you. ❤ Our online connections have been a lifeline. ❤ I am deeply grateful to the medical staff and food/delivery and goods services folk who stepped up and showed care every day. Communities pulled together and we all had time for reflection. It has been a time of sharp stabs eased by others kindness. I hold you in my heart as I write those words, Debby. ❤ I will never forget the kindness shown by the consultant who sorted a difficult issue out for me on the spot, my Dad's GP who reached out during the perfect storm surrounding my Dad's final days and Tim who flowed kindness and care while I cleared by Dad's workshops and then a few months ago, turned his life upside down so we could be together. It is all about love. ❤ My love to you both. ❤ xXx ❤

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  6. Thank you for mentioning the different problems this pandemic had brought up, Debby! Some are solved, and other continue to work. I am feeling so sorry, for all the people left lonely, especially children. And also the stress seems not to be over yet. There is a lot of work to do, for rebuilding a proper community. xx Michael

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  7. Powerful words, Debby. Throughout this pandemic, the two of us have been the lucky ones. We have each other, supportive family nearby and a garden where we’ve been able to meet up. As you so rightly say, for many people the situation has been a living and enduring nightmare. I know someone with a baby who screamed when she she saw new people because she’d spent so much time locked away in the family bubble. As a teenager, I’d have been desperate to meet up with my peer group. Anyone living in a cramped tower block must have felt stifled and trapped and the elderly living on their own must have keenly felt the isolation and loneliness. Here, at the height of the devastation, families weren’t allowed to say goodbye to their loved ones before they died. And through all of this are the overworked and underpaid health workers who suffered huge losses themselves and who tried to make sure that no one faced the end without a nurse or doctor holding their hand. I’m so sorry that you had to lose your lovely husband in the middle of all this chaos – the inability to access medical help earlier must prey on your mind.
    Don’t get me started on anti-vaxxers!

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  8. In some cases, the pandemic showed us who people really are. Most people proved they are kind, considerate and selfless. But it also brought out the weirdos and selfish folks. Sigh. Thanks for your great articles, Debby.

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  10. So very true, Debby. People were very optimistic to begin with, but, I must say that many of the changes haven’t been for the better. Let’s hope countries learn to cooperate and so do people. I count myself lucky. The losses have been so huge for so many people…. Thanks, Debby.

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