Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives 2021 – #Potluck – #BookReview from Harmony Kent for #Memoir – P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

Since this series began in January 2018 there have been over 1100 Posts from Your Archives where bloggers have taken the opportunity to share posts to a new audience… mine.

The topics have ranged from travel, childhood, recipes, history, family and the most recent series was #PotLuck where I shared a random selection of different topics. This series is along the same lines… but is a ‘Lucky Dip’

In this series I will be sharing posts from the first six months of 2021 and on occasion I might dip into months either side to share gems. Submissions are now closed but there will be another series in January 2022.

This is the second post from author Harmony Kent and it is a great review for P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye Amazon US – and: Amazon UK

Today, I have a book review for an author I’ve known and admired for a long time, Debby Kaye. Her honesty and bravery shine through in this book of non-fiction, and I feel it’s one everybody should read

About the Book:

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts.

In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near.

Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

Harmony’s review for the book

As soon as I saw what this book was about, I had to read it, and I am so pleased I did.

Because of the difficult subject matter, and my own history, I had to take a deep breath before I plunged in. Not only has this writer’s honesty and bravery helped me to understand my parents a little better, it has also shown me precisely what my sister has become. I’d missed that, and this explains so very much.

It is a sad fact of life that, all too often, the victim becomes the perpertrator, unless we have the insight and strength to do something about it. I have long joked that I’m the reverse ‘black sheep’ of my family, and it seems to me that Debby is too. For all our successes, and the miracle of growing into well-adjusted adults in spite of it all, we will never be accepted by a parent who demands that we live their lies, manipulations, and abuses. The same with any sibling who demands the same.

Some lines that resonated with me in particular:

‘A narcissistic mother doesn’t have to be in one’s presence. She can still demand and demean no matter how far away.’

and

‘It is my decision to banish my mother from my life and a resolution to find peace within myself with my decision.’

and

‘[…] if we’re lucky enough to realize the bad, we have the opportunity to steer ourselves in a better direction.’

For a while now, I have struggled to think of what I will do when one or the other of my parents dies. I’m not even sure they would let me know, at this stage. And reading this honest and brave account from D G Kaye has helped me immensely. It has also helped to explain the till-now inexplicable behaviour of my twin sister. She has grown up with emotional neglect, as did I, and has now become a narcissist. This book has helped me to identify why she lives and behaves the way she does.

From my own life, I know how hard it is to go against the grain to become your own person despite your upbringing. It takes work, day by day, to resist some of those unhealthy habits instilled in us as children and to trust our judgements and motives. It takes courage to not give in to the insidious lack of self-esteem with which such adults are often left. The author has overcome much, and I admire her deeply both for her acheivements and for putting her journey into words so that others of us can also be helped.

PS I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy gets a solid and resounding 5 stars from me. A difficult read, but a book everybody should read.

Note on Harmony’s Ratings: I consider a 3-star rating a positive review. Picky about which books I give 5 stars to, I reserve this highest rating for the stories I find stunning and which moved me.

©Harmony Kent 2021

My thanks to Harmony for permitting me to share posts from her archives and I know she would love to hear from you.

Harmony Kent

About Harmony Kent

After spending around thirteen years as an ordained Buddhist monk, living in a Zen Buddhist temple, and six years after a life-changing injury following a surgical error, Harmony Kent returned to the world at the tender age of forty.

Indie Author Harmony Kent is an award winning multi-genre author. Her publications include:

The Battle for Brisingamen (Fantasy Fiction) AIA approved – The Glade (Mystery/Thriller) AIA Approved/BRAG Medallion Honouree/New Apple Literary Awards Official Selection Honours 2015 – Elemental Earth (YA Fantasy Fiction) – Polish Your Prose: Essential Editing Tips for Authors (Writing/Editing) New Apple Literary Awards Top Medallist Honours 2015 – Finding Katie (Women’s Fiction) – Slices of Soul (Contemporary Poetry) – Interludes (Erotic Short Stories) – Moments (Short Stories and Poetry) – Jewel in the Mud (Zen Musings) Backstage (Erotic Romance)- Interludes 2 (Erotic Short Stories)

As well as being an avid reader and writer, Harmony also offers reviews and supports her fellow indie authors, Harmony works hard to promote and protect high standards within the indie publishing arena. She is always on the look out for talent and excellence, and will freely promote any authors or books who she feels have these attributes. Harmony lives in Cornwall, England. Harmony is passionate about supporting her fellow authors.

A small selection of books by Harmony Kent

Read the reviews and buy the books: Amazon UK – And : Amazon US – Follow Harmony:Goodreads – Website:Harmony KentTwitter: @Harmony_Kent

 

64 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives 2021 – #Potluck – #BookReview from Harmony Kent for #Memoir – P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

  1. Wow. What a beautiful and insightful review from Harmony. Clearly Debby’s book struck at some core issues faced by people dealing with toxic family members. Knowledge, insight, and plenty of compassion for oneself seem key to recovery. Congrats to Debby on the outstanding review.

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  3. OMG I don’t remember seeing this review! And looking at the date, it’s no surprised as April I was out of my mind. I am elated for you choosing this from Harmony’s reviews Sal. And I am humbled at Harmony’s heartfelt review and her sharing some of her own experience that resonated. I’m always touched when my book touches someone, and a five star review from Harmony is the icing on the cake. Thank you to both! ❤ ❤

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  4. I find this book review of Debby’s memoir deeply poignant and moving. The “sins of the father,” as it were, is thought by so many to be a taboo subject, so I applaud Debby all the more for digging deep and authoring a book well worth sharing! This is why writers write, and Harmony’s book review is a fine forum with which to share Debby’s book. Great post! Thank you, Sally, Debby, and Harmony!

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