Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Spiritual Awareness – How Do You Know If You Are An Empath – The Signs by D.G. Kaye

Explore the spiritual side of our natures as D.G. Kaye shares her experiences and research into this element of our lives.

You can find Part Three of the series: Empaths and Energy Sucking Vampires and Narcissists

Welcome back to my spiritual empath series. This is the last part of the empath series. In the three other episodes, I’ve talked about empathic communications, how to shield from negative energies, and energy sucking vampires. In this part, I’m going to share tips to help you decide if you are indeed an empath.

First, I’d like to share the two different definitions between empathy and sympathy. These two words are often misconstrued.

Meanings defined by

Sympathy –  Noun,

the act or state of feeling sorrow or compassion for another

Empathy –  Noun,

the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the emotions, thoughts, or attitudes of another

If you’ve been following this series, you have already gained some information about being an empath and all the good and bad that come along with being one. Often referred to as both – a blessing and a curse.

The word ‘empath’ is often thrown around loosely, and often misconstrued with other spiritual terms pertaining to psychic abilities. But plenty of empaths live among us, many you may know, and many you may never have guessed are empaths. You may detect from some friends or family who cannot watch a movie containing scenes of violence (like me), one in your circles who acts like a mother hen, always willing to help, or the one who is first to take care of a sick loved one. These are your typical empathic people who hold a great amount of compassion as they have the ability to feel other people’s pain and struggles as though it were their own. Besides the people empaths choose to help, they are extremely vulnerable to selfish, psychopathic, and narcissistic personalities who will attempt to drain them dry for as much giving and attention they can get.

Below are some telling signs to help you find if you too are an empath:

  • You are very perceptive and highly in tune to the energy and vibes around and feel an inner knowing about something that just feels amiss
  • You relate to other’s problems as though they were your own and feel compelled to help others by absorbing their energy
  • Your desire to listen to others and try to help find solutions is more than you like to share your own problems
  • The energy you give off can be felt by others, often attracting stranger to feel the comfort to talk to you without ever knowing you and often feeling like they know you from somewhere without ever meeting you before
  • You have a strong interest about the spiritual world and metaphysical things and the universe
  • You have an opened mind and a desire to learn new things and always seeking information
  • You are a black sheep and don’t follow the masses and dance to the beat of your own thinking despite taking in what others have to say
  • You are a free spirt abhorring conforming to anyone’s rules and you are most likely a creative of some sort
  • You often get overwhelmed in a crowd of people
  • You are a peacemaker among friends and family because you’re uncomfortable around discord
  • You can be moody because bad energies are affecting
  • You have a strong intuition
  • You can detect insincerity and you will dodge such people (politely) as best you can
  • You struggle with setting boundaries

If you can check off most of these points above, you are undoubtedly, an empath. And if you would like to learn more about being an empath, I encourage you to explore books and videos to help you get to know how you can use these abilities to the positive and learn to disregard the negative energies you attract.

Recommended Reading:

Empath: A Complete Guide for Developing Your Gift and Finding Your Sense of Self by Judy Dyer

The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People
By Dr. Judith Orloff

12 Signs You’re an Empath

13 Signs You’re an Empath

I hope you’ve enjoyed this series and possibly learned more about yourselves and/or someone you know.

In the next series, I’m going to be talking about angels.

©D.G.Kaye 2022

My thanks to Debby for another fascinating exploration of the world of an empath . I know she would love to hear from you.

About D.G. Kaye (Debby Gies)

Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.


“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

“For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

Books by D.G. Kaye

One of the reviews for P.S. I Forgive You

L. Carmichael 5.0 out of 5 stars Painful but Wonderful Memoir  Reviewed in the United States on July 13, 2019

My month of memoirs continues with an autobiography by D. G. Kaye — ‘P.S. I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy.’ Although not quite a series, this is the second book by the author as she explores the impact of a narcissistic mother on her daily life. I read this before bed last night, and all I can say is that some people are dealt a very unfair hand in life. That said, it’s amazing to see how wonderful Kaye is handling all that she went through in the last ~50 years. What a great (but painful) read!

Imagine growing up with a mother who seems to intentionally cause pain for her children. The oldest of four, Kaye spent years letting the woman treat her horribly. In this introspective and emotional autobiography, we learn how and why she tolerated it. The memoir kicks off by letting readers know that the author’s mother has passed away, and this is the story of how she handled the decision whether to be there when the woman crossed over. Sick for many years, touch and go at times, it seems like every possible painful opportunity was taken to cause trouble for this family. It was heartbreaking not just because of what they went through but because you really want this to turn out to be a positive story.

In some ways, it does turn out that way… in death, you are often released from the troubles of the past. Not quickly. Not immediately. Not entirely. Kaye suffers to this day because of the trauma she went through. Emotional pain can be far worse and impacting that physical pain. Seeing how the author connects with her siblings and her aunt helps provide a sense of love and hope for her future. Kaye has a phenomenal way of sharing her past with readers… we feel as if we are there, but one thing is for sure — we were not. That… is fantastic writing.

There is a cathartic honesty in her writing style as well as how she processes the events of her life. On the outskirts, it might seem simple: (A) She’s your mother, you should stay and respect her, or (B) She’s been evil and nasty, you need to run away and forget her. Nope… Kaye fully provides the wide spectrum of all the scenarios that ran through her head, some positive and some not-so-positive. How do you make such a decision? Only a strong person can thoroughly see through the minutia to determine what’s best for both the victim and the victimizer (I might’ve made that work up).

If I could reach through a book to hug someone, this would be the prime one for it to happen. I’ve felt these emotions tons of times before when an author creates a character who suffers… but when a real-life woman shares the truth and the pain she’s gone through, it’s a whole different ball game. If you have a high threshold for reading about someone’s emotional suffering, I suggest you take this book on… it might give you the perspective you need to help others. 

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Thanks for dropping in today and it would be great if you could share Debby’s post.. thanks Sally



80 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Spiritual Awareness – How Do You Know If You Are An Empath – The Signs by D.G. Kaye

  1. A fascinating conclusion to the series, Debby. I think I have empathy but I’m not sure that I qualify as an empath. I know how deeply you personally feel and sense things and, as you’ve pointed out, that can be a two-edged sword. xx

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  2. A very interesting article by Debbie… I can tick off most of these points. I need to go back though and read the earlier 2 posts in this series. Thank you, Sally for sharing this and thank you,Debby for this. I hadn’t known before that I was an empath. Now I know 🙂

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  3. Like Alex, I have empathy (and try to be, although in my professional capacity some professional distance was necessary) but I don’t think I’m an empath. Thanks for Debby for such a useful post and for her recommendations.

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  4. I tick off way too many items from the list! Often, I’m in tears or horrified at watching a series or movie and have to be careful what I let myself in for.

    This has been a great series. Thank you, Debby and Sally, for sharing! Have a wonderful week. Hugs 💕🙂

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  5. This has been a great series, Debby. Judy Dyer’s book is a great one. All of your tips and suggestions have been helpful. Thank you for sharing. Thank you, Sally, for hosting this series!

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  6. Great list to check off if one is empathic. I had to laugh at the moody one since I’m feeling a bit on the moody side right now. Loved this series. Xo

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  7. A wonderful conclusion to an informative series, Debby. I can check off many of the qualities on the list, though some were more relevant to my younger years when my boundaries were more porous. I’m less moody now, for example, and less likely to absorb others’ negativity. Being sensitive to the needs of others, helping and being kind, are qualities I value and will hang on to. Great series, my friend, and thanks for hosting, Sally.

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  8. I did manage to get to see two posts in this series including this one Debby, which I thoroughly enjoyed. I was away on vacation when the other ones came out. Your articles are much appreciated and quite thought provoking. Many thanks for your insights and thanks to Sally for hosting. Hugs
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  13. Debby this is an amazing series! Thanks, Sal for hosting such a great topic. I’m beginning to learn more about this as I have suffered since childhood as being ‘too sensitive’. I have read that one of the reasons people are empaths is because they learn at a very young age to read body language and hear voice intonation, due to volatile home life. I fit that bill and boy, do I pick up people’s moods quickly. I would like to learn more about managing that.

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  14. HI Debby, this is such an interesting list of attributes. I have read a few books featuring empaths so I am familiar with the term. I have never heard it used here in South Africa. People here refer to others as philanthropist if they do anything kind or considerate for the community.

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      • Yes, indeed, Sally, it is just not an expression that I’ve ever heard used here. Philanthropist is very popular and used for many kinds of people to be honest. English is also not the most widely spoken language here so there may be other terms used in different cultures and languages.

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    • Hi Robbie. Thanks for popping by here to continue reading. I’m so glad you enjoyed my post. I would have to say that philanthropist and empath are not the same, although a philanthropist can most definitely be an empath. ❤

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  15. It’s been a most interesting series.
    Thank you to both of you!
    (I checked off 10)
    This series is so fab, I have to wonder what you 2 will get up to next? xoxo

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