Smorgasbord Reblog – Aging and Wisdom – The New Perennial Age of Women by D. G. Kaye

My friend Debby Gies.. author D.G. Kaye explores the terms used to describe women of a certain age who despite pigeon holing by media and employers, continue to flourish and deny their years. Compared to the mindset of our parent’s era, we are very much younger in our approach to our middle years, and we also have changed some of the rules about how we should look physically.  I am sure that you will get a kick out of Debby’s post and embrace the new term of endearment for us women of a certain age… Perennial.

How many times have we said we don’t feel or look our age? When did middle-age sneak into our lives? Where did the years go?

I’m sure we’ve all begged the answers to those questions once or twice as we women approach our ‘Perennial’ years.

What comes to mind when women use the terms ‘the new 40 or 50′, even 60 or 70? Here’s a clue: it encompasses so much more than just looks.

In my opinion, looks have changed since the last generation, without discounting so many other changes that have occurred through the decades to empower women. Women in their 40s and 50s look much younger than those from decades past. I’m not referring to the advent of cosmetic surgery, but when I look back on decades past, I notice some interesting hairdos and fashion statements. Looking back at the women in my own family and even movie stars with the styles of yesteryear, it’s not hard for me to compare a woman of today in her 40s or 50s appearing younger looking than those before us at the same age. Was it the hairstyles, a more sedentary lifestyle which gave the impression a women in her 30s back when of 30 or 40 years ago looked similar in age to women now in their 40s or 50s?

Back in those days, women didn’t lead lifestyles like they do now, some with powerful jobs, being the bigger bread winner, many working what used to be considered, jobs for only men, or raising a family while carrying a job. “We’ve come a long way baby,” as the old cigarette ad used to say. (Am I giving away my age?)

I have to laugh at the many times my sister and me would bring up the subject of our dreaded childhood weekends we were forced to spend at our paternal grandparents’ house. We’d remark to one another about how even when we were small, our grandmother looked like . . . well, a grandmother. We only envision her old from as far back as we can remember. But lol, I digress.

What made me write this post on women then and now was prompted by a conversation I had on the weekend with one of my sister-in-laws. She shared a topic of discussion that came up between her and her yoga teacher. Her teacher had referred to women in the age group of 40s and 50s as ‘perennials’. Have any of you heard this term used before? I haven’t. But I love it.

I’ve heard of some more unflattering terms such as menopausal, even cougars, but not perennials.

Head over to Debby and check your Perennial Woman Status and if you are a guy with a woman of a certain age then head over to and make sure you are not missing out!:

About D.G. Kaye

I’m a nonfiction memoir writer who writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. My intent is to inspire others by sharing my stories about events I encountered, and the lessons that come along with them.

I love to laugh, and self-medicate with a daily dose of humor. When I’m not writing intimate memoirs, you’ll find me writing with humor in some of my other works and blog posts.

When I was a young child, I was very observant about my surroundings. Growing up in a tumultuous family life; otherwise known as a broken home, kept me on guard about the on-and-off-going status of my parents’ relationship. I often wrote notes, and journaled about the dysfunction that I grew up in. By age seven I was certain I was going to grow up to be a reporter.

Well life has a funny way of taking detours. Instead, I moved away from home at eighteen with a few meager belongings and a curiosity for life. I finished university and changed careers a few times always striving to work my way up to managerial positions. My drive to succeed at anything I put my mind to led me to having a very colorful and eventful life.

Ever the optimist, that is me. I’ve conquered quite a few battles in life; health and otherwise, and my refusal to accept the word ‘No’, or to use the words ‘I can’t’, keeps me on a positive path in life.

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences.

Books by D.G. Kaye

The most recent review for P.S. I Fogive You – A Broken Legacy on Goodreads

Martha Perez rated it Five Stars.

When I started to read this astonishing true story I have to say I’m very proud of D.G. Kaye, this is a heart- wrenching story with so much emotions about a mother and daughter relationship having a narcissistic mother and being so selfish and damaging her daughter. A mother is supposed to love and treasure the gift God gave her instead she gave her pain and sorrow. I honestly relate to this story D. G. Kaye is an amazing woman she is strong to tell such heartrending an emotional story she has so much courage to heal herself and others.

You live with this all your life wondering why? What did I do wrong! You start to question and blame your own self it’s living with a dysfunctional family it’s never your fault it’s all we know until you’re in adult that you realized how messy life is, she has to make a decision to forgive her mother I think it’s up to the person that was hurt to make such a tough choice. I recommend this book you will learn so much!! Definitely a page-turner.

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Sally’s Cafe and Bookstore Author Update – D.G. Kaye and Kim Cox

Welcome to the first of the Cafe and bookstore updates this week and it is time to catch up with D.G. Kaye and her memoir P.S. I Forgive You – A Broken Legacy

About the book

“I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.p style=”text-align: left;”>

The latest review on Amazon

Why forgive? Isn’t it extremely hard to do so? This question reverberates around me even after reading the most poignant account of D.G. Kaye who had nobody to turn to for love, care and affection.

When a child’s mother is selfish and self-centered, when she blames and threatens her own daughter, when emotional abuse almost breaks the spirit of a girl who tries her best to please her mother, forgiveness is a far cry.

Forgiveness is the most intransigent emotion, the most hurting feeling, rekindling the sensation of being victimized; highlighting the supremacy and the arrogance of our perpetrator yet Kaye emerges resilient, responsible, benevolent and at peace after she decides to let go all the grief that had eaten into the best hours of her life.

‘P.S. I Forgive You’ is the story of every child who is deprived of a loving childhood due to insensitive parenting. It could inspire a thousand mothers to be emotionally present, to be more understanding and loving and pay attention to the little concerns of their children.

My heart missed a beat when I read how Kaye is torn between guilt and duty to go and see her dying mother and decides to go to her father’s grave “to speak to my dad about current goings on in my life and update him on family matters,” she confides.

“I feel lifeless, I miss you, mama. I miss everything I didn’t have from you. Still I am sorry. I forgive you.”…That sums up the distressing memories of the author whose grief and guilt merge into each other at the death of her mother.

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Then next author is Kim Cox with a new release on May 19th – Dream, Conquer, and Love – Short story collection.

About the collection.

A DREAM COME TRUE – The first short story in the Second Chances series.

Miriam Alexander takes a vacation to Cancun and gets the surprise of her life. Her daughter, Kaitlin, has been playing matchmaker. Can she give her heart to Rhett Yancey again after he stomped on it the first time?

IN HIS ARMS – The second short story in the Second Chances series.

Julia and Edward (Ed) White have been estranged for a couple of years. Ed’s lack of support he gave her as an author, calling her romances, “Not real writing” was the leading cause of their separation. Now Julia has a new editor who wants multiple changes on a book that’s to be release in just a few months. On the plane to New York City for a meeting with her editor, who does she run into, Ed of all people.

Ed realizes that he was jealous of his wife’s success as a writer when he himself couldn’t find a publisher for his non-fiction books. Now he has a regular job and wants his wife back.

Can husband and wife rekindle their love, put their differences aside and salvage a marriage that was doomed two years ago?

ALL FOR LOVE – Prequel to Love Conquers All:

Will Carina and Tyler find their way back to each other, or will she turn to an old lover?

Carina and Tyler Anderson are living their dream life. Carina Anderson thinks her life is about as perfect as it can get until Tyler begins acting strangely. When secrets are revealed, Carina’s life is blown apart both mentally and physically.

LOVE CONQUERS ALL – Sequel to All For Love:

Carina and Tyler are finally back on track when Javier is up to his old tricks again. He threatens them by playing on their fears and using their own love to turn them against each other.

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Smorgasbord Blog Sitting Special – I Spy by author D. G. Kaye

blog-sittingI am delighted to welcome author D.G. Kaye (Debby Gies) to the Blog Sitting team and Debby has been very much a part of Smorgasbord since I began posting in 2013. Hugely supportive of all those that she follows, her presence is a constant reminder that virtual friendships are as real as those that are face to face.

D.G. Kaye Author

D.G. Kaye is a nonfiction memoir writer who writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. She writes to inspire others by sharing her stories about events she’s encountered, and the lessons that come along with them.

In her post today Debby explores how the innocent childhood game of I Spy that we would play in the car on long journeys has become a monster…..

I Spy – Is There Any Privacy Left Anywhere?

Remember that little game we used to play when we were kids in the car to keep us entertained on a long drive—I spy? Back in the day, it was a game. In today’s world, it’s not so much a game as it has become an invasion of privacy.

I spy, is all around us, from governments knowing every detail about us, down to the color of our underwear when going through airport security. Public places abound with cameras—our every move caught on tape. Be careful not to be caught picking your nose in public, for surely someone is watching.

All these cameras were initially intended for theft surveillance, but have been taken to some extremes to a point where there are no sacred private moments left, and that can be held as evidence somewhere—should the need arise.

If it isn’t a store or a public place photographing our existence, we have to be leery about someone randomly snapping a photo of us with their cell phone, whether for pure entertainment or with bad intentions to be used for evil purposes. We must also be aware of photos snapped to copy our banking pin numbers when making a purchase. I wish I knew why every good technological invention is transformed into yet another means for evil-doers to seek out new avenues of deception.

How about those pop-up ads we see that are tailored specifically to our interests when surfing the web? I’m sure many of you can identify. I spend half of my waking hours on the computer. My writing, reading, social media and blog take up the better part of my days, and sometimes when I want an escape from everything, I may visit some of my favorite shopping sites and browse. The next time I go back to visit one of my personal social pages, I find a sidebar or pop-up ad displaying the exact items I previously looked at on a shopping site. Who is this? Who the heck now surveys my personal shopping habits? Where do we draw the line? There’s nowhere left to hide!

I feel this technological era has surpassed its scope of being informative and graduated into the extremely invasive. I can’t help but think about those microchips they can place in dog’s collars to track them in case they stray and get lost. Even cars have them for theft purposes to find a signal to locate a stolen car. We’re not alone when we think we are.

I’m wondering how long will it be before our governments will want to insert microchips into us to make their tracking methods on us more simplified.

© 2017

P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

About D.G. Kaye’s latest book P.S. I Forgive You.

“I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

One of the recent reviews for the book.

P.S. I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy is a journal of a rollercoaster of emotions displayed by this author as she deals with a narcissistic mother. This is journey through life to survive without love and care from a mother who was incapable of loving anyone but herself.

The author opens her heart to the reader as her emotions pour out. She does all she can to make amends but to no avail and is forced to forgive her unfeeling mother and repair the damage done to her and her siblings.

This book is a catharsis to anyone who has had to live with this kind of parent. It helps them deal with the myriad emotions that continue to bubble up inside and threaten to suffocate oneself.

My heart goes out to this child and her siblings who somehow managed to be strong and resilient even though they were never taught the essentials of parenting and the love that is needed to bring up a child. The author has shown remarkable strength and courage to face head-on the torments that continually threaten her very soul. I recommend this book to anyone who has yet to feel closure from an unhealthy relationship.

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My thanks to Debby for sharing this post in by absence… It should give us all pause for thought as we divulge the intimate details of our lives in grown up I Spy…. Please share the message. thanks Sally

Smorgasbord Blog Sitting Special 21st – 28th February – Programme of Events

blog-sittingNormally when I go away for a week I will leave a few regular posts scheduled and pop in from time to time. However, this time it struck me that an empty blog might be put to better use by sharing book and blog promotions.

When I advertised the part-time position of blog sitter, I had no idea that I would get such an amazing response, since I know how busy everybody is with their own blogs.  A special thanks to Paul Andruss for opening up his archives and providing seven posts for the Blog Sitting at Midnight slot all week.

There will be some regulars for you on Monday including the the second of the Top to Toe look at our major organs..The Brain part two… a Bookstore New on the Shelves and a Cafe and Bookstore Update.. Then from Tuesday it is over to you!

For your delectation… here is the programme of events for the week 21st – 28th February – Blog Sitting Specials

Tuesday 21st

Paul Andruss – The Conquerors

Tina Frisco – Time is an Illusion

Cafe and Bookstore – New on the Shelves – Lucy Brazier – First Lady of the Keys

Colin Chappell – Time for some Laffs – Thermodynamics of Hell and Cats vs. Pills.

Wednesday 22nd

Paul Andruss – Raft of the Meduse

William Price King – Finale of the Leontyne Price Series.

D.G.Kaye (Debby Gies) – I Spy

Afternoon Video.

Thursday 23rd

Paul Andruss – Walk on the Wild Side

Cafe and Bookstore Collaborative Anthology – Love in Times of War

Geoff Le Pard – A Wartime Romance

Tina Frisco – Time for some Laffs – Some Lessons in Management.

Friday 24th

Paul Andruss – Of Cabbages and Kings

Top to Toe – The Brain Part Three

N.A. Granger (Noelle Granger) – Maine is a Happy State.

Afternoon Video

Saturday 25th.

Paul Andruss – Cottingley Fairies

Weekly Image and Haiku – Midday Sun

Susan M. Toy – Sisters

Sunday 26th

Paul Andruss – Rosabelle: B.E.L.I.E.V.E

Mary Smith – Afghan Ceilidh

Monday 27th

Paul Andruss – Devil in Devon

Top to Toe – The Heart

Robbie Cheadle – Seven Ice-Cream Rainbow Fairies and Seven Fantasy Books.

Tuesday 28th

John Howell – My Sister

Linda Bethea – The Sinful Suitcase and the Common-Law Cows.

Afternoon video.

My thanks for the terrific posts that everyone has contributed and I hope those of you who drop in during the week will enjoy as much as I have when reading them.

I will be popping from time to time to make sure that everything has been scheduled okay.. hope to see you here. Thanks Sally

Sally’s Cafe and Bookstore Update -John W. Howell, D.G. Kaye and Lyn Horner

Sally's Cafe and Bookstore Update

Welcome to my Cafe and Bookstore Update and the first author is John W. Howell.  My husband bought me all three of John’s book in December as part of my Christmas wish list and I made sure that I took the time to read My GRL the first in the series about John Cannon.

If I could just make a quick note about reviews. I do review every book that I read, but  unfortunately, whilst I do make time for this very essential part of my life, I cannot accept books for review.  There are some great reviewers on WordPress that I suggest you might approach and if you google ‘book review sites’ you should also get some good recommendations.

So here is my review for My GRL by John W. Howell.


About the book

John J. Cannon a successful San Francisco lawyer takes a leave of absence from the firm and buys a boat he names My GRL. He is unaware that his newly-purchased boat had already been targeted by a terrorist group. John’s first inkling of a problem is when he wakes up in the hospital where he learns he was found unconscious next to the dead body of the attractive young woman who sold him the boat in the first place. John now stands between the terrorists and the success of their mission.

My review for My GRL

I like books that are written in the first person, as I think it allows for a more intimate connection with the main character. In the case of John Cannon, it leads to more of a ‘we’ are in this mess together kind of relationship!  From the moment he wakes up in hospital, until the last page, you are dragged into a number of incidents that would be terrifying and seemingly impossible to resolve. However with careful consideration and some keen observational skills, John achieves some interesting solutions to the problems.

John Howell maintains the tension throughout the book and has you sitting on the edge of your seat as he takes you through John Cannon’s predicament. There are also some flashes of humour from the protagonist, who uses wit to deffuse potentially lethal interactions.

The mystery is centred around his new boat that he plans to sail the high seas during his sabbatical, but My GRL is the key to a terrorist plot that could cause carnage. The characters in the story are all believable and demonstrate many of the human frailities from vulnerability to power hungry evil.

This is the first book in the series and I am looking forward to John Cannon’s next outing in Our Justice.

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My next update is for D.G. Kaye also known as Debby Gies... Late last year Debby published her memoir P.S. I Forgive You – A Broken Legacy, and it has been receiving a great deal of attention. Time to update the book with its latest review.

P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. Kaye

About P.S. I Forgive You – A Broken Legacy

“I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

The latest review for the book

How to survive life (and death) with a narcissistic parent  By Jacqui Murray VINE VOICE on January 2, 2017

Originally a sequel to Conflicted Hearts: A Daughter’s Quest for Solace from Emotional Guilt, PS I Forgive You (Amazon Digital Services 2016) became a stand-alone final chapter to D.G. Kaye’s emotional story about surviving a narcissistic mother. You can feel Kaye’s strength as she’s forced to break off communication with her mother as a last-ditch effort to protect her own mental health–even as her mother is dying.

If you come from a loving supportive family (like I do), it’s very difficult to understand the damage caused by this sort of emotional abuse, but through Kaye’s eyes, I felt it. Suffered it. At one point, Kaye mentioned a concern that her mother might read what admittedly was a less than flattering book about her, but I already knew enough about her mother to know that she would never either read her daughter’s published words or listen to them.

That is how powerful this story is: I feel like I knew both Kaye and her mother well by the time I turned the last page. Highly recommended by anyone with a narcissistic family member. This will help you.

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Also by D.G. Kaye

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Sally's Cafe and Bookstore Update

The final update today is for award winning author Lyn Horner and her book Profiling Nathan – Book Five – Romancing the Guardians.  The book was published in October 2016.

Lyn HornerAbout the book

Nathan Maguire is a Guardian of Danu, and he possesses a deadly psychic gift. He also has a checkered past. As a young man, he spent time in prison, where he learned the rudiments of tattooing, a skill he has built into a successful business in Tampa, Florida. He’s content with his life – until a beautiful FBI profiler walks into his shop.

Talia Werner has come to deliver an urgent message from one of the other Guardians. The trouble is no one outside that select group is supposed to know they exist. Nate doesn’t believe Talia and suspects she is up to no-good. Meanwhile, she finds out a woman was brutally murdered not far from Nate’s shop. This is the third such killing in the past two months. A serial killer is loose in Tampa.

Working with the police, Talia discovers all three of the victims bore a blue butterfly tattoo, one of Nate’s designs. Suspicion falls on him but quickly points to other tattoo artists. Enlisting his aid in meeting and interviewing them, Talia develops a growing attraction to the man, who isn’t at all what he seems to be on the surface. Nate returns her feelings and their relationship heats up.However, the killer is still on the hunt, and he knows Talia is after him.

Will the stubborn woman accept Nate’s protection or will she be the murderer’s next victim?

A review for the book.

Good and Balanced, Starts Fast and Keeps Going.By Craig A. Hart on December 2, 2016

Lyn Horner doesn’t waste any time getting into the meat of the story with this book. One thing that bothers me about a lot of writers is that they take forever to get to the actual story–not an issue here!I also enjoyed the characters. Nathan Maguire, a psychic tattoo artist, and Talia Werner, a sexy FBI profiler are both larger than life and help move the story along.

The story itself is a good mix of romance and murder mystery, so there’s something for everyone! Horner also does a good job of creating some great Florida atmosphere, although early on in the book, I got hungry for a Cuban sandwich and had to stop reading to eat something!

A great read!

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A selection of books by by Lyn Horner – please visit her author’s page for the full list.

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How to get into the bookstore

The first step is to have an individual promotion for your latest book which will also feature your other books and some examples of reviews. Please read the following post with the information that I need to do your book justice.

If you are an author already in the bookstore then your new releases and recent reviews will be featured in one of these regular Cafe and Bookstore updates.

Thanks for dropping in today and please help spread the news from these three authors. thanks Sally

Final Bloggers around the Christmas Tree for 2016 and Happy New Year


Welcome to the last of the Bloggers around the Christmas Tree series for 2016.. In another week the decorations will come down and we will begin 2017 having left this year behind.

It would not be difficult to paint 2016 as one of the blackest in quite a while as far as global conflict, loss of icons of stage and screen and political upheavals is concerned. But there have been some good things that have taken place around the world but they seem to have been overwhelmed by the headlines.

There are cultures who are very wary of Leap Years and put great store in the power of that one extra day out of 365.  Many people are glad to be moving into the seemingly more benign 2017 and I do hope for all our sakes that a calmer twelve months is ahead of us. Certainly we will be seeing the unveiling of the results of decisions taken in 2016 such as Brexit and the shift in power in the United States.

I thought today for my last look at Christmas and New Year that I would share a few bloggers reflections on the year from a personal point of view and also their thoughts on some of the events.

But first a delightful look at Christmas past… I could not resist.. sticky buns and Owls on the same page….


Jennie of A Teachers Reflections looks back at a time when she was teaching pre-school and the mother of two of her pupils would come in and teach a very special cookery class. And as a teacher with over thirty years experience, Jennie talks about books and the importance of reading for children.

Another Christmas, and another delivery of sticky buns. Every year I feel like a child hoping that Santa Claus will come, except that Santa is actually “the sticky bun mom”. This is perhaps the longest tradition in my family, and it started decades ago in my classroom. Two young girls, Michelle and Nicole, adored being in my preschool class, especially listening to “Jennie Stories”. They were sisters, and their mother made sticky buns. But, that is only where the story begins. It happened like this

D.G. Kaye Author

Debby Gies has had a very busy year with travel, challenging health issues and publishing her latest book.. all whilst supporting a huge raft of bloggers across the Internet. Here is her reflections about the year and plans and wishes for 2017.

As this year of 2016 draws to an end, many of us will reflect on what has transpired in our lives in the last 12 months. We may re-evaluate some of the decisions we’ve made, take pride in our accomplishments, kick ourselves for things we didn’t get done, and be busy planning for the new year.


Pete from BeetleyPete has a few reflections on 2016 that many of us share. It has been a year of political and global change as well as a challenging year for people on an individual level.

I cannot recall a time when I have ever been happier to bid farewell to a year. 2016 has been without doubt one of the worst years that I can recall. And I can recall some bad ones, I assure you.

There have been a few personal issues, that I will not be going into on a public forum. As well as that, there has also been an inordinate amount of deaths, both public, and personal too. Never has a year seen the Grim Reaper so busy. At least not one that I can remember.

51hb-tptcfl-_uy250_Another amazing author and blogger who does so much to promote other writers is Susan M. Toy.. I have enjoyed reading her own books and can recommend that you pick up copies to add to your 2017 TBR.. In the last few weeks Susan has been reviewing the Best Books Read of 2016 and here is her third post.. with links to the other two. Certainly if Susan recommends a book they are worth reading.

When I posted Part 1 and Part 2 of this series, I didn’t take into consideration that the year was not yet over and I might read more books I highly recommend in those remaining weeks – and, indeed, I have! (I also discovered a few books I had overlooked when compiling my first two lists.) Links for authors featured on Reading Recommendations are included. Every book listed here is rated at 5 stars from me.

So, here we go with THE REST OF THE LIST


Rosie Amber’s review team have done some amazing work this year bringing us their opinions on a huge amount of books that have consequently found their way onto our TBR’s.  This is a very important service to authors and certainly Rosie’s blog is one to follow for 2017. I hope that Rosie will be at the Blogger’s Bash again this year so we can meet in person.

On this New Year’s Eve: My 2016 year in review – I think many folks will be looking back at 2016 and wondering what it all meant to them. I’ve handpicked some of the highlights for me.


Tina Frisco moves across blogworld deftly picking out posts to share that are always interesting and thought provoking as well as writing brilliant pieces herself.  She is a huge supporter of other bloggers and still found time to release her latest book just before Christmas… if you do not already follow Tina you are in for a treat and I hope you will add her to your favourties in 2017.

Over the last week or so Tina has been gathering the aims and wishes of fourteen bloggers for 2017 and posted it today.  Read on...

I’ve thought for some time now that I’d like to have a theme for my blog. Many of the blogs I follow have themes I find most enjoyable. I’ve asked several of these folks to be my guest, tell us what they envision for their blog in 2017, and include their images and links.

I want to thank all of those who responded and wish them great success in the New Year. They are listed below in alphabetical order by first name. Please visit their sites, like and follow, and perhaps download a book or two. Enjoy!

I would like to wish you a stunning 2017 with health, love, laughter and if you play your cards right…. wealth.  Thank you so much for being part of  2016 and look forward to sharing blogworld with you again next year.


The Christmas trees are courtesy of author, poet and broadcaster, Annette Rochelle Aben

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Smorgasbord Christmas Party – Guest author D. G. Kaye with Childhood Christmas Wishes and My First Biggest Tree

christmas partyToday’s guest is no stranger to many of you as Debby Gies, author D.G. Kaye speeds through the Internet like a express train, promoting all of us with elegance and sincere friendship. She is a terrific supporter of Indie authors and you will find interviews, reviews and posts on life at

Recently Debby published a poignant and thought provoking memoir titled P.S. I Forgive You, about her turbulent relationship with her mother that echoed down the years even after her death. Of course there have been some great reviews and I will tell you more about the book later.

First however, I will hand you over to Debby…..

D.G. Kaye AuthorChildhood Christmas Wishes and My First Biggest Tree by D.G. Kaye

As each December approached, I’d take in the views of the glorious glow of Christmas lights and decorations sprouted everywhere, from the street light posts to the homes we’d pass while driving by them, sparkling in all their glory. I was a child and wanted so badly to be part of Christmas.

Coming from a family that didn’t practice much of religion, and having Orthodox Jewish grandparents on my paternal side, didn’t afford me the luxury of having a Christmas tree. This didn’t mean that I didn’t love Christmas and all special festivities I’d witnessed on TV and from visiting friend’s homes who celebrated. I envied the kids who spent fun times with their families, doing traditional holiday things such as wrapping presents, singing carols and most especially, decorating the tree. Oh how I longed to have a bright and sparkly Christmas tree in my home.

When I was very young I didn’t understand why I couldn’t be a part of the festive season, and nobody explained religion to me, other than being told by my grandparents that Jews don’t celebrate that holiday. I’d remembered hearing snippets of memories my mother had mentioned in passing about her lack of Christmas festivities in her own childhood because they were poor, and even though her mother loved Christmas, they didn’t celebrate it because my maternal grandfather was Jewish. I felt empty inside. I felt trapped and confused wondering what kind of religion was I part of where we didn’t celebrate the universal Christmas, and the holidays we did celebrate were not near as much fun.

I wanted to be a part of a family celebration, and other than seeing the menorah lit at my grandparents’ house or gathering there for a compulsory Passover dinner, which consisted of what felt like hours of sitting at the Seder table listening to Hebrew prayers, we didn’t celebrate anything. This didn’t quench my fascination and longing to celebrate with loved ones, nor did I feel any bonding; something I craved much of as a child.

I wanted to wrap up shiny presents and give them to people I loved. I wanted to give gifts even more than I wanted to receive them. I wanted to sing to Christmas songs and wake up Christmas day and run to the tree and open presents with my family.

When I turned eleven, my excitement for Christmas had only heightened. I decided that I just had to be a part of the tradition, if only in a small way. So I began my own ritual.
I was the eldest of four—the mother hen of my siblings. We were alone together much of our childhoods and I wanted to get them as excited as I was about the Christmas holiday spirit. I saved my allowance and went to the local drug store before Christmas Eve and bought candy and little prizes with the coins I had saved, so that I could fill stockings for them. I told my siblings to hang a sock over the fireplace before they went to bed on Christmas Eve. And I made up little Christmas stories to convince them that Santa loved all children, and told them if they would be good and not fight, Santa would come to our house too.

I filled those stockings for a few years, until the younger ones realized, as they were getting older, that there wasn’t really a Santa. But for those four to five years, I filled their imaginations and stockings, and they believed in the magic of Christmas. Through those years, I wanted a Christmas tree so badly, and I never gave up asking my mother to allow us to have one, to no avail. I even tried to sell her on the idea of getting a Hannukah bush, but that never happened either.

When I moved away from home, still in my teens, I got my first tree. I couldn’t wait for Christmas to come so I could go and buy the biggest tree I could find that would fit in my living room. It was a Scotch Pine, and I didn’t realize just how humongous it was until it ‘thawed’ and drank lots of water, until its branches unfolded to almost eight feet wide! I also wasn’t aware of the potential aftermath of prickly Scotch Pine tiny needles left fallen deep inside my shag carpet, long after Christmas passed.

Excitement filled me as a friend took me to a tree farm and I picked out my first beautiful tree that he happily loaded on his truck and helped me carry inside my small apartment. The thrill continued when I went out the next day to purchase my first sparkly, Christmas ornaments to decorate my very own tree.

First time experiments aren’t always conducted with great expertise, and when we’re young we don’t always seem to worry about repercussions. By the time the season ended, that tree had grown so ginormous and needles were falling at lightning speed. My thick, blue shag carpet had already had many needles buried deep within it and when it came time to throw out the tree, I shuddered at the thought that most needles would have fallen off before I got it to the front door, so I resorted to Plan B.

The 14 x 14 inch window was only a few feet away from the tree. A few pals came over, helped me move the couch away from the window, and somehow we managed to fit that 8 ft x 8 ft tree out the window then retrieved it quickly before the superintendent would see it, and carried the almost bald branches to the garbage room.

I will never forget how happy I was that Christmas Eve, in my own peaceful home, sipping wine with close friends in front of the tree, my first real Christmas Eve. I also learned for future trees, how to anticipate their girth spread, and to never get a Scotch Pine again. LOL

©D.G. Kaye 2016

P.S. I Forgive You by D.G. KayeAbout P.S. I Forgive You.

“I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

Confronted with resurfacing feelings of guilt, D.G. Kaye is tormented by her decision to remain estranged from her dying emotionally abusive mother after resolving to banish her years ago, an event she has shared in her book Conflicted Hearts. In P.S. I Forgive You, Kaye takes us on a compelling heartfelt journey as she seeks to understand the roots of her mother’s narcissism, let go of past hurts, and find forgiveness for both her mother and herself.

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near. Kaye once again struggles with her conscience and her feelings of being obligated to return to a painful past she thought she left behind.

And one of the latest reviews.

By Di Amazon Customer on November 22, 2016

I have always felt that something good can always come from something bad and this book clearly proves it. D.G. Kaye is the good that has for some blessed reason come from a horrific childhood. Her mother trumps the fictional mom in Yaya Sisterhood played by Ashley Judd and Ellen Burstyn about a very selfish and narcissistic woman! Whose line in one of the scenes was “Do I look fat?” The sad thing was this book is not writing about a fictional character but a mother who raised an amazing daughter in-spite of her lack of knowing how to love anyone but herself.

I have sent this book to two friends that I feel can relate and need to know that they are not alone and can rise above where they came from and not feel guilt for being angry at their moms.

This book is sad but empowering. Showing that you are not your mothers!

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My thanks to Debby for her entertaining story and look forward to your feedback. Thanks Sally

A Princess in Despair -my exclusive Christmas Story written for D.G.Kaye’s blo

D.G. Kaye... Debby Gies asked me if I would write an exclusive Christmas story for her blog as part of my What’s in a Name series.. I was delighted to do so as Debby has been a wonderful support to me as a writer and also as a friend.

Debby has wrapped the story in glittering style that makes me blush.. but at the same time it is the first gift of the season and most gratefully received. I hope that you will head over and read the story and if you do not already follow Debby please do so.. give yourself a gift.

D.G. Kaye Author

‘Today’s guest post is a little different from my usual Friday Authors with a new book post. In light of the Christmas season, I’ve invited my dear friend, author/blogger, and huge promoter of the works of other artists, Sally Cronin, whose blog is The Smorgasbord Invitation , to come over and share one of her famous short stories for the season. I was thrilled that she had written a new and special story just for me and my blog. Sally has been writing a story series called ‘What’s in a Name’, using alphabetical order to choose a name for the story. In this story, Sally invited me to choose a name to base her story on. I gave her the name ‘Sanja’, my best friend for over 35 years’.

Read The Princess in Despair… A Christmas Fairy Story…..

#Christmas Special Edition – Guest Author Sally Cronin – Short Story and #Promo

Thanks Debby… made my day and Christmas..♥


Sally’s Cafe & Bookstore Christmas Update – FREE offer and new reviews

Throughout the year over 120 authors have been promoted weekly on the blog and their books now reside in the virtual bookstore along with their buy links and websites.  In the run up to Christmas I will be visiting all the authors in the store and checking for updates and new reviews on their most recent books. If you are in the bookstore and have recently published a new book, received a rave review then please let me know..

I have actually read four of the books here today and can recommend them as gifts to yourself or to lovers of a great read.

The first book today is FREE from today through to December 2nd. Have Bags, Will Travel is by D.G.Kaye also known as Debby Gies who is an ardent supporter of Indie authors and bloggers in our community.  Elegant and sassy she keeps us all on our toes in the the glamour department as well as writing superb memoirs that hit home.


About the book

D.G. Kaye is back, and as she reflects on some of her more memorable vacations and travel snags, she finds herself constantly struggling to keep one step ahead of the ever-changing guidelines of the airlines–with her overweight luggage in tow. Her stories alert us to some of the pitfalls of being an obsessive shopper, especially when it comes time for D.G. to bring her treasures home, and remind us of the simpler days when traveling was a breeze.
In her quest to keep from tipping the scales, D.G. strives to devise new tricks to fit everything in her suitcases on each trip. Why is she consistently a target for Canada customs on her return journeys?

D.G.’s witty tales take us from airports, to travel escapades with best friends, to reflections on how time can change the places we hold dear in our hearts. Her memories will entertain and have you reminiscing about some of your own most treasured journeys–and perhaps make you contemplate revamping your packing strategies.

My review

This is a not a long book but you will find D.G. Kaye packed it the same way that she does her suitcases when on one of her frequent trips. Overflowing with hilarious encounters with custom officers and bemused check-in agents, crammed with memories of travelling companions and skillfully closed with an in-depth look at one of her favourite destinations; Las Vegas.

International travel is no longer straightforward; so a little humour goes a very long way. D.G. Kaye relives those halcyon days when passengers were welcomed with open arms, allowed some leeway on number of bags and their weight instead of being herded through various lines to be interrogated. But if you are going to travel, then take advice from an expert; relieve some of the stress.

Like many women, I find that shoes, handbags and the odd bit of jewellery have an added touch of glamour when you are infected with holiday fever. It seems almost impossible to pass by and not take home a memento. Trouble is today the airlines have weight and size of both check in baggage and carry-on locked down tight. This is where the expertise of the seasoned traveller comes in. And D.G. Kaye is certainly that. Having learned lessons from her run-ins you can benefit from her ‘how to’ pack your bags to get a little extra through the system.

I have visited Las Vegas a number of times through the decades but not for the last fifteen years so I was intrigued by the up to date review. Not sure that I am tempted to go there again but it was great to revisit through D.G’s experiences.

Overall Have Bags, Will Travel is a delightful book and a terrific read on the outbound flight so that you can strategize for your return.

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Next a romantic suspense set in San Franciso and a quiet California town. The book has an updated review since it was promoted on the blog earlier this year. Twin Desires by Pamela Wight and Ashley Brandt.

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Twin Desires, a romantic suspense set in San Francisco and the quiet CA town of Stinson Beach, follows Sandra Eastman and the two men who almost destroy her world.

Blake Sinclair, Sandra’s boss and president of a prestigious investment firm, is successful and charismatic. But his twin brother, Alex, is his opposite – a twisted, tormented soul. Sandra becomes a pawn in a deadly game between these powerful opposing forces.
In this fast-paced thriller, Sandra is scooped up into a whirlwind of suspense from the mansions of the S.F. elite to a remote beach house 30 miles north.

As each page turns, she becomes more entangled with the skeletons in the Sinclair closets while desperately confronting her own skeletons and discovering strength she never knew she possessed.

The most recent review for the book.

As I have said before, I don’t usually read romance novels because there doesn’t seem to be anything new and exciting. REFRESH! Adding the suspense of the twin brothers brought a whole new light to the subject. There was a whole lot of suspense, and just enough romance to keep the reader interested in both. I found myself reading well into the night when I really should have been sleeping.

Being a twin myself, I was able to relate to the feelings of the twin brothers. And it is true my friends, that a twin can feel the pain of their sibling. It has happened to me on more than one occasion. Of course, in this story we have a good twin and an evil twin, constantly leaving the reader wondering what the evil twin would do next.

The authors do a great job of building not only the main characters but the secondary characters as well. As an avid reader, I enjoy getting to know each of the characters, not just the main ones, So I especially enjoyed the character development from the beginning right through til the end. I am definitely looking for more from these authors in the future and I highly recommend Twin Desires.

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The last update today is for the third book in the series about Mary and her family and follows their lives and challenges from the devastation of war through to the more liberal 1960s. Living in the Shadows by Judith Barrow.  I have read and reviewed all three books in the series so far and can highly recommend them.

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Sequel to the acclaimed Changing Patterns and Pattern of Shadows. It’s 1969 and Mary Schormann is living quietly in Wales with her ex-POW husband, Peter, and her teenage twins, Richard and Victoria. Her niece, Linda Booth, is a nurse – following in Mary’s footsteps – and works in the maternity ward of her local hospital in Lancashire.

At the end of a long night shift, a bullying new father visits the maternity ward and brings back Linda’s darkest nightmares, her terror of being locked in. Who is this man, and why does he scare her so? There are secrets dating back to the war that still haunt the family, and finding out what lies at their root might be the only way Linda can escape their murderous consequences.

One of the excellent reviews for the book and series.

This is the third and final book in the series that follows a family’s lives from the early 1940’s to the 1970’s as Judith Barrow wraps up all the threads that have woven this, sometimes, intense story. Mary, living in contentment in South Wales is dragged back to her home town as a dark part of her past resurfaces. Judith wracks up the tension slowly as the younger generations make decisions that will have you shouting at them not to.

This is no romance; it’s a realistic tale of society’s rules, love and marriage played out within this family.

As with the previous two books, the research she has done shows through as the reader is taken through the fast paced changes of the era. From tasting the coal dust in the small two up two down terrace houses, to the fashions, sexualities and culture of an era not always understood by the parents, Judith has it spot on.

An excellent book to finish the story, it’s good to read a book that doesn’t play with the reader and leave you frustrated with the not knowing.

Apart from one thing…. When is your next story Judith Barrow?

The two other books in the series.


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Thank you for dropping by today and please help spread the word about these three authors books. Don’t forget to let me know if you have a new review for your most recent book or you have a new release so that it can be promoted.

Guest of author D.G. Kaye in her Friday Author Interview series

D.G. Kaye AuthorI was delighted to be the guest of author D.G. Kaye (Debby Gies) on Friday talking about my book The R’s of Life… thanks Debby

The R's of Life

About Sally:
After working in a number of industries for over 25 years, I decided that I wanted to pursue a completely different career, one that I had always been fascinated with. I began studying Nutrition and the human body twenty years ago and I opened my first diet advisory centre in Ireland in 1998.
Over the last 18 years I have practiced in Ireland and the UK as well as written columns, articles and radio programmes on health and nutrition. I published my first book with a Canadian self-publisher in the late 90s and since then have republished that book and released eight others as part of our own self-publishing company. Apart from health I also enjoy writing fiction in the form of novels and short stories.

Sally is not only a talented and diverse writer of several books, but she’s one of the most generous bloggers around who offers several author promotion series on her blogs for authors to promote their books on her blog. I am honored to have been one of those author’s who she has promoted several times, and blessed to have her friendship. And in today’s interview, we will be learning a little more about Sally, and about her interesting decision she made to write her latest book, The R’s of Life, on her blog.

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