Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – Shout Outs and Sharing by D.G. Kaye


D.G. Kaye – Debby Gies is going to kick the week off with one of her archive posts this morning. Today more of her commonsense guide to working with social media. There is nothing more pleasing, having composed a blog post than to receive feedback in the form of likes and shares.

Shout Outs and Sharing by D.G. Kaye

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I’ve been thinking about the share buttons on our blogs. When I first started blogging I wasn’t aware of the importance of these buttons—other than the fact that most of us have them at the bottom of our posts, I felt like they are there merely for someone to click if they wanted to ‘like’ what they had read.

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In my earlier blogging days, if I enjoyed a post I always felt that I was letting the writer know so by hitting ‘like’. I didn’t realize the importance of the other ‘share’ buttons until I became a published author. Now, I’m not saying we have to be published authors in order to have our writing appreciated and shared, but this was when I learned to understand the concept of social sharing and the importance of using these buttons.

When writers spend the time writing articles and posting helpful information that can benefit others, isn’t that worth sharing? It’s especially nice for the newcomers to blogging who are always eager to learn new things about their trade. On the same token, those buttons are very precious to help promote the writer’s website. After all, if we didn’t share things, many writers miss out on the chance of having their writing exposed to more readers and followers, not to mention, potential sales for their books.

These buttons offer a chance for someone else to discover the writer’s page, and by sharing on all the various sites, it creates a chain reaction of other readers to enjoy the posts and continue to have these posts ‘shared’ again from the new pages and blogs the original shares are posted in. It’s essentially cyber advertising, FREE advertising.

When I realized how important all the sharing was, I made it a part of my blogging to hit ‘like’ if I enjoyed a post and click share on all the other social media buttons that I have accounts with if I felt a post was newsworthy and especially if I read about a promotion a fellow author was offering at the time to help spread the word for them. It doesn’t cost me anything to do those things and gives my followers who read my tweets, google page, linkedin or facebook, a chance to read something they may not have discovered or a book they may be interested in.

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I think there may be a lot of bloggers who may be prolific writers but not so well-versed in the techniques of social media; I know I sure was at the beginning of my writing journey. I didn’t realize that when we click on share with twitter etc., that the post I had just read gets posted to my own accounts for others to view, enjoy and pass along. And so I wanted to share what I have learned along this path and perhaps make others aware of the importance of using the social share buttons at the end of our posts.

Now, don’t forget to share! 🙂

©D.G. Kaye 2014

I would second that.. thanks Debby for another reminder that a simple click or two can make someone’s day…. and is usually reciprocated.

This is D.G. Kaye’s latest release in December 2017.

About Twenty Years: After “I Do”.

May/December memoirs.

In this personal accounting, D.G. Kaye shares the insights and wisdom she has accrued through twenty years of keeping her marriage strong and thriving despite the everyday changes and challenges of aging. Kaye reveals how a little creative planning, acceptance, and unconditional love can create a bond no obstacle will break. Kaye’s stories are informative, inspiring, and a testament to love eclipsing all when two people understand, respect, and honor their vows. She adds that a daily sprinkling of laughter is a staple in nourishing a healthy marriage.

Twenty years began with a promise. As Kaye recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.

Here is one of the recent reviews for the book

“Twenty Years After I Do” is a love story, all the more compelling because it is true. Kaye shines a light under the table, exposing those things many of us prefer to keep out of sight. For all of the unpleasant topics in the book, this is not a depressing journey. She doesn’t say that love concours all, but she shows us, through her own life, that it so often does. More accurately, she explains that love will help us face whatever outcome life gives us.

The author is one of the decreasing number of people who understand that marriage is “ti deathl do us part.” Staying together is not optional, it’s not a choice to be made. That choice was made with the speaking of the words, “I Do.” She shows us that love and humor are tools we can use to overcome obstacles we would have thought unsurmountable.

This is a good read. Reading it has made me feel like I’ve made a friend.
 

Read the reviews and buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077V386TL

and Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B077V386TL

Other books by D.G. Kaye

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Read all the reviews and buy the books: http://www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7

and Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/D.G.-Kaye/e/B00HE028FO

More reviews and follow Debby on Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/dgkaye

About D.G. Kaye

d-g-kayeDebby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.
I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences. I write raw and honest about my own experiences, hoping through my writing, that others can relate and find that there is always a choice to move from a negative space, and look for the positive.

Quotes:
“Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

                 “For every kindness, there should be kindness in return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

When I’m not writing, I’m reading or quite possibly looking after some mundane thing in life. It’s also possible I may be on a secret getaway trip, as that is my passion—traveling.

Connect to Debby Gies

Blog: http://www.dgkayewriter.com
Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7
Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/dgkaye
About me: http://www.wiseintro.co/dgkaye7
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/@pokercubster (yes there’s a story)
Linkedin: http://www.linkedin.com/in/dgkaye7
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/dgkaye
Google: http://www.google.com/+DebbyDGKayeGies
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dgkaye
Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/dgkaye7

My thanks to Debby and if you would like to participate in this series of posts from Your archives then here are the details.https://smorgasbordinvitation.wordpress.com/2018/01/01/happy-new-year-and-the-start-of-the-2018-series-of-smorgasbord-posts-from-your-archives/

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Posts from Your Archives – 7 Tips on How to Sleuth out Email Solicitor Requests by D.G.Kaye


Delighted to welcome Debby Gies, author D.G. Kaye with another link from her archives.

And if you would like to participate in this series you can find out how at the end of the posts.

7 Tips on How to Sleuth out Email Solicitor Requests by D.G. Kaye

I’ve noticed in these past 6 months as I began my author guest post series and after being invited to other writer’s blogs to guest appear that my website had garnered a lot more attention. This has been great, but like everything else in this world of technology, when more people become aware of our blogs, we also tend to attract more attention from spammers and/or people requesting to be on our blogs.

In the past few months I’ve been receiving at least 5 emails a week from people I’ve never heard of, but claim, ‘they love my website” and would love an opportunity to guest appear on my blog. This may seem flattering at first, but you have to search for the intent in these offers.

First, I’d like to state that the authors and books I promote on my blog are of my choosing. I like to help promote friends and authors, especially, to give back to the many who support me. These interviews take up a good chunk of time to prepare questions for and put the draft together, so I don’t advertise on my blog to contact me for interviews. However, several people I have no affiliation with persist to offer me a chance to have them over to my blog.

So today I want to share what you should be looking out for if you are also receiving such offers. For some of you, you may find these offers lucrative, but still, there are things you should check out before considering.

What to Look Out For

  • Salutation – Did they use your name or greet you with “Hello siteowner” or something similar?
  • Did they leave their name and website address so you can look at their work?
  • Have they ever visited or commented on your blogs?
  • Does what they write about have anything to do with what your blog represents?
  • Do they keep sending you emails to convince you why you should be having them on your blog?
  • Are they professional in their email to you or sounding aggressive?
  • Here’s a big flag: Do they ask you to add a permanent link to their website on your page?

These are key things to check out when you are approached to consider email offers to host someone you aren’t familiar with. You may find it flattering that someone is reading your work and approaching you, but you have to feel out what it is they’re after.

Personally, if those requesting a spot on my blog don’t address me by name, I will suspect their email is a generic send-out. If they don’t even leave a website to check out their work, don’t waste your time searching or replying.

Many of the emails I receive are from people who do content writing for companies and the website they leave is the product’s website containing a post they’ve curated for that company. Since I’m also considering doing some content writing for extra income, after taking a course late last year, I can spot these offers easily.

Most often, these emails inform me that they write about similar things as I do, and when I go over to a link they’ve left me to check, I find the topic has nothing to do with what I write about. Some of these people are mainly looking for a place to post about a product they’re likely to make an affiliated commission on. I have nothing against them for trying, but my blog isn’t a place where I promote random products or people unless I have used that product or know the person asking for a plug.

There are plenty of avenues to find appropriate places to offer content writing for without having to bother authors to promote their products. Some of these people are professional, but not many. So when these pitches are telling me how they’d ‘be a great fit for my blog and they aren’t, I do email them back and tell them why they are not. Some people persist and then I don’t bother replying again; some are so unprofessional I don’t bother replying at all.

If you’re someone who appreciates these offers and may find them to be beneficial to your blog, by all means try them out. But do keep in mind the important tips I’ve talked about to help you determine the offers that are legitimate and the ones that will be beneficial to your blogs.

© D.G.Kaye 2017

Thanks to Debby for sharing this post from her archives and as always words of wisdom.

Books by D.G. Kaye

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The most recent review for P.S. I Forgive You by Tina Frisco: https://tinafrisco.com/2017/10/02/return-and-reviews/

P.S. I FORGIVE YOU by D.G. Kaye My 5-Star Review

A Courageous Revealing

Parenthood does not come with a user manual. Children learn parenting skills from the adults in their lives. They generally emulate what they see and experience. If their lifelong experience is a negative one, they might be inclined to perpetuate it. But this does not have to be so.

In her compelling memoir, P.S. I Forgive You, D.G. Kaye reveals the habitual neglect and abuse she and her siblings suffered at the hands of an envious, threatening, narcissistic, and deceitful mother.

It takes courage, strength, and determination to prevail over hardship, especially when it is a constant in childhood; especially when a parent perpetrates neglect and abuse. But it is not impossible to overcome adversity when one focuses their intention.

Kaye shows us how to take the energy consumed by feeling mistreated, hurt, fearful, and guilty, and instead make it work for us by directing that energy toward building self-esteem, fortitude, and positive intention. She tells us how she reacted as a child, and then shows us how, as an adult, she turned a negative into a positive. Acceptance, compassion, and forgiveness are major players in this scenario, a dynamic that tested the author’s resilience, challenged her conscience, and ultimately allowed her to triumph over the all-consuming adverse conditioning perpetrated by her demanding narcissistic mother.

I highly recommend this book to anyone whose childhood was hijacked by a neglectful and abusive parent, and who would like to learn how to break free and live a happy healthy life.
 

Read all the reviews and buy the books: http://www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7

and Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/D.G.-Kaye/e/B00HE028FO

More reviews and follow Debby on Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/dgkaye

About D.G. Kaye

d-g-kayeI’m a nonfiction memoir writer who writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. I write to inspire others by sharing my stories about events I encountered, and the lessons that come along with them.

I love to laugh, and self-medicate with a daily dose of humor. When I’m not writing intimate memoirs, you’ll find me writing with humor in some of my other works and blog posts.

When I was a young child, I was very observant about my surroundings. Growing up in a tumultuous family life, otherwise known as a broken home, kept me on guard about the on-and-off-going status of my parent’s relationship. I often wrote notes and journaled  about the dysfunction that I grew up in. By age seven I was certain I was going to grow up to be a reporter.

Well life has a funny way of taking detours. Instead, I moved away from home at eighteen with a few meager belongings and a curiosity for life. I finished university and changed careers a few times, as I worked my way up to managerial positions. My drive to succeed at anything I put my mind to led me to having a very colorful and eventful life.

Ever the optimist, that is me. I’ve conquered quite a few battles in life; health and otherwise, and my refusal to accept the word No, or to use the words ‘I can’t’ have kept me on a positive path in life.

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences.

Quotes:
Live Laugh Love . . . And Don’t Forget to Breathe!”

                 “For every kindness, there should be kindness in  return. Wouldn’t that just make the world right?”

Connect to Debby

Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/dgkaye
About me: http://www.wiseintro.co/dgkaye7
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/@pokercubster (yes there’s a story)
Linkedin: http://www.linkedin.com/in/dgkaye7
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/dgkaye
Google: http://www.google.com/+DebbyDGKayeGies
Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dgkaye
Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/dgkaye7

How to participate in Posts from your Archives

We all have posts that we wrote a year or so ago, or even longer, that are not read as much these days, as new posts take up your readers time.

However, why not share them over here to my readers?

Not only is this a chance to showcase your posts, but also your blog and books. Start off by sending me four links to the posts you would like to see given another boost and I will take it from there – sally.cronin@moyhill.com

Thank you for dropping in and please feel free to share. I hope that if you do not already follow Debby’s blog you will not head over and check it out.

The R’s of Life – Chapter Ten – Rights and our Personal Freedoms


The R's of LifeIn the last chapter I took a look at the United Nations Bill of Rights with regard to our legal entitlements under the charter. As with all the rights in the bill there is a great deal of variation between nations, and also internally within cultures who settle in new countries.

In this chapter I am going to cover the personal freedoms and rights that are included in the 30 elements of the bill. Many of these freedoms we take for granted and there are some of us who also exploit them. They all come with some form of obligation from us to ensure that we are worthy of these rights.

Chapter Ten – Rights and our Personal Freedoms.

Everyone is entitled to protection from interference in their privacy, family, home or correspondence or from attacks on honour and reputation.

Good luck with this one in the day and age of invasive press reporting and social media. On a governmental level this one is a very grey area. Your emails and telephone calls are not as private as you imagine, and that is without you telling all and sundry your personal business via Facebook and blogging.

As someone who has shared my personal memories from 1962 year by year, I have to be very careful that I remember that there are certain things off limits. Other family members being one of those. They have a right to privacy. You only have to browse through your Facebook timeline to find that some people have forgotten that everything that they share is reaching a much wider audience than their friends. Of course those we interact with frequently with are also friends, but there is still a need for caution.

Some of those friends may not be a middle-aged author from Idaho with three cats and a love of shrimp gumbo. And after months of lovely two way conversations and personal DMs back and forth, and they suddenly ask for help with a vet’s bill for Fluffy, do you wonder if perhaps you are talking to a slightly different character than you supposed?

There are stories every week of people being scammed out of substantial amounts of money having been groomed for months. It would seem that the favourite persona adopted by these shysters is of the top US Army generals who have public profiles!  They prey on the lonely and the vulnerable and are the lowest of the low.

Of course genuine people populate all the social media sites, but if they are real people they will have left a substantial footprint trail that you can follow to find out more about them. Under no circumstances give money to anyone who you have met on any platform without doing your homework.

Trolls and the like.

There are people who are bullies and now see social media as their opportunity to continue that practice from behind the safety of their computer screen.  It is a desire for recognition for their wit, sarcasm and power and they thrive on the responses they receive. Some trolls have literally hounded people to their deaths, particularly amongst young people. There are some sobering statistics in this report and deeply concerning that so many young people are affected by cyberbullying to this extent. 4,400 young lives a year is a very high price to pay and whilst not all related to cyber bullying there is an element of this in every case. Young people can be very callous at times and really do not consider the impact their words can have on others.  https://nobullying.com/six-unforgettable-cyber-bullying-cases/

Convictions for crimes under a law used to prosecute internet “trolls” have increased ten-fold in a decade with five a day, official figures reveal.

Last year in the UK, 1,209 people were found guilty of offences under Section 127 of the Communications Act 2003 – equivalent to three every day – compared to 143 in 2004.

The MoJ figures also revealed a similar rise in the number of convictions under the Malicious Communications Act, which states that it is an offence to send a threatening, offensive or indecent letter, electronic communication or article with the intent to cause distress or anxiety.

Last year, 694 individuals – the equivalent of two a day – were found guilty of offences under this Act. This is the highest number for at least a decade and more than 10 times higher than the 64 convictions recorded in 2004.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/11627180/Five-internet-trolls-a-day-convicted-in-UK-as-figures-show-ten-fold-increase.html

Insurance companies in on the act

There was a headline recently that identified that our online presence is already being scrutinised by insurance companies. For example, you make a claim for a burglary while you are on holiday, and then find it is rejected because you have plastered your Facebook page with photos of you on a sandy beach on an exotic island for two weeks. Saying ‘Hi, look at me in my bikini today on Bora Bora’ is a message that may reach more than your friends.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/money/bills/article-3765587/Why-20ft-driveway-cut-home-insurance-holiday-snaps-hike-costs-insurers-digging-private-life.html

We have an obligation to ensure that what we want to remain private stays that way. Be very careful about what you share online as your obligation is to ensure you do not leave yourself open to abuse.

Everyone has the right to move and reside within the borders of his country and has the right to leave any country, including his own and to return to his country of origin.

I think this right is one that most of us take for granted. There are still some countries that prohibit movement within their borders and certainly make it difficult to leave. I would say that living in North Korea for example, must be very difficult, when a thin line drawn in a map has separated families for generations. Occasionally the right is given for families to meet for a few hours in a government facility, but it must be devastatingly difficult to live under those kind of restrictions. I have lived all over the UK and abroad and always been able to walk straight back in when I have chosen to. This right if we have it, is something to cherish.

Everyone has the right to seek asylum from persecution in other countries except in the case of prosecutions for acts that go against the rights detailed by the United Nations.

This right is of course one that should be given to those whose lives are in danger from a regime that is likely to imprison or kill you if you do not agree with them. Unfortunately, this is the reason given by virtually all those who are leaving war-torn countries such as Syria and seeking safety and a future for themselves and their families. Part of the problem is that it is very difficult to prove and the process is long and protracted. Especially when trying to verify the facts with the opposing government whose records are not as detailed as our own.

Officially there were 29,000 applications for asylum in the UK in 2015. More than half of the applications in any one year are refused. Whilst awaiting the appeal a refugee is housed for free, has access to education, health and each person is given £36.95 per week for food. It is very basic but in most cases much more preferable than living in fear in their own countries.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-35439030

However, it would appear that many of those that are refused asylum simply disappear into the population anyway, and the Home Office admitted in 2014 that they had lost track of 40,000 illegal immigrants! Not surprising when so many face a far from welcoming homecoming if they were to be deported or are facing a return to a poverty stricken life.

The press and the public are very quick to attack the border control organisations and the Home Office for this lack of oversight. However with the asylum seekers already living within the British community, experiencing the wonders of freedom, and a much higher standard of living, is it any surprise that they are going to make every effort to stay.

http://www.express.co.uk/news/politics/627732/migrant-crisis-asylum-UK-thousands-illegal-immigration-Home-Office

In addition, as I mentioned earlier, it is very difficult to verify the truth of the persecution. In some cases, such as those fleeing from Syria, the state of terror is quite clear but there are likely to be very few records to back up an asylum seeker’s story unless they are a high profile case. But of course there will be those who will want to take advantage of the situation, and use it as an entry into the UK and then join the other 40,000 who simply drift away out of official view. Most living within their own national communities and hiding in plain sight but sheltered from scrutiny.

There is no doubt that our own requirements for entry into the country need to be tighter but perhaps the problem will only be resolved when the cause for the massive crisis we face today is dealt with at source.

Everyone has the right to a nationality and should not be deprived of it or be denied to change his nationality.

This would seem a fundamental right. But even in the UK we see an anomaly. The Scottish, Welsh and Irish have a very proud history and used to be separate nations with their own kings and queens and culture. Over the centuries, usually through brute force, those nations have been brought under the one flag. We are now the United Kingdom and everyone is British.

However, many feel that this amounts to the loss of their own national identity. With devolvement to assemblies in Northern Ireland, Wales and Scotland there has been some repositioning of this nationality. However, there are moves a foot to move away from calling the United Kingdom the British Isles, to something more nationality sensitive. We shall have to see which alternatives are put forward.  I heard recently during a conversation with someone with their ear to the ground that it might be along the lines of The Atlantic Isles.

It is equally difficult for those who come to live amongst us who also have a proud heritage and culture that they wish to maintain. To a large extent this is possible and there is no doubt in my mind that enriching our own culture with a great many new and diverse customs is a good thing. Of course there are a number of areas where we clash and I looked at some of those in the last chapter in relation to Sharia Law and equality of women in society.

Men and women of full age regardless of race, nationality or religion have the right to marry and have a family. They are entitled to equal right in marriage if it is dissolved. Marriage must be entered into with the full consent of both parties.

We tend to get very vocal about countries where arranged marriages and even child marriages are still culturally accepted but forget that in our own countries this was also the custom for hundreds of years. Including marrying ten and eleven year old princesses to 50 and 60 year old Kings! Certain families increased their wealth and holdings by making advantageous marriages with another elite family, and certainly it is only in recent generations that our own royalty has been able to marry for love rather than political expediency.

Laws have changed and you have to be 16 years old to legally marry in the UK. However, there are cultures that still believe in arranged marriages and having spoken to women who entered into a relationship in this way, many speak very positively about the experience. However, it would seem that second generation and third generation couples are far more likely to find love on their own.

With this right in relation to marriage, comes the usual obligation. If you have the freedom to marry then it should not be entered into lightly, particularly if children are then born and become your responsibility. I touched on this when looking at relationships and our relations in an earlier chapter. The statistics are very clear as revealed in this recent article.

The proportion of children born to unmarried mothers hit a record 47.5 per cent last year, according to the Office for National Statistics. The figure has risen from 25 per cent in 1988 and just 11 per cent in 1979.

If the trend continues at the current rate, the majority of children will be born to parents who are not married by 2016.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/politics/10172627/Most-children-will-be-born-out-of-wedlock-by-2016.html

I am not suggesting for a moment that two people cannot choose to have children without being married, but there are some legal ramifications. Without the legal and binding agreement, should the relationship fail; one of the partners can leave and abandon responsibility for maintenance, care and provision for the other partner and the children.

To safeguard the future of any children there should be legal registering of the partnership and binding contracts drawn up, including wills, so that all children are supported and protected until they are 18 years old. A concerning statistic is that in the UK currently, two thirds of adults have not made a will. That is an estimated 40 million adults who have not made provisions for the disposal of their estates. Granted many believe that they do not have anything to leave so why bother. But, making a will is not just about money!

  1. Who do you wish to arrange your funeral and deal with your personal effects. A stranger or someone who you know and trust?
  2. Half the homes in the UK own a pet with an estimated 8.5 million dogs and 7.4 million cats.. not to mention budgies, rabbits and pet rats. Who do you want to take care of your beloved companion? Have you arranged a new home for your pet if something happens to you?
  3. And last but not least. Who will look after your children if something happens to you? This is particularly important if you are a single parent without a partner who is still supporting you. You must make arrangements and make it legal by leaving a will or another document that has been drawn up by a solicitor. Who do you want to bring your children up? Is there a family member who could give them a loving home or perhaps a very good friend? Do you want the authorities to decide what happens to your children?

Dying intestate means dying without leaving a valid will. If this happens the ‘intestate person’ will have their property shared out according to the ‘rules of intestacy’.

So If your estate is worth more than your debts and the cost of your funeral then it will be shared out with your registered legal partner (wife, husband or civil partner) getting the first £250,000, your personal possessions, and half of what remains after that, is split with any children you have once they reach the age of 18.

http://www.slatergordon.co.uk/media-centre/blog/2015/03/how-many-people-in-the-uk-do-not-have-a-will/

There are frequent headlines about single mothers who have a number of children with different partners who are being given benefits of £40,000 or more. The truth is that the majority of single parents find themselves in this situation because of a breakdown in a relationship or a bereavement. All families receive some form of benefits such as child allowance, but even with a single parent working it is hard to make ends meet. But it is not just the financial aspect as parenting is a also a physical, mental and emotional commitment. Being a single parent can impact health and also time spent with children and is very challenging.

What is sobering is the facts surrounding poverty with regard to single families.

  • Only 9% of single parents are men, the onus is usually on the mother.
  • 44 per cent of children in single parent families live in relative poverty, around twice the risk of relative poverty faced by children in couple families (24 per cent).
  • Single parents’ risk of poverty has fallen over the past decade, yet those in single parent families are still nearly twice as likely to be in poverty as those in couple parent families.

So we have the right to marry who we wish, we can dissolve that marriage but it is stated that each partner is entitled to equal rights. However it would seem that is not the case in all families that split. Even if there is some financial settlement, there is still likely to be the onus on one parent, usually the mother for the care and wellbeing of the children. This is particularly the case when there is no legal and binding contract between the partners.

Everyone has the right to own property and cannot arbitrarily deprived of that property.

This  right is  personal favourite of mine. With a nomadic childhood and 17 homes since we married 36 years ago, I have come to realise how important it is to be able to close the door to you apartment, house, cabin in the woods and call it home. Even when we have rented accomodation it has been our home because we were together and surrounded by four walls and safety. This right is extremely precious and you only have to look at the statistics on homelessness to appreciate how lucky we are to have a roof over our heads to call our own.

In the UK there are 3,500 homeless sleeping rough each night. In the USA and estimated 500,000 and in India 1.8 million people who do not have the luxury of sleeping under their own roof or shelter of some kind.

Next time Freedom of speech and  religion.

The other nine chapters can be found in this directory.

https://smorgasbordinvitation.wordpress.com/the-rs-of-life-new-book-by-sally-cronin/

©sallycronin The R’s of Life 2016

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How you can help me share your blog and promote your books, art, music for FREE


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As a writer I am delighted when a fellow blogger or contact on social media shares my work or my posts. In turn it gives me great pleasure to reciprocate but it helps when people come to me or make it easy for me to share their books, posts, tweets etc.

On WordPress there are a number of buttons that you can install that enables others to follow and share. I notice that some bloggers choose not to display the Reblog button which is quite useful as a sharing method… If a post is special, relevant, contains important information or is entertaining reblogging helps bring traffic to your blog and also gets your post to a wider audience. When it is reblogged only the first paragraph or sentences are shown and then you have to click a link to be taken to the original. It is also best if the person who reblogs puts in a note about who the blogger is and the nature of the post.

By setting up the Facebook, Twitter, Google, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Tumblr, etc buttons you enable readers of the post to share the link to your post on their sites. This means that if 10 people read your post and share via all of these sites you could be reaching thousands of potential readers.

If you are on Twitter then I do suggest that you put in a profile indicating your interests and also a link to your blog. A photo or an image of some sort is a good thing. I tend not to follow an egg image with just a name and no details. You have 160 characters and if you want like-minded people to be interested enough to follow you, use to its best advantage.

I also go into the twitter accounts of my main list of contacts that I regularly interact with. It is very useful to if there is a pinned tweet with a specific message about some important aspect of your work. Use it as an extension of your profile to put the link to your book promo video or to your author’s page on Amazon… Change your pinned tweet every few weeks to promote another aspect of your work.

If you are not familiar with this facility it is really easy.  When you have posted a tweet.. go into your tweets directory under your profile and you will then see your latest tweet at the top.  Click on the three little dots and you will be given an option to pin the tweet. Click this and it will tell you that by doing so any previous pinned tweet will be deleted.. click that you agree and at the top of the stream you will see a button which invites you to view the tweet in the pinned position.. very easy and an important promotional tool.

So please make it easy for me to share your talent.

I am on social media and tend to work mainly with the following sites.

LinkedIn. I have been on LinkedIn for many years and used primarily for my work related posts. In the last year more and more Indie Authors are using the site to promote their own work and others and it is also a great place to lay out your shop front in more detail. I do believe that people buy people first and sharing your career background can build credibility and illustrate that you have gained some life experience. As with most sites you can like, comment and share posts so it is another opportunity to build up a circle of like-minded people who support each other and their work.

LinkedIn has an invitation system in place. You will be asked how you know a person and if you do not click one of the boxes then you need to enter an email address. If you would like to connect to me then click that we have done business together as blogger at Smorgasbord, my job at Moyhill publishing or put in my work email address which is sally.cronin@moyhill.com.

Facebook. You will see two Facebook addresses and one is for my personal account and the other is my book site and where I also post my blog articles. I would be happy to connect with you on either or both.

Twitter is a bit like marmite and some people do not get it at all. I set up my account to help build a presence on social media that I could use not only for my books but also as I intend to return to radio presenting as some point, pick up my nutritional therapy practice and also my training consultancy.. A strong web presence including LinkedIn and FB will be useful when I do as well as giving me an opportunity to keep up with new trends in health, music and books.

What I did not expect was that Twitter would become my second largest referrer to my blog in the last year which for me is a good indicator that it works. I have found some amazing guests for the Sunday Show including William Price King who is now such a key contributor to the blog.

I am very happy to retweet your important news about your work so if you tag me on @sgc58 when you are releasing a book, had a rave review, a new promo video etc then I will share it.

All my links are here and look forward to hearing from you

http://uk.linkedin.com/in/sallycronin1
https://twitter.com/sgc58
https://www.facebook.com/sally.cronin
https://www.facebook.com/sallygeorginacronin
https://plus.google.com/+SallyCronin/about

Guest posts and interview opportunities.

Even if you have lots of followers you still might like to reach a few more by guest posting on various subjects. My blog covers a number of topics and I would love to hear from you if you have an interest, hobby, skill, film review, recipe etc that you would like to share with my readers. You get to have a bio and a promotion of your own work too. Apart from being promoted on my social media sites you can reblog on your own site and also post again a little later for those who missed the first time around.

The Sunday Show New Format October 2015

This is open to all creative writers, artists, musicians and bloggers

The new show is in the format of a Sunday Lunch where guests bring a virtual guest who has inspired them and either a main course or a dessert that means something to them.  Send me a note to sally.cronin@moyhill.com and I will put you on my list.

https://smorgasbordinvitation.wordpress.com/2015/09/01/an-invitation-to-sunday-lunch-the-new-sunday-show-format/

Sally’s Christmas Grotto

This series was very successful last year and this year is proving to be no exception. If you would like to feature your books, artwork, design, jewellery, clothing, music or any creative gifts then let me know.  Here is an example.

https://smorgasbordinvitation.wordpress.com/christmas-grotto-2015-books/

Five Star Treatment.

If you have had a great review for you work and would like to share that then please get in touch. Whilst nobody responds to people who feel the necessity to talk about themselves and their work continually there is also no place for false modesty when you are a writer. You write for others to read. If you have a great review for your books, art, poetry, photography or music then let me know. This also means that previous books can get another boost particularly if you are about to publish new work.

If you have converted your print versions into Ebook it is a chance to use reviews from that edition to promote the fact that you are now available to download.

https://smorgasbordinvitation.wordpress.com/five-star-treatment-a-place-to-celebrate-your-latest-review-or-award/

New Book Fanfare

If you have had a book released in the last month and would like to add further promotion to your launch then please consider a New Book Fanfare which reaches out across social media to 20,000 of my contacts and thousands more when reblogged and retweeted.  Details and previous posts here.

https://smorgasbordinvitation.wordpress.com/new-book-fanfare/

All these promotions are completely FREE and you have nothing to lose but a little time submitting your details.

Look forward to hearing from you. best wishes Sally Cronin

So that is just some of the ways that I can share your creativity.. Thank  you as always for dropping by and I am very grateful that you have done so.. Please leave a comment so that I know who you are..

E-books – writing, publishing and marketing. Creating a presence in the market place.


At the end of the blog – could I ask your help please.  I am using my other book that has been published recently as an experiment in marketing for the blog on E-books.  Details at the end.  Don’t worry no money involved!!

Marketing started with your Title – now time to get ready for the launch.

So now you have a incredible title, that is also your headline for your advertising (marketing) – you have had your book edited, formatted, it has an ISBN and it is either in print or E-versions or both.

In my experience, if this is a first or second book, whatever the genre, it is a good idea to begin your marketing locally.

The first step is to create a presence.  Some people love social media websites and others cannot see the point.  Fair enough, but if you are an author or blogger you will find it difficult to get your work noticed if you have not created some form of footprint.

People tend to over estimate how many copies of their first book (and 2nd, 3rd etc) they are going to sell.  Realistically, depending on the subject matter – 100 to 150 copies of your first self-published print or E-book is about the norm unless it really catches the attention of influencers locally and in the media.

Friends, family and your social networking contacts will make up the majority of that number and therefore the more contacts you have and your family and friends have the better.  There also may be local events where your book could be promoted and sold.  One of our authors was able to market his book on Pop culture at rock and roll events around the city.

You need to tailor your profile to reflect your work.  Do not be shy about commenting on your progress throughout the writing and formatting process.  In fact why not write a blog about the journey?

You cannot come straight out of the gate – with your book, and start from scratch.  Part of your marketing process is to have already created an expectation.

I am on my seventh book and so when you google me – Sally Georgina, or G Cronin quite a few references come up (not a tenth of the references to Wilbur Smith unfortunately!)

I have spent the last 15 years developing my brand and promoting it.  My first book back in 2002 got local and national press interest and I have built on that.

The place to start is your local marketing – many national stories are picked up from local press and that includes local radio.  I began my broadcasting work in Spain because I went in with a copy of Size Matters to the local station in Marbella.  I intended leaving a copy and a letter asking for an interview, but a guest had failed to turn up.  The presenter was fuming and came into reception during a music break.  I was there and prepared so I took that guest’s place.  That turned into a weekly health slot and in time to my own radio programmes in the UK.

This also refers back to my blog on print v E-version.  I always print around 50 copies for review and marketing – competing with the thousands of new titles that have been published at the same time is tough enough – these days a book in hard copy is actually the exception and more likely to get somebody’s attention.  Just because E-books may be the medium of the future do not write off print just yet.

Before you start your promotion – spend some time online.

Google yourself. Have you a presence already that could be exploited and built on?

Google your subject matter. Has there been any topical news stories that might give you a handle to use?  For example the week before I launched Forget the Viagra – Pfizer lost its patent for Viagra in 19 European countries!

Update your Facebook and LinkedIn or any other social media website you use.  Start creating an expectation about the launch of your book.

Make an email address list of your local media – newspapers – websites – free listings – radio stations (including Internet and Community) – identify key journalists who would be appropriate – book column – health – history etc.

Make a list of postal addresses to send print copies to.  Personally when local, be prepared to walk in the door and leave at reception with a note or card with your contact details.  The personal approach is always more effective.  Even if your book is an E-version you can still hand deliver your press release.

Make an email list of national press and magazines that might be interested in your book – you may not use until after your local launch but it will be prepared.

Ask your contacts if they have any connections who might be able to help promote your book.  Remember that someone with 500 contacts on LinkedIn could have 25,000 2nd and 3rd level contacts and a note on their webpage could open doors for you.

Find out if there are appropriate local events where you might be able to take a stand to promote your print copies.

Prepare or get some help to prepare a webpage or website that you can sell through – particularly if in E-version where the margins are small.

PRESS RELEASES

You need to craft your press release as carefully as your book.  Take your time with it so that when you have either your e-versions ready on Amazon or your own webpage or you have the print book actually in your hand (always a good idea) you are ready to send to your prepared media lists.  Remember whenever possible hand deliver.

Next time – grabbing attention with your headline and press release.

Your help would be appreciated.

I originally wrote Sam, A Shaggy Dog Story as a tribute to a beloved family pet.  It was written from his perspective and as true to his life and experiences as I could remember. I sent copies to all the people who knew him but word got around that it was a fun read so the book became an E-book as well and is now on Amazon as well as my webpage.

As an example of creating a presence please  Google – Sam, A Shaggy Dog Story Sally Cronin – You will find a couple of pages of references already and then they change to my other books.

Then if you could go to Facebook if you are a member and like Sam’s page – that would be very helpful – and perhaps you might ask your contacts to do the same.  My aim to get 100 likes by Christmas.  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sam-A-Shaggy-Dog-Story/161113280764957

Also if you would like to connect either on my Facebook – Sally Cronin or on LinkedIn that would be great.

I have already sent some press releases out for the book – and it will be interesting how this experiment in E-book marketing goes.

Thank you very much for reading and also for any help you can give to push Sam’s book.