Delighted to welcome poet Balroop Singh back with more posts from her archives, and this series, on the subject of family.
Walls Do Respond To Emotional Attachments – Home Is Where The Heart Is! by Balroop Singh
It is quite natural to get attached to homes if we have invested our hearts into them. Even the walls of such homes become receptive.
Recently I happened to read an article, which stirred my emotions intensely and took me down the memory lane.
My dear friend Lisa Thomson says, “A house has no feelings or attachments. It doesn’t love us back. Walls really don’t talk, and that’s probably a good thing.”
We convert a house into a home when we get emotionally attached to it.
HOME THAT NURTURED ME:
The home in which I grew up is still very much a part of my ardent memories as this was the place that nurtured me from the age that was most impressionable.
The excitement of an eight-year-old child is still very fresh in my mind. I can smell the fragrance of new paint and wood even now. Whenever I go down the memory lane, I can experience the friendship of all the nooks and crannies that I explored the very first day I stepped into this house our father got designed for us.
This house cherished my dreams, cushioned my lonely moments, provided solace to my disappointments, gave shape to my adventures and inspired me to aspire high.
Every wall was a supporting shelter, how much I could share my thoughts with them, silently!
The walls of my room empathized with me when I didn’t sleep well due to examination fever. They rejoiced with me when I turned up the volume of my radio, to celebrate my little moments of joy. They resounded with my giggles in the afternoons.
As I grew up, every brick seemed so precious, every tree of the little garden I loved seemed to cherish my thoughts and provide solace to my distressing hours.
Then came the time to leave my treasured surroundings, my home.
I can still feel the tears of poignant parting on my cheeks.
I hate this age-old tradition of some countries – to leave your maternal home after marriage. The one who created this tradition must be a man for according to this orthodox convention, he doesn’t leave his home; he has the choice to continue living in it or sell it.
I thought I would keep coming back to my home whenever I wanted and I did during the initial years of setting up my new home.
It remains the epicenter of my dreams even now. All family get-togethers are hosted in this home even now… but in dreams.
I can no longer visit it in real life because it was sold…and that is another story!
HOME THAT DEFINED ME:
Despite all those attachments I had with that home, which remains the backdrop of all my dreams, I was pleased to find a new one that anchored me and promised myself to make it more loving than the one that had raised me.
A home cannot be built in a day…it encompasses in itself the dreams and the aspirations we hold close to our heart, the hopes that we gather with each passing day, the goals that we achieve together.
A home lounges on the care and affection we shower on each other, the time we offer to understand the needs and desires of a family, to live through the difficult times together and to support each other despite minor differences.
This home I acquired became my treasure house, a nest, which was filled with the babble of my little children and the love of my hubby. It accumulated and absorbed all the memories, all the celebrations and the moments of intense joy, of raising my kids and exult at their little achievements.
I have no doubt that even the walls around me shared my elation.
Time just whizzed by and before I could realize its pace, my kids grew up into fine individuals, ready to soar!
Now I could grasp the truth of this statement and what my friend Lisa has articulated: “Home is people. Not a place. If you go back there after the people are gone, then all you can see is what is not there any more.” – Robin Hobb
Though my work kept me very busy and the walls of my home as welcoming as ever but time stood still.
A part of me seemed to have walked away with my grown up children.
Now I just clung to my home and the loving memories that were attached to them. I tried to make it warmer with more pictures of my family.
I have been trying to understand the ironies of this life, which provides natural attachments.
I have been trying to detach from all those people and homes, which hold us to ransom, extracting all our emotions.
I have moved once again from my home, into which I had put my heart and soul to be near my children.
Now I have double memories and none of my dearest homes – one got sold and the second lies locked with all those treasures I had amassed!
Do you have any such memories and attachments? Do they haunt you?
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Here is Balroop’s latest release Timeless Echoes, Poetry for young adults and teens.
About Timeless Echoes
Certain desires and thoughts remain within our heart, we can’t express them, we wait for the right time, which never comes till they make inroads out of our most guarded fortresses to spill on to the pages of our choice. This collection is an echo of that love, which remained obscure, those yearnings that were suppressed, the regrets that we refuse to acknowledge. Many poems seem personal because they are written in first person but they have been inspired from the people around me – friends and acquaintances who shared their stories with me.
Some secrets have to remain buried because they are ours
We do share them but only with the stars
The tears that guarded them were as precious as flowers
Soothing like balm on festering scars.
While there are no boxes for grief and joy, some persons in our life are more closely associated with these emotions. Their separation shatters us, their memories echo, we grieve but life does not stagnate for anyone…it is more like a river that flows despite the boulders. When imagination and inspiration try to offer solace, poetry that you are about to read springs forth.
One of the reviews for the collection
In “Timeless Echoes,” the author searches within to share the trials and tribulations of life in unique poetic imagery that delves deeply into the human spirit echoing within each of us. Love of nature, love of family, grace and forgiveness are among the themes encompassed in Singh’s timeless collection.
Head over and buy the collection: https://www.amazon.com/Timeless-Echoes-Balroop-Singh-ebook/dp/B07F1VVJK7/
Also by Balroop Singh
Read the reviews and buy the books: https://www.amazon.com/Balroop-Singh/e/B00N5QLW8U
and Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Balroop-Singh/e/B00N5QLW8U
Read more reviews and follow Balroop on Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/7340810.Balroop_Singh
About Balroop Singh
Balroop Singh, a former teacher, an educationalist, a blogger, a poet and an author always had a passion for writing. The world of her imagination has a queer connection with realism. She could envision the images of her own poetry while teaching the poems. Her dreams saw the light of the day when she published her first book: ‘Sublime Shadows Of Life.’ She has always lived through her heart.
She is a great nature lover; she loves to watch birds flying home. The sunsets allure her with their varied hues that they lend to the sky. She can spend endless hours listening to the rustling leaves and the sound of waterfalls. She lives in Danville, California.
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My thanks to Balroop for sharing this love family post from her archives, please share your thoughts with us. Thanks Sally.
Posts from Your Archives and the theme this time is all about family.
- Personal memories of childhood or teens that are still fresh in your mind.
- Family history, stories of your parents, grandparents and further back if you can.
- Fur family past and present.
- Favourite recipes.
- Memorable holidays.
- Places you have lived.
- Memorable homes you have lived in.
- Grandchildren tales.
- Any family related post – pets, education, health, teen years, elderly care, lifestyle.
- Please remember that there are some younger readers who visit.
I think you get the idea.
The aim of this series is to showcase your blog and any creative work that you do from books, art, photography and crafts. You pick between one and four links to posts that you have written for your own blog from the day you started up to December 2018, and you simply send the link to those blogs to firstname.lastname@example.org
You have to do nothing more as I will capture the post and images from your blog and I will then post with full copyright to you.. with your creative work and your links to buy and to connect. I might sometimes need a little more information but I am quite resourceful in finding out everything I need.
So far in the Posts from Your Archives from September 2017, there have been over 700 posts from 200 + bloggers that have reached a different audience and encouraged more readers for their own blogs and current posts.
The only issue is the number of photographs and if there are more than five photographs in the post I will do a reblog rather than a separate post. (Media space)
Previous participants are more than welcome