Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – #Potluck #Mothers This Body Has Carried Babies by Lee


This is the third post from the archives of Lee who writes for her blog Woeful to Froful, where she shares about hair and skincare, beauty, positive thinking and music. This is from Lee’s second blog and I thought it was a lovely way to express a mother’s body….

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Mothers This Body Has Carried Babies by Lee

I should stand proudly and without fear, my hands caressing my bulging belly
Because I carried babies in here

I should not shy away from the power I possess, what my body can and has done
Because I carried babies in here

Although they have left lines, scars and torn away a more acceptable exterior, I’m okay
Because I carried babies in here

I’ve been left saggy and bigger and heavier and less confident
Because I carried babies in here

I should feel no shame in the state that I have been left in
Because I carried babies in here

I will not feel forced to snap back and be who I used to be
Because I carried babies in here

I will remember there is beauty in this bulk
Because I carried babies in here

I will not insult myself by not loving myself
Because I carried babies in here

I will not let images of perfection erase the wonderful thing I did
Because I carried babies in here

I had life grow inside me on several occasions, bringing forth other human beings
And I carried babies in here

I was lucky enough to be granted permission by the universe to create life
And then I carried babies in here

This thing, only a womb can do, I’ve accomplished that
And I carried babies in here

I am strong, I am proud, I am a mother, this is my body
I carried babies in here

I carried babies in here
I carried babies in here
I carried babies in here

xx woeful writes xx

(Sorry for repeating myself, just making a point).

©Lee Woeful Writes 2018

About Lee

My name is Lee and welcome to my little written corner of the world. You’ll find posts on here about haircare, skincare, beauty, positive thinking and my favourite songs. Stick around, read a bit, leave a comment, hey, why not join me on your favourite social media to keep up to date with blog goings on!

Connect to Lee

Blog: https://woefultofrofull.com/blog/
Blog 2: https://woefulwrites.wordpress.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/woefultofrofull/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/woefultofrofull/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/woefultofrofull/

My thanks to Lee for allowing me to share posts from her archives and I hope you will head over and enjoy browsing them yourselves.. thanks Sally.

Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – #Potluck – #Parenting Guilt (2017) by Lee


This is the second post from the archives of Lee who writes for her blog Woeful to Froful, where she shares about hair and skincare, beauty, positive thinking and music. She also has a second blog Woeful Writes.  I selected this post as I am sure that any parent reading it, will relate to the issue.

Parenting Guilt (2017) by Lee

It’s an affliction. There is no decent parent out there that doesn’t feel guilt with every decision they make or don’t make.

It’s not surprising. You’re tasked with bringing up a whole person as a decent, moral, non-s****y human being. In most instances, it was a choice you made but it’s still difficult, it’s fraught with missteps, mistakes and guilt. What if you’re doing the wrong thing? Have you just said something to them that is unwittingly traumatising and damaging them? To all the parents out there, for what my two cents is worth, as long as you’re trying, really trying to do the best by your child, then that’s all you can do.

In my job, sometimes we get a backlog with all the work that is in front of us, the documents keep coming in, piling on top of the huge pile of things you haven’t been able to deal with, constant calls from people asking why you haven’t dealt with their problem which always seems to be at the bottom of that huge pile. Some people get stressed, some people crumble but at the end of the day, you can literally only do as much as you can do. You only have one pair of hands, one set of eyes, one brain, you can only do as much as you, one single person, can do. It’s the same with the kids, you can only try your best and try not to beat yourself up over failings or assumed failings.

Yet I’m guilty of feeling guilty. I want my children to succeed but there is always this feeling that I’m not doing as much as I can. That I am failing them. That if I discipline to strongly here, there will be repercussions there. When I go to work and leave them crying, that they’ll feel abandoned. That working full-time means that they don’t know me as well as they could. That I haven’t read enough with them and they’ll fail at school. That I’m not feeding them the right things and they’ll end up with an eating disorder. That if I let them watch this or play with this, then they’ll become a blight on society. That it feels like more time is spent getting them to do the daily necessities, get washed, eat breakfast, get dressed, homework, rather than having fun family time. Guilt. It gets you every time.

Now the logical side of my brain knows that I don’t need to be spending the big bucks to have happy kids, I just need to spend time with them, show them how much I love them. They seem to be happy, (mainly) well-adjusted, polite, loveable and sociable children. But no matter what, the guilt remains. I try everyday to let it go because I feel that I’m making a genuine effort to do right by them and set a good example. I just hope it all sinks in and they become the valuable members of society that it looks like they are on track to become.

Still feel guilty though. Let’s keep growing less guilty together! xx Lee xx

Comments welcome. How do you deal with parental guilt?

©Lee Woeful to Frofull 2017

About Lee

My name is Lee and welcome to my little written corner of the world. You’ll find posts on here about haircare, skincare, beauty, positive thinking and my favourite songs. Stick around, read a bit, leave a comment, hey, why not join me on your favourite social media to keep up to date with blog goings on!

Connect to Lee

Blog: https://woefultofrofull.com/blog/
Blog 2: https://woefulwrites.wordpress.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/woefultofrofull/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/woefultofrofull/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/woefultofrofull/

My thanks to Lee for allowing me to share posts from her archives and I hope you will head over and enjoy browsing them yourselves.. thanks Sally.

Smorgasbord Posts from Your Archives – #PotLuck #Lifestyle DIY Beauty Products: My First Time (2017) by Lee


This is the first post from the archives of Lee who writes for her blog Woeful to Froful, where she shares about hair and skincare, beauty, positive thinking and music. She also has a second blog Woeful Writes.

We all know how expensive beauty products can be and certainly the older you get the more you have to spend for the promised miracles. In this post Lee shares some DIY lotions and potions and I might have a go at some which also seem to be delicious to eat.

 DIY Beauty Products: My First Time (2017) by Lee

One of the things going on a journey like mine has shown me, is that the you can make almost any product you put on your skin or hair yourself. So I challenged myself to make the gift sets I would normally buy as Christmas presents for my family. I scoured my Pinterest board and came up with a shortlist of things to attempt. Scrubs, lotions and hair creams where my goal, I gave myself a couple of days and off I went to make The Woeful To FroFull Christmas Pampering range. I did have to buy a lot of the ingredients but homemade hair and skin products have all the same things in, so I may not have got the benefit of these scrubs and lotions but I’ll get the benefit of the leftovers.

Sugar Cookie Foot Scrub from “So Let’s Hangout”

My first “product” to make was a foot scrub. I’ve never used one, but I liked how it looked. Of course I liked how it looked because people don’t post bad pictures of beauty products. It was only 4 ingredients, brown sugar, white sugar, vanilla extract and olive oil. This one I liked, this one turned out exactly how I expected. It had a great consistency, smelt lovely and was beyond simple. I would make this again in a heartbeat! This went so well, if only everything was so simple!

Brown Sugar and Honey Body Scrub by Simply Shellie

This scrub from Simply Shellie was well, simple. Honey, sugar and coconut oil. Now my coconut oil was rock hard to start as you would expect so I melted it to mix with the other ingredients. I melted it to a complete liquid state but as you can see in the bottom left hand picture, that does not really look like something you want to put on your skin. The coconut oil would not mix with the other ingredients so it created an oil layer on top. When it cooled and hardened, I got the bottom right hand picture which also doesn’t really look like something you would want to use. I then had to smash the sugar mix into the coconut oil to create a give-able gift. Note to self, if I do this one again, use a little less coconut oil and melt it to a soft consistency rather than liquid in order for it to be mixed easily and so it doesn’t leave you with this weird two layered concoction.

Lemon Honey Face Scrub

This is another simple one that was made without a hitch. It’s lemon juice, honey and olive oil. I have to admit that I may have eaten some of this. Only a bit but it was tasty and I don’t feel guilty about it. You can only judge me if you have never licked the spoon while making a cake or cookies. Yea, I didn’t think so!

I think I had to “octuple” the recipe so I was able to fill 4 baby jars but the colour is really vibrant, the texture is a little runny so maybe a little less lemon juice next time but it was also still rough from the sugar which I like my scrubs to be and all the ingredients are great for your skin.

Coconut Body Lotion by the Indian Spot

Who doesn’t love coconut oil? It has so many uses but I don’t think you can beat just slathering it on your skin! This recipe has coconut oil, shea butter, peppermint jojoba oil. The instructions say after melting all of the ingredients, to put it in the fridge for an hour to harden. Well this took hours and hours but it worked out so well in the end. It does more resemble coconut oil than your average cream in that it is solid in the tub and then melts in your hands but it does really moisturise well. It is one that you need to really massage in or you might end up leaving a bit of a greasy trail everywhere you go but I would like to make some more however just for me next time, nobody else!

Exfoliating Sugar Scrub Cubes from One Essential Community

I really liked the idea of making sugar scrub cubes, I thought it would look quite impressive but it just didn’t work out although I made it look fairly presentable in the pictures. This contains glycerin soap, shea butter, jojoba oil, vitamin e oil, lavender essential oil, sugar and mica powder for colour. I may have cocked this up but the instructions were really clear with step by step photos. In the end I didn’t give it away because it failed. I melted the glycerin soap as instructed. Now it warns you that the mixture will start to set very quickly when the sugar is added but as soon as I started adding anything to the glycerin soap it started to set and my end product had lots of globs of the glycerin rather than mixed in nicely with the other ingredients. The cubes also lose their integrity really quickly rather than staying in a useable cube form. I’m not sure what I could do next time to get it right but I am willing to try again. However, as I didn’t give the scrub cubes away like originally intended and I couldn’t face just binning it all, I have 4 large jars of the stuff to use. I have to spend five minutes after every shower cleaning up the glycerin as I don’t want it to block the drain. Oh well, if at first you don’t succeed…

Shealoe Butter Mousse Recipe by Discovering Natural

As I was making this one, whenever I got some on my hands I rubbed it in my hair and I kept doing it, leaving me with one ultra moisturised patch of curls a top my head. So anyone who was lucky enough to get this as a gift from me, you’re welcome! This contains all that stuff we know is great for our hair – coconut oil, shea butter, aloe vera gel, jojoba, vegetable glycerin, vitamin e and peppermint oil. It smells delicious, felt amazing and I hope it got used before it went mouldy which is a risk with homemade products that don’t have preservatives in. Even though the Vitamin E should help keep it going for longer, it is not a long-term fix.

So I made a lot of stuff, instead of buying a lot of stuff which I am proud of. The ones that didn’t work were failures but more importantly learning experiences. I’m a beginner, things aren’t going to work every time, I don’t have the knowledge of when things go wrong how to put them right but I really do hope the gifts were well received. I hope they were used and not stuffed into the back of a cupboard like a lot of Christmas toiletries are. I won’t be offended if they were, not massively offended, but it would be nice to know they are making my family even more moisturised, smooth and beautiful! I appreciate the work and time the authors, mixologists and bloggers have given to share their work, ideas and formulations and I look forward to seeing what else is out there to create.

Let’s keep growing (and mixing) together! xx Lee xx

Comments welcome below. What DIY skin or hair products have you tried? What do you recommend? Any disasters?

©Lee Woeful to Frofull 2017

About Lee

My name is Lee and welcome to my little written corner of the world. You’ll find posts on here about haircare, skincare, beauty, positive thinking and my favourite songs. Stick around, read a bit, leave a comment, hey, why not join me on your favourite social media to keep up to date with blog goings on!

Connect to Lee

Blog: https://woefultofrofull.com/blog/
Blog 2: https://woefulwrites.wordpress.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/woefultofrofull/
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/woefultofrofull/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/woefultofrofull/

My thanks to Lee for allowing me to share posts from her archives and I hope you will head over and enjoy browsing them yourselves.. thanks Sally.