Smorgasbord Reblog – Aging and Wisdom – The New Perennial Age of Women by D. G. Kaye

My friend Debby Gies.. author D.G. Kaye explores the terms used to describe women of a certain age who despite pigeon holing by media and employers, continue to flourish and deny their years. Compared to the mindset of our parent’s era, we are very much younger in our approach to our middle years, and we also have changed some of the rules about how we should look physically.  I am sure that you will get a kick out of Debby’s post and embrace the new term of endearment for us women of a certain age… Perennial.

How many times have we said we don’t feel or look our age? When did middle-age sneak into our lives? Where did the years go?

I’m sure we’ve all begged the answers to those questions once or twice as we women approach our ‘Perennial’ years.

What comes to mind when women use the terms ‘the new 40 or 50′, even 60 or 70? Here’s a clue: it encompasses so much more than just looks.

In my opinion, looks have changed since the last generation, without discounting so many other changes that have occurred through the decades to empower women. Women in their 40s and 50s look much younger than those from decades past. I’m not referring to the advent of cosmetic surgery, but when I look back on decades past, I notice some interesting hairdos and fashion statements. Looking back at the women in my own family and even movie stars with the styles of yesteryear, it’s not hard for me to compare a woman of today in her 40s or 50s appearing younger looking than those before us at the same age. Was it the hairstyles, a more sedentary lifestyle which gave the impression a women in her 30s back when of 30 or 40 years ago looked similar in age to women now in their 40s or 50s?

Back in those days, women didn’t lead lifestyles like they do now, some with powerful jobs, being the bigger bread winner, many working what used to be considered, jobs for only men, or raising a family while carrying a job. “We’ve come a long way baby,” as the old cigarette ad used to say. (Am I giving away my age?)

I have to laugh at the many times my sister and me would bring up the subject of our dreaded childhood weekends we were forced to spend at our paternal grandparents’ house. We’d remark to one another about how even when we were small, our grandmother looked like . . . well, a grandmother. We only envision her old from as far back as we can remember. But lol, I digress.

What made me write this post on women then and now was prompted by a conversation I had on the weekend with one of my sister-in-laws. She shared a topic of discussion that came up between her and her yoga teacher. Her teacher had referred to women in the age group of 40s and 50s as ‘perennials’. Have any of you heard this term used before? I haven’t. But I love it.

I’ve heard of some more unflattering terms such as menopausal, even cougars, but not perennials.

Head over to Debby and check your Perennial Woman Status and if you are a guy with a woman of a certain age then head over to and make sure you are not missing out!:

About D.G. Kaye

I’m a nonfiction memoir writer who writes about life, matters of the heart and women’s issues. My intent is to inspire others by sharing my stories about events I encountered, and the lessons that come along with them.

I love to laugh, and self-medicate with a daily dose of humor. When I’m not writing intimate memoirs, you’ll find me writing with humor in some of my other works and blog posts.

When I was a young child, I was very observant about my surroundings. Growing up in a tumultuous family life; otherwise known as a broken home, kept me on guard about the on-and-off-going status of my parents’ relationship. I often wrote notes, and journaled about the dysfunction that I grew up in. By age seven I was certain I was going to grow up to be a reporter.

Well life has a funny way of taking detours. Instead, I moved away from home at eighteen with a few meager belongings and a curiosity for life. I finished university and changed careers a few times always striving to work my way up to managerial positions. My drive to succeed at anything I put my mind to led me to having a very colorful and eventful life.

Ever the optimist, that is me. I’ve conquered quite a few battles in life; health and otherwise, and my refusal to accept the word ‘No’, or to use the words ‘I can’t’, keeps me on a positive path in life.

I love to tell stories that have lessons in them, and hope to empower others by sharing my own experiences.

Books by D.G. Kaye

The most recent review for P.S. I Fogive You – A Broken Legacy on Goodreads

Martha Perez rated it Five Stars.

When I started to read this astonishing true story I have to say I’m very proud of D.G. Kaye, this is a heart- wrenching story with so much emotions about a mother and daughter relationship having a narcissistic mother and being so selfish and damaging her daughter. A mother is supposed to love and treasure the gift God gave her instead she gave her pain and sorrow. I honestly relate to this story D. G. Kaye is an amazing woman she is strong to tell such heartrending an emotional story she has so much courage to heal herself and others.

You live with this all your life wondering why? What did I do wrong! You start to question and blame your own self it’s living with a dysfunctional family it’s never your fault it’s all we know until you’re in adult that you realized how messy life is, she has to make a decision to forgive her mother I think it’s up to the person that was hurt to make such a tough choice. I recommend this book you will learn so much!! Definitely a page-turner.

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New Book Fanfare – An Honest House by Cynthia Reyes

New book fanfareToday the featured book is the second by Cynthia Reyes – An Honest House shares more of her life in her home north of Toronto.

About the Book

AHHCynthia Reyes has done it again.” Picking up from the early days of her recovery from a car accident, as told in her first book, “A Good Home,” she shares in this new book intensely lyrical stories of life with her husband in her historic farmhouse north of Toronto.

Blog Photo - Blue clems atop Pinks

You will hear the birds sing, smell the flowers in their lavish gardens, and taste the red currant jelly and other dishes from plants grown on their property.

You will be challenged as the author immerses you in the reality of post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, and the courage it takes to live with chronic pain.

And you will say a wrenching farewell to the farmhouse as she opens a new chapter in a life still devoted to creating beauty out of the materials that life serves up to her, be they dark and haunting or light and joyful.

Buy An Honest House

Amazon USA      Amazon Canada      Amazon UK      Chapters Indigo

Also by Cynthia Reyes


About the book.

A Good Home is an addictive read, a profoundly emotional book about the author’s early life in rural Jamaica, her move to urban North America, and her trips back home, all told through vivid descriptions of the unique homes she has lived in — from a tiny pink house in Jamaica and a mountainside cabin near Vancouver to the historic Victorian farmhouse she lives in today, surrounded by neighbors who share spicy Malaysian noodles and seafood, Greek pastries and roast lamb, and Italian tomato sauce and wine (really strong wine).

What the readers are saying.

A beautiful memoir!  By J. Brill on May 26, 2014 Format: Paperback Verified Purchase

Cynthia Reyes takes the reader on a journey from rural Jamaica to Canada and back. The stories she tells captivate and draw the reader in. While each story is unique to her experience, her messages are universal — love of family, power of misunderstandings, and devastation of illness and death. As a psychologist fascinated by the effects that environments have on people, I was drawn to the central role Reyes gives to the homes in which she lived. From the small pink home in Jamaica to the blue home to the farmhouse in Canada, each home has its own vivid personality. From the excitement of a new home to the heart-breaking decision to leave a beloved home, Reyes took me to places I’ve never been, made me happy to be there, and sad to leave. I loved this book!

What a Fantastic Book! By Donna Kay Cindy Kakonge on June 3, 2013  Format: Paperback Verified Purchase

A Good Home is a pleasure to read! With beautifully crafted description, reminders of other great books, a sense of adventure and travel from Cynthia Reyes who leaves her beautiful home in Jamaica to make a home in Canada, this book is first about people and next about the precious shelter that allows us to take flights with our fantasy as it says in the book – home. The difference with this well written book is that it reads like fiction and has the story qualities of fiction, however is a non-fiction literary narrative that you will be grateful you discovered.

Buy A Good Home

About Cynthia Reyes.


Cynthia Reyes has published non-fiction stories in Arabella Magazine, one of the fastest-growing magazines in the United States and Canada, as well as in the Globe and Mail and Toronto Life. Reyes is a former journalist and executive producer with the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation. More than a hundred episodes of her programs have appeared on network television. She is the winner of national and international awards and acclaim for her work as a television producer, project leader, and public speaker, including the Children’s Broadcast Institute Award and the Crystal Award for Outstanding Achievement in Film and Television.  Here is Cynthia pictured with one of the many book clubs who have read her book.

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Connect to Cynthia on her blog and social media


Thanks for dropping by and it would be great if you would leave a comment and also share Cynthia’s new book across your own networks.  Sally