Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Guest Post – I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now! #Family #Travel #Writing by M.J. Mallon

I am sure like me, there have been times when you have wondered what difference might have been made to your life, if your younger self had been gifted with the experience and knowledge you have accumulated over the years.

I invited several friends from the writing community to share their thoughts on this subject which I am sure you will enjoy as much as I did.

Today author and poet M.J. Mallon (Marjorie) shares her thoughts on the prompt and how her father’s work abroad and visits to spend time with him in exotic locations and his stories ignited her own passion for writing.

I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now! #Family #Travel #Writing by M.J. Mallon

Thank you so much to Sally for inviting me to share my thoughts on I wish I knew then what I know now!

In many ways, I led an unusual life as a teenager. My father was often away for long stretches of time working abroad. He tried to work in the UK but was stifled working in a dreary accountant’s office. My mother elected to stay in Edinburgh, Scotland with my brother and I, so that we would have a good education without any interruptions. My parents didn’t want to send us to boarding school, like a lot of their contemporaries at the time.

We’d regularly go to visit my dad in exotic locations such as The Caribbean British Virgin Isles, Papua New Guinea and Fiji, much to the envy of my contemporaries at school. Here are some photos of Dad in Malaysia where he met my Mum, and in Papua New Guinea, Senegal and in the Middle East.

Each time I saw my dad after his spells away he seemed different in some way… grew a beard, developed a fatter belly, or the like. To this day, I admire him enormously for his love of travel, his spirit of adventure and his desire to live amongst different cultures.

In fact, one of the favourite stories he told me was of his time living in the Malaysian jungle with the dajak tribe!

Here is an image of the dajaks on the river…

Dad and Mum are such fascinating people. Here they are at the time of their engagement.

My Dad has always been a wonderful raconteur and my Mum has many tales to tell too. I believe their combined influence has made me the writer I am today.

My Mum loved living in Scotland. She embraced the culture with great enthusiasm, going to Scottish Country dancing and the like. She still loves Edinburgh, which is bizarre given that she comes from a very different country culturally: Malaysia.

No doubt she must have found it difficult to adjust to living in Scotland to begin with. But perhaps having a Scottish dad helped!

Looking back, I wish I had continued writing. I started during my teens, writing diaries about my travels, and the like but then boys came on the scene, and later my graduate studies. I lost a sense of direction of who I was meant to be. This remained the same until eight years ago when I started blogging. My blogging site – Kyrosmagica which means crystal magic – grew with many activities, such as book reviews, photo challenges, poetry, and blog posts about my life and travels.

Sadly, I don’t have as much time for all these wonderful challenges these days. But I occasionally I still participate. I remember the pre-pandemic blogging bash events in London with great fondness. Blogging helped me grow as a person, develop my confidence and I will forever be grateful for that.

Whizzing forward to the present time, my hubby and I have decided to take early retirement recently and oddly I seem to have less time than I did before which is really strange given that there were times when I was working 8am to 6pm Monday to Friday, getting home at least an hour later in the evening and still finding time to blog. I suppose your priorities change as you get older and our lifestyle is in the process of a major overhaul. We are making plans to spend more time in Portugal.

So, we have been travelling a lot. Exploring Portugal. Lisbon, Tavira, Sagres, …

More About Mum…

As I’ve mentioned, I’ve grown up with the idea of living abroad. My father, against local advice at the time, went off to the Far East and married my lovely mum, Paula, a Eurasian girl. Sadly, there was a far bit of prejudice at that time. My mother recently told me that at Dad’s office parties she often felt left out (due to being of Chinese/Eurosian parentage,) with few people to talk to. I was shocked to learn about this but perhaps not surprised. She had one or two allies who she spent time with and coped with it all admirably. When I look at photos of my mum, I see enormous strength of character.

Here she is the day she left for the UK (at the tender age of eighteen,) saying goodbye to her dear Malaysian friends… there is a touch of sadness in this photo.

Here she is with my brother and I… looking all smiley. Well, she is, I look a bit serious!

I love that she used to climb trees as a child and had a very free childhood to be adventurous herself!

I was a cheeky one too! And still am… Here’s me on a boat when I was little. I’ve always loved the sea.

So, in response to Sally’s question I wish I knew …I’d say that… doing things out of your comfort zone (like my Dad travelling abroad, my Mum leaving Kuching, Malaysia and my current plans to spend time abroad,) these adventure can enrich your life in ways you would never imagine. As can the smaller steps we take, like moving from Edinburgh to Cambridge. If I’d stayed in Edinburgh all my life, I am sure I would have been happy but… think of all the friendships I would not have made. The places I may not have seen.

I regret nothing and am looking forward to this next chapter in our lives.

And to future writing adventures!

©M.J. Mallon 2022

My thanks to Marje for sharing this lovely story of family and travel and the wonderful childhood of travel and adventure… as she says.. more to come. I know she would love to hear from you.

About M.J. Mallon

My alter ego is MJ – Mary Jane from Spiderman. I love superheros!

M J Mallon was born in Lion city Singapore, a passionate Scorpio with the Chinese Zodiac sign of a lucky rabbit. She spent her early childhood in Hong Kong. During her teen years, she returned to her father’s childhood home, Edinburgh where she spent many happy years, entertained and enthralled by her parents’ vivid stories of living and working abroad. Perhaps it was during these formative years that her love of storytelling began bolstered by these vivid raconteurs. She counts herself lucky to have travelled to many far-flung destinations and this early early wanderlust has fuelled her present desire to emigrate abroad. Until that wondrous moment, it’s rumoured that she lives in the UK, in the Venice of Cambridge with her six-foot hunk of a rock god husband. Her two enchanting daughters have flown the nest but often return with a cheery smile.

Her motto is to always do what you love, stay true to your heart’s desires, and inspire others to do so too, even it if appears that the odds are stacked against you like black hearted shadows.

Favourite genres to write: Fantasy/magical realism because life should be sprinkled with a liberal dash of extraordinarily imaginative magic!

Books by M. J. Mallon

My advance review for The Hedge Witch & the Musical Poet July 16th 2022

This is a poetry and flash fiction collection seeped in nature and illustrates the love the author has for the environment, particular the forests.

The first pages share the delightful love story of the Hedge Witch and the Musical Poet, bringing two solitary characters together in the sanctuary of a magical forest far from the human world.

This story is followed by poems and flash ficton, some of which are poignant such as the tribute to a ginger cat in Chester, Don & I,and bewilderment voiced in The Network of Treesas they stand in danger from the human need for progress.

There is also the sad reflection that much of the beauty and adventures to be found in the forests are being missed as children find themselves engrossed in the online world instead. The author makes sure to include the fun they could be enjoying instead.

The Teddy in the Woodsprobably should come with a tissue alert.

There are some reminders of poems from another collection which I also enjoyed Mr. Sagittarius Poetry; one of my favourites being Rainbow – Parasol of Light.

In the second section of the collection there is a series of poems inspired by other writers. Set in the woodlands and the beauty they offer. This includes the ethereal The Forest King.

The forest king lives in the shadows
his hair and beard, a flame alight
in his crown, the fairy queen sits
far from the tangled roots of his throne.

This is a collection to savour and to dip into when the technical world we inhabit becomes too demanding, or we are in need of a touch of magic. I recommend to lovers of nature and fantasy.

Head over to pre-order the collection for August 15th: Amazon UK – And:Amazon US

 Read the reviews and buy the other books: Amazon US –And: Amazon UK Website: M.J. Mallon – Goodreads: Goodreads – Twitter: @Marjorie_Mallon

Thanks for dropping in today – Sally



106 thoughts on “Smorgasbord Blog Magazine – Guest Post – I Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now! #Family #Travel #Writing by M.J. Mallon

  1. Thank you so much Sally. Fond memories of when my mum and dad were younger. Still doing ok but at 93, and 80 less energy than they used to have. Just back from spending time with them. Always special. Many thanks for this lovely post and for your wonderful review of my new poetry collection, much appreciated! ❤

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  2. Loved this so much. Thanks for sharing some of your colorful life here Marje. You certainly have such a wonderful and diverse background. No doubts, especially, back in the days, the racism and unacceptance of mixed marriage was not well tolerated. Good on your parents. They seem to have had such an interesting life. No doubts, giving you lots to write about. Hugs xox

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  3. Thank you so much Debby. Yes, they went against the norm and that is just wonderful. My parents are so fascinating! And both so lovely. Our house has always been a place of cultural stories! I admire and love them both deeply. x

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  4. I love your adventurous spirit, Marge. Your parents modeled a life that took in the world and you follow in their footsteps. How wonderful. Thank you, Sally, for inviting Marge to your site. I thoroughly enjoyed this post. ❤️

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  5. It’s great to learn more about you and your wonderful family, Marje. Fascinating. Oh, and my parents had a car like that when I was a child as well! Thanks once more, Sally, for such a wonderful series!

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  6. This was a wonderful visit with you, Marje. I imagine having all those experiences enriched your life immensely. I retired ten years ago and have yet to find time to do everything I want.. Thanks, Sally for hosting Marje today.

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  7. I can relate to being retired and having less time than when working full time! How does that work?
    I loved visiting Edinburgh. Which we did on many occasions as it was the home of the National Playbus Association.
    My husband worked for the association (working on Wheels -WOW), he would head of to the office and I would explore Edinburgh.
    This was an interesting read.
    Thank you for sharing

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  8. My adventurous aunt Vera was my inspiration to tell stories.
    My mum is more critical as my writing is fiction, stories that aren’t real.
    But I was always lucky to have aunts and parents full of stories and lives lived

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  9. Ah the bashes. I remember sitting next to Marje in Pizza Hut that first time. Such a star with the sort of backstory you’d imagine from someone who writes such twisty complex fantasy!!

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  10. Great post! The posts from this entire series are fascinating, Sally. I think they’re one of your best series. I’m sure others have noticed the resemblance of Marje’s facial features to her mother. I smiled at her comment about being busier than ever in retirement. I don’t know that I’m busier now because I spent an insane amount of time working, but there is never a day when I feel bored. The other thing my wife and I have found to be true, Marje, is that time does indeed seem like it goes faster. I’m also a big believer in living our lives out of our comfort zone because we feel best about ourselves when we overcome our fears.

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  11. A wonderful article, Marje – so interesting to learn about your parents, your childhood, and equally interesting adulthood. Getting out of my comfort zone is a work in progress for me. Toni x

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  12. Wow, just the sort of exotic childhood some of us would have fantasised about having; my parents came from the same Surrey suburb, in fact Dad and his best friend married two sisters. But while my aunt and uncle never left that suburb mum and dad took us out to Australia so they did leave their comfort zone. That was such an interesting post, thanks.

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    • Yes my husband’s parents never left Edinburgh. I talked to my MIL about it recently and she said she and James would never have done that. I believe David’s dad had lots of opportunities to go abroad but they stayed put in Scotland. There are always pluses and minuses in any decision but as long as the person is contented that is all that matters. My hubby has always been keen to uproot! Lol. But with little success during his working life.

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  13. Thank you, Marje, for a most enjoyable look at your life. Your parents were lucky to have you and you, they. We are lucky to have the fruits of your talented labors in book and blog form! Enjoy the rest of your adventurous life, as I am certain you will.

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  14. I love learning about people’s pasts. Your parents sound like amazing people, Marje and how lucky you are that they are still here to spend time with.

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  17. Hi Marje, it is lovely to learn a little more about your childhood and parents and to see all these lovely pictures. I also don’t participate in photo challenges much any more as my novel writing takes up most of my writing time. I do like to share posts about books I enjoy and insights into classic books I read. Thank you, Sally, for hosting Marje with this post.

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  18. I’m another who can’t understand why retirement is so busy! I loved this – both your parents were brave and adventurous and it’s lovely that they’re still enjoying life together now. Things must have been challenging for them but they rose to those challenges and it’s evident that you’ve inherited their adventurous spirit. Great review of The Hedge Witch and the Musical Poet! This series has been fascinating and I’ve loved every one of the posts. xx

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  20. Lovely post, Marje! Thank you, Sally, for sharing it. Your life sounds so fascinating, MJ, traveling all over the world. No wonder your writing shines so brightly. I wish you well in Portugal or wherever you land. I love Portugal and have traveled there twice. I have relatives who still live there and in Madeira too. Abbriggada, for sharing your story. Hugs to you both. Xx

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